Know When You’re About To Get Dumped

July 10, 2006 by NML

My pal Annie at Smart at Love has written another great post about why we fail to recognise that the relationship is over. There is rarely any such thing as out of the blue - there are always some signs; you may just choose to ignore them because the reality is too much to contemplate or you’ve rationalised the behaviour. Annie gives a great list of hints that you’re relationship may be on it’s way out which includes his refusal to talk about the future, suddenly spending a lot of time with his ex and being distant.

We all know the signs deep down, it’s just time we learnt to acknowledge them. We can bury our heads in the sand all we like but the outcome will be the same. Why do we want to be in relationships with people that don’t want to be in relationships with us?

There are all sorts of reasons why you think that a relationship may require your energy despite clear indicators that it’s at death’s door, but the quicker we accept that something is wrong and actually do something about it is the quicker you’re on your way to feeling better and having improved self esteem. There is no point in clinging to the dream when he’s not in it with you….

It’s also amazing that we’re very adept at spotting the signs in everyone else’s relationship other than our own…It’s best to learn how to spot the dustballs in our own relationship before we start cleaning up everyone else’s.

Read Why can’t you tell that you’re getting dumped in full by Annie Dennison Ph.D at Smart at Love