When I do step out of my safety zone, a lot of times it doesn’t work out as I had hoped. However, I am working hard to not let my self esteem fall and say to myself “I told you so. You are no good and shouldn’t have tried.”

I’m learning that it is much easier and positive to pat yourself on the back for staring your assumption in the face and challenging it. Just because something doesn’t work out – try to remember that “it just wasn’t meant to be” and move on to more positive thoughts and experiences.

The examples in this post are more geared towards assumptions made about an EUM having your best interests in mind.

However, other assumptions might be – “he would never be interested in me because he’s too good for me.” Or “That guy is such a bumbling fool, he’d be over the moon to have a shot with me.” In the first instance – you are probably selling yourself short and not giving yourself enough credit. In the second instance – unless you yourself are a bumbling fool – the guy probably won’t realize what a gold mine he’s walked into.

Here’s to stomping on self defeating patterns and moving forward with properly aimed optimism and hope!