Men Don’t Like Valentine’s Day…Apparently
If you’re out tonight with your man and get the sense that he’s grimacing over your Valentine’s day ‘celebration’, it’s probably because he feels pressured from the high expectations that he feels he is getting from you, or at least that’s what you could believe if you pay attention to a recent independent survey that has been conducted by Teamdating.
They surveyed 500 single and 500 married men between 25-40 in Los Angeles and Orange County. It seems that most of the men think that expectations of what and how they should do on the big day has left a rather sour taste in their mouth. If the survey findings are to be believed, women are at the heart of the pressure.
Married Men Survey Results:
91% said it was their least favorite Holiday of their marriage due to the expectations of topping what they did the previous year
97% said that they plan what they are going to do the weekend before
94% said that any money spent on this day is a waste of money
72% said they plan on giving a gift certificate
And only 4% of the men said they feel that the Holiday is even intended for men
Single Men Survey Results:
97% said it was their least favorite Holiday of the year
99% said to them it’s just another day
86% said they will go out and try to find single girls that are out as well
89% could not remember what they did the year before
And a staggering 93% didn’t even know that it fell on February 14th every year
“Men feel that no matter what they do, it won’t be enough. Some try and take a creative approach with something out of the ordinary, but most fall back on the old reliable such as flowers and candy.
At the end of the day, I think the thing they are missing is that women mainly want to see that you put some effort into whatever you did. If you are going to get flowers, get them from a different florist so they are not a carbon copy of what you gave for their birthday or another recent event”, explained Teamdating.com Chief Dating Officer Ray Doustdar.
I’m sure that there are a lot of women who do get their knickers in a twist over Valentine’s day so it is easy to see where men may get these notions from, but I also believe that there are a lot of pretty level headed women out there that don’t. Remember also that us humans have a tendency to experience something with one person and assume every person there after feels the same way, hence if a guy has been with someone who put the pressure on, he may assume that every woman feels like that. Men can be kind of literal that way….
As Doustdar suggested above, effort, whether he made you breakfast in bed or took you out to dinner is key if the day means something to a woman. As women, we can help out the situation by not expecting him to guess how you feel about the day or what you expect, but we can also alleviate the pressure by keeping things in perspective. It’s a Hallmark day! Nobody likes to feel under duress and if you’re wondering why he thinks the fun has gone out of things, check in with yourself and make sure that it’s not down to you.
Read via About.com.
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