Comments on: Mr Big and Carrie: The most famous Mr Unavailable and Fallback Girl of all time? http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/ Self Esteem|Dating|Relationships|Emotional Unavailability|Commitment| Sat, 11 Feb 2012 20:27:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Mike http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/comment-page-1/#comment-236771 Mike Fri, 31 Jul 2009 11:24:41 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/#comment-236771 Why didnt SATC give us a credible healthy ending for lovely little Carrie ? Gogeous Aiden was ''THE ONE !!!!'' Mr Big - Pig is soooooooo not attractive unless you are a codapendant or sex and love addict and then hello to '' Mr Unavailable '' What healthy woman would marry Mr Big .... ???? Carrie ???? com'on................................................. Why did they write this crap ? and futhermore why did i go and see it.grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr Shame on you SJP and shame on SATC for selling out . Why didnt SATC give us a credible healthy ending for lovely little Carrie ?
Gogeous Aiden was ”THE ONE !!!!”
Mr Big – Pig is soooooooo not attractive unless you are a codapendant or sex and love addict and then hello to ” Mr Unavailable ”
What healthy woman would marry Mr Big …. ????
Carrie ???? com’on………………………………………….
Why did they write this crap ? and futhermore why did i go and see it.grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
Shame on you SJP and shame on SATC for selling out .

]]> By: Mike http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/comment-page-1/#comment-236770 Mike Fri, 31 Jul 2009 11:20:37 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/#comment-236770 Why couldnt SATC give us a credible healthy ending for lovely little Carrie Gogeous Aiden was THE ONE !!!! Mr Big - Pig is soooooooo not attractive unless you are a codapendant and then hello to Mr Unavailable What healthy woman would marry Mr Big .... he is unavailable ,certainly not Carrie whose character has been credibly built over the whole 6 series ..... It was a crock and shame on SATC for selling out, all healthy women wanted her to get married to Aiden he was amazing ....why did they write this crap and futhermore why did i go and see it Shame on you SJP and shame on SATC Why couldnt SATC give us a credible healthy ending for lovely little Carrie
Gogeous Aiden was THE ONE !!!!
Mr Big – Pig is soooooooo not attractive unless you are a codapendant and then hello to Mr Unavailable
What healthy woman would marry Mr Big …. he is unavailable ,certainly not Carrie whose character has been credibly built over the whole 6 series …..
It was a crock and shame on SATC for selling out, all healthy women wanted her to get married to Aiden he was amazing ….why did they write this crap and futhermore why did i go and see it
Shame on you SJP and shame on SATC

]]> By: Mike http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/comment-page-1/#comment-236768 Mike Fri, 31 Jul 2009 11:16:22 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/#comment-236768 Aiden now theres a guy why could SATC give us a credible healthy ending for lovely little Carrie and Gogeous Aiden who could ask for anything more , Mr Big Pig not attractive not available Egotistic narssacistic who would marry Big , it was horseshit i hated Sarah Jessica Parker for agreeing on this ending , Aiden was the one , i will say it again Aiden was the one, dradful embrassing movie i hated it , why do they sell out, they should have kept in in the series form with the her marrying Aiden and all the others happy and content but living real life . Aiden now theres a guy why could SATC give us a credible healthy ending for lovely little Carrie and Gogeous Aiden who could ask for anything more , Mr Big Pig not attractive not available Egotistic narssacistic who would marry Big , it was horseshit i hated Sarah Jessica Parker for agreeing on this ending , Aiden was the one , i will say it again Aiden was the one, dradful embrassing movie i hated it , why do they sell out, they should have kept in in the series form with the her marrying Aiden and all the others happy and content but living real life .

]]> By: JustAGirl http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/comment-page-1/#comment-185348 JustAGirl Sun, 31 Aug 2008 18:50:00 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/#comment-185348 NML, I just discovered your blog today and I absolutely love it. I also love that you feel the exact way I did about the Sex and The City ending! I saw it with a bunch of girlfriends and they were crying happy tears and whatnot at the end, but I was pissed! I believe my exact words were 'how much shit does he get to do to her and still have everything be alright?'. I mean, he couldn't be bothered to even get his ass up out of the car? Ridiculous. I loved the Sex and The City series, and I enjoyed the movie a great deal, but that ending was b.s. I love your approach for looking deeper into the Mr. Unavailalble and Fallback Girl syndrome that was so clearly displayed here. NML, I just discovered your blog today and I absolutely love it.

I also love that you feel the exact way I did about the Sex and The City ending! I saw it with a bunch of girlfriends and they were crying happy tears and whatnot at the end, but I was pissed! I believe my exact words were ‘how much shit does he get to do to her and still have everything be alright?’. I mean, he couldn’t be bothered to even get his ass up out of the car? Ridiculous. I loved the Sex and The City series, and I enjoyed the movie a great deal, but that ending was b.s. I love your approach for looking deeper into the Mr. Unavailalble and Fallback Girl syndrome that was so clearly displayed here.

]]> By: Big http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/comment-page-1/#comment-170379 Big Mon, 14 Jul 2008 15:28:20 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/#comment-170379 Sure I have balls and all, I'm still gonna say it.. Women like emotionally unavailable men. It sends a message of independence, women like independent men. Was it a bad decision to marry him? It doesn't matter, women will do what they want in the end. If anything it sound like the movie has acted as a mirror for the bad decision we make with our lives. Cause if you diss Carrie, you diss yourself. Unrealistic? A woman getting hitched to the "wrong" man is unrealistic? Somebody better call that dude doing the divorce stats. Carrie might be all those things that you call her, she probably made the wrong decision. she probably did marry an assclown, she probably is unrealistic, she probably did go crazy over her wedding, and that just makes her a normal woman. Hind sight is 50/50 and I call everyone's individual dating history as evidence of people making the wrong decisions. Sure I have balls and all, I’m still gonna say it.. Women like emotionally unavailable men. It sends a message of independence, women like independent men.

Was it a bad decision to marry him? It doesn’t matter, women will do what they want in the end.

If anything it sound like the movie has acted as a mirror for the bad decision we make with our lives. Cause if you diss Carrie, you diss yourself.

Unrealistic? A woman getting hitched to the “wrong” man is unrealistic? Somebody better call that dude doing the divorce stats.

Carrie might be all those things that you call her, she probably made the wrong decision. she probably did marry an assclown, she probably is unrealistic, she probably did go crazy over her wedding, and that just makes her a normal woman.

Hind sight is 50/50 and I call everyone’s individual dating history as evidence of people making the wrong decisions.

]]> By: Susan http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/comment-page-1/#comment-169302 Susan Wed, 09 Jul 2008 20:28:33 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/#comment-169302 To "What" above if he or she ever reads this: I don't see anti-male sentiments here. I see anti-getting jerked around sentiments here. And yeah, it does happen a lot. It happens a lot in our culture and our world. When movies like SATC glorify it, it makes it really bad--that's where the anger is coming from. To “What” above if he or she ever reads this:
I don’t see anti-male sentiments here. I see anti-getting jerked around sentiments here. And yeah, it does happen a lot. It happens a lot in our culture and our world. When movies like SATC glorify it, it makes it really bad–that’s where the anger is coming from.

]]> By: Susan http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/comment-page-1/#comment-168894 Susan Tue, 08 Jul 2008 02:16:06 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/#comment-168894 Good for you, Annie! That took a lot of nerve, what you did, but was the right thing to do once you knew what the deal was. Really saw it. It is strange how "the wedding" can cause a shift and this is something that is rarely talked about it seems. Yeah, the film could have been very good and was just plain dead. My husband and I talked over a meal one night of all the things that could have happened that would have been really interesting (at least to us.) Both of us were totally bored. It's a poor showing for the women of America. I feel, though, that so many of us were set up because the writing on the series was good and the very different from the movie. If we'd known that a major regression was going to occur, many of us would have skipped the film. We wouldn't have added to it's "success." Good for you, Annie! That took a lot of nerve, what you did, but was the right thing to do once you knew what the deal was. Really saw it. It is strange how “the wedding” can cause a shift and this is something that is rarely talked about it seems.
Yeah, the film could have been very good and was just plain dead. My husband and I talked over a meal one night of all the things that could have happened that would have been really interesting (at least to us.) Both of us were totally bored. It’s a poor showing for the women of America. I feel, though, that so many of us were set up because the writing on the series was good and the very different from the movie. If we’d known that a major regression was going to occur, many of us would have skipped the film. We wouldn’t have added to it’s “success.”

]]> By: Annie http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/comment-page-1/#comment-168766 Annie Mon, 07 Jul 2008 13:52:49 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/#comment-168766 I too was shocked that Carrie married Mr Big. I myself married a Mr Big a few years ago and within a very short time (the honeymoon) realised I had made a terrible mistake. Despite the vows and his tears at the altar he was still completely emotionally unavailable and I had become his 'perfect corporate wife.' I had the courage to leave after 3 years. It was hell. But I know now and am gradually understanding what led me to unavailable men. That in itself is a voyage of discovery - painful but liberating. Whilst SATC isn't real life, it is about 4 cool empowered chicks. The film was a travesty. I too was shocked that Carrie married Mr Big.
I myself married a Mr Big a few years ago and within a very short time (the honeymoon) realised I had made a terrible mistake. Despite the vows and his tears at the altar he was still completely emotionally unavailable and I had become his ‘perfect corporate wife.’ I had the courage to leave after 3 years. It was hell. But I know now and am gradually understanding what led me to unavailable men. That in itself is a voyage of discovery – painful but liberating. Whilst SATC isn’t real life, it is about 4 cool empowered chicks. The film was a travesty.

]]> By: Susan http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/comment-page-1/#comment-168605 Susan Mon, 07 Jul 2008 01:40:47 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/#comment-168605 Agreed! Your article was great! I am a SATC fan and I almost walked out of the movie (for various reasons) but you're speaking here of Carrie and Mr. Big. One thing that hasn't been brought up is that Carrie (in Season 4 of the show--in The Vogue Idea) tells Julian (editor) that her father left her mother and her when Carrie was 5 years old and that to this day Carrie had no idea why he left. Then the writers just dropped this significant information. Carrie did write (in her column) "how much do father figures figure?) and after talking with Miranda, Carrie figured out not much. Carrie herself tells Miranda that Miranda is BOTH mother AND father to Miranda's unborn baby. No. Steve is the father. We clearly know that. Why the writers introduced this, I don't know because it was never followed up on and it was totally dismissed as having an impact on a girl child/adult woman (especially when there was no therapy around it to deal with the feelings.) IF the writers had played this part as they should, yeah, it makes perfect sense why Carrie would go for "Mr. Big"...how do fathers look to little 5 year old girls? Big. His disappearing acts would entice her also. Yet this was never brought up (except in one section of one episode of the series and then dismissed as unimportant--what bunk!) In the book Bushnell does NOT have Carrie and Big together. In fact, they make a conscious decision in the end to NOT be together and Carrie continues her single life. Yet, Bushnell in an interview, when asked about the movie's ending said she thought it was wonderful. Yeah, I guess so. An issue is brought up re: the wedding being so "big"...200 people is actually not all that big. If Big had such a problem with it, don't you think he would have said, NO, if you want to get married, we're not having that many people and that would have been it? Still it's not that many--don't care if it's his 3rd wedding. My brother had 600 people at his, and I had 900...and we are NOT Mr. Bigs or Ms. Bigs. We were in small towns where everyone knew each other and had facilities large enough. So, Big's whining about the number was stupid. If he didn't like it, he could EASILY have changed Carrie's mind at the start. Miranda's comment could have bothered him but was played up in a ridiculous manner. I always wondered why Carrie couldn't commit to Aidan when she clearly loved him...(this was before I saw the father abandonment episode)...knowing how genuine Aidan was and how much he loved her, sure, she wouldn't marry him. Only wanted someone who would use her. Including the writers. The writers, I think, used an abandoned, dysfunctional woman to catalog her "acting-out" for "our entertainment" (which makes me cold on the whole series and I disliked the movie anyway--was bored as hell.) I went with my husband and we said, where is the clever writing? This is horrible. It also was before either of us had seen the father-abandonment episode. How we missed that I have no idea. Once I saw that episode I was really turned off, especially when the writers had Carrie (and Miranda) dismiss father-abandonment as signficant in a girl's life. I thought, geez, these writers aren't even letting the characters do their thing...this whole enterprise (series and movie) was more contrived than we all thought. Using "abused" people and making it look as if they were "normative" women. Agreed! Your article was great! I am a SATC fan and I almost walked out of the movie (for various reasons) but you’re speaking here of Carrie and Mr. Big. One thing that hasn’t been brought up is that Carrie (in Season 4 of the show–in The Vogue Idea) tells Julian (editor) that her father left her mother and her when Carrie was 5 years old and that to this day Carrie had no idea why he left. Then the writers just dropped this significant information. Carrie did write (in her column) “how much do father figures figure?) and after talking with Miranda, Carrie figured out not much. Carrie herself tells Miranda that Miranda is BOTH mother AND father to Miranda’s unborn baby. No. Steve is the father. We clearly know that. Why the writers introduced this, I don’t know because it was never followed up on and it was totally dismissed as having an impact on a girl child/adult woman (especially when there was no therapy around it to deal with the feelings.) IF the writers had played this part as they should, yeah, it makes perfect sense why Carrie would go for “Mr. Big”…how do fathers look to little 5 year old girls? Big. His disappearing acts would entice her also. Yet this was never brought up (except in one section of one episode of the series and then dismissed as unimportant–what bunk!)
In the book Bushnell does NOT have Carrie and Big together. In fact, they make a conscious decision in the end to NOT be together and Carrie continues her single life. Yet, Bushnell in an interview, when asked about the movie’s ending said she thought it was wonderful. Yeah, I guess so.
An issue is brought up re: the wedding being so “big”…200 people is actually not all that big. If Big had such a problem with it, don’t you think he would have said, NO, if you want to get married, we’re not having that many people and that would have been it? Still it’s not that many–don’t care if it’s his 3rd wedding.
My brother had 600 people at his, and I had 900…and we are NOT Mr. Bigs or Ms. Bigs. We were in small towns where everyone knew each other and had facilities large enough. So, Big’s whining about the number was stupid. If he didn’t like it, he could EASILY have changed Carrie’s mind at the start. Miranda’s comment could have bothered him but was played up in a ridiculous manner.
I always wondered why Carrie couldn’t commit to Aidan when she clearly loved him…(this was before I saw the father abandonment episode)…knowing how genuine Aidan was and how much he loved her, sure, she wouldn’t marry him. Only wanted someone who would use her. Including the writers. The writers, I think, used an abandoned, dysfunctional woman to catalog her “acting-out” for “our entertainment” (which makes me cold on the whole series and I disliked the movie anyway–was bored as hell.) I went with my husband and we said, where is the clever writing? This is horrible. It also was before either of us had seen the father-abandonment episode. How we missed that I have no idea. Once I saw that episode I was really turned off, especially when the writers had Carrie (and Miranda) dismiss father-abandonment as signficant in a girl’s life. I thought, geez, these writers aren’t even letting the characters do their thing…this whole enterprise (series and movie) was more contrived than we all thought. Using “abused” people and making it look as if they were “normative” women.

]]> By: Christine http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/comment-page-1/#comment-168404 Christine Sun, 06 Jul 2008 10:49:40 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/#comment-168404 I think this is all non-sense you're talking about!!! I've been a Satc fan for quite a number of years, and still I believed from the very beginning that Carrie was going to end up with Big. And it's not just fiction. It's that weakness that most women have for the men they can't get,or get hold of. Be he an asshole who hurt her a lot over a period of ten years, but their on-and-off relationship felt most natural for both of them. And for the sake of that did they finally marry. I guess it must have been real love (whatever that is) or great compatibility,mixed with the fear of ending up alone and unhappy,as they are both coming of age, and one of Carrie's biggest fears had always been not finding her almost happy ending. I must say that I found all the drama and even the ending of the movie quite realistic for the genre. I don't know how many women would like their happy ending with Mr. Perfect, who treats them right and never makes them feel uncomfortable. We need more challenges, we need the low-downs and the extremely-high-ups. So don't blame me if I think that, even in reality,we prefer the assholes, because there's nothing that compares to the feeling of having tamed the emotionally unavailable beast. I think this is all non-sense you’re talking about!!! I’ve been a Satc fan for quite a number of years, and still I believed from the very beginning that Carrie was going to end up with Big. And it’s not just fiction. It’s that weakness that most women have for the men they can’t get,or get hold of. Be he an asshole who hurt her a lot over a period of ten years, but their on-and-off relationship felt most natural for both of them. And for the sake of that did they finally marry. I guess it must have been real love (whatever that is) or great compatibility,mixed with the fear of ending up alone and unhappy,as they are both coming of age, and one of Carrie’s biggest fears had always been not finding her almost happy ending.
I must say that I found all the drama and even the ending of the movie quite realistic for the genre. I don’t know how many women would like their happy ending with Mr. Perfect, who treats them right and never makes them feel uncomfortable. We need more challenges, we need the low-downs and the extremely-high-ups. So don’t blame me if I think that, even in reality,we prefer the assholes, because there’s nothing that compares to the feeling of having tamed the emotionally unavailable beast.

]]> By: Brad K. http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/comment-page-1/#comment-166265 Brad K. Sun, 29 Jun 2008 11:38:56 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/#comment-166265 @what: Fiction teaches us how people react and behave in artificial situations that the author contrives. The actors or characters might be fictitious, but we identify with them. In many ways, fiction is more personal than histories and science and instruction manuals and other non-fiction. Storytelling makes the story come alive - helps us "live" the story. Look at kiddie porn. Your government certainly believes that fiction affects people. SATC was titillating when it broadcast on TV - it let people experience provocative and steamy situations without actually risking their hearts or their friends or their families, etc. Many fans enjoyed reliving those times and those stories during the very successful reruns - when much of the coarser language had been cleaned up. Now the movie takes the prurient route of other TV shows gone Hollywood - and the movie falls into the trap of getting more blatantly sexual, just because they can. They figure they are screening out the little kids, so they tell a more 'adult' story. Only they missed the point that the fans enjoyed the characters, living through mistakes and moving on, enjoying the vicarious abuse and neglect of Mr. Big and other villains. The implied sex activity of the TV show was more satisfying, easier for the audience to imagine and understand, than merely showing skin. But that is a general movie review. This blog is Baggage Reclaim. The focus is women hurt by the Mr. Big's of the world. That single aspect of the movie is quite poignant and frustrating and appalling and so awfully obvious - at least it should have been, to a woman that had been through this wringer as many times as Carrie with Mr. Big. And it is quite expected that that aspect of the movie would be a rightful topic right here. It is a movie. Contrived. The story isn't real in any sense - except for the way that women do get messed around by the Mr. Bigs. And, here, the issues are personal. Because the situation is believable and outrageous and harmful, and all too common. It's just a movie. Only, here, the issue is not women's lib. The issue is healthy self-image, healthy relationships and family values, and behavior that hurts over and over. Perhaps you could have read a bit more of Baggage Reclaim, before taking umrage. Unless you worry that something you read here will affect your life. After all, it is only a website. @what: Fiction teaches us how people react and behave in artificial situations that the author contrives. The actors or characters might be fictitious, but we identify with them. In many ways, fiction is more personal than histories and science and instruction manuals and other non-fiction.

Storytelling makes the story come alive – helps us “live” the story.

Look at kiddie porn. Your government certainly believes that fiction affects people.

SATC was titillating when it broadcast on TV – it let people experience provocative and steamy situations without actually risking their hearts or their friends or their families, etc. Many fans enjoyed reliving those times and those stories during the very successful reruns – when much of the coarser language had been cleaned up.

Now the movie takes the prurient route of other TV shows gone Hollywood – and the movie falls into the trap of getting more blatantly sexual, just because they can. They figure they are screening out the little kids, so they tell a more ‘adult’ story. Only they missed the point that the fans enjoyed the characters, living through mistakes and moving on, enjoying the vicarious abuse and neglect of Mr. Big and other villains. The implied sex activity of the TV show was more satisfying, easier for the audience to imagine and understand, than merely showing skin.

But that is a general movie review. This blog is Baggage Reclaim. The focus is women hurt by the Mr. Big’s of the world. That single aspect of the movie is quite poignant and frustrating and appalling and so awfully obvious – at least it should have been, to a woman that had been through this wringer as many times as Carrie with Mr. Big. And it is quite expected that that aspect of the movie would be a rightful topic right here.

It is a movie. Contrived. The story isn’t real in any sense – except for the way that women do get messed around by the Mr. Bigs. And, here, the issues are personal. Because the situation is believable and outrageous and harmful, and all too common.

It’s just a movie. Only, here, the issue is not women’s lib. The issue is healthy self-image, healthy relationships and family values, and behavior that hurts over and over. Perhaps you could have read a bit more of Baggage Reclaim, before taking umrage. Unless you worry that something you read here will affect your life. After all, it is only a website.

]]> By: what http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/comment-page-1/#comment-166234 what Sun, 29 Jun 2008 07:16:36 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/#comment-166234 in fact...i am reading some more comments...why are you women all so pissed off? In general I notice this "anti-men" sentiment. ITS A MOVIE, get over it. (unless in real llife you all behave just as pathetic as carrie and thus, feel horribly guilty about it) in fact…i am reading some more comments…why are you women all so pissed off? In general I notice this “anti-men” sentiment. ITS A MOVIE, get over it. (unless in real llife you all behave just as pathetic as carrie and thus, feel horribly guilty about it)

]]> By: what http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/comment-page-1/#comment-166233 what Sun, 29 Jun 2008 07:13:41 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/#comment-166233 Dude who ever wrote this article is a psycho. It's a film, they didn't think that deep that it would piss off you fower power female empowerment women...okay?!?? Have you personally been jolted 10-15 times by the "Mr Bigs" of this world? If yes, fine, then you are the assclown who allows it. Don't hate the player, hate the game you nutcase. Dude who ever wrote this article is a psycho. It’s a film, they didn’t think that deep that it would piss off you fower power female empowerment women…okay?!??

Have you personally been jolted 10-15 times by the “Mr Bigs” of this world? If yes, fine, then you are the assclown who allows it.

Don’t hate the player, hate the game you nutcase.

]]> By: Brad K. http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/comment-page-1/#comment-165224 Brad K. Wed, 25 Jun 2008 15:49:11 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/#comment-165224 Loredana, I think each case of being left at the altar has to be looked at separately. Yes, sometimes one wakes up and decides the attraction isn't enough, that one agreed too readily to the wrong person. And rather than be honest and responsible, just disappear at the last moment. But often the wedding event and the the rituals around it raise questions that hadn't been answered. Questions about the partner, about one's self, about society, and life, and love. There are probably more reasons to call off a wedding than to proceed. And anger at a delay, a postponement, or a cancellation makes binding things back together tougher. My sister's fiance broke of their engagement a month or two before the wedding. My parents were furious at him for playing around, breaking his word, etc. Yada, yada. I figured Sis and the ex had to make their choices, and changing their minds early seemed more honest. I think their 34th anniversary is in two months. Loredana, I think each case of being left at the altar has to be looked at separately. Yes, sometimes one wakes up and decides the attraction isn’t enough, that one agreed too readily to the wrong person. And rather than be honest and responsible, just disappear at the last moment.

But often the wedding event and the the rituals around it raise questions that hadn’t been answered. Questions about the partner, about one’s self, about society, and life, and love. There are probably more reasons to call off a wedding than to proceed. And anger at a delay, a postponement, or a cancellation makes binding things back together tougher.

My sister’s fiance broke of their engagement a month or two before the wedding. My parents were furious at him for playing around, breaking his word, etc. Yada, yada. I figured Sis and the ex had to make their choices, and changing their minds early seemed more honest. I think their 34th anniversary is in two months.

]]> By: Loredana http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/comment-page-1/#comment-165144 Loredana Wed, 25 Jun 2008 11:03:19 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-big-and-carrie-the-most-famous-mr-unavailable-and-fallback-girl-of-all-time/#comment-165144 Oh, thank God!!!!!!!!!!! Someone said it! I will admit that I was the first person to clap when I heard that Big and Carrie were going to get married, long before the movie ever came out but I never imagned this!!!!!!!!!! I was all for the first wedding. I loved the wedding scene, the way Carrie reacted, the honeymoon was amazing (that scene of her in the bathroom is perhaps the best scene in the whole movie) but it slowley starts to go down hill from there ... Balming herself for him not showing up?!? That's the stupidest thing I have ever heard. If he didn't want to go through with it, he could have at least let her know days before the event not while she was waiting for him, all dressed up on the stairs ... And then to have her apologize to him?!? That just ruined everything for me. I love Big and Carrie, always have but the movie's ending managed to ruin that for me as well ... What she should have done was pick up the pieces and move on with her life ...The movie didn't have a feel good ending for me (especially since she took him back after six months in which the only thing he did was send her some emails!!!!!!! that's it?!?) And I get so annoyed when people say 'well he came back, they could have gotten married then.' I mean is this what these women would do? They'd marry the clown after he left them at the alter because he came back 5 minutes later saying: he's ready now! I'm sorry but that doesn't cut it. You're either ready from the beginning or just go away!!!!!!!!! And why does everything have to be done his way? Why the citty hall wedding which is so not Carrie? Why couldn't he just make the "huge" sacrifice to show up on his wedding day and get married knowing that it would make her happy. A man who truly loved he would have done that. Oh, thank God!!!!!!!!!!! Someone said it!

I will admit that I was the first person to clap when I heard that Big and Carrie were going to get married, long before the movie ever came out but I never imagned this!!!!!!!!!! I was all for the first wedding. I loved the wedding scene, the way Carrie reacted, the honeymoon was amazing (that scene of her in the bathroom is perhaps the best scene in the whole movie) but it slowley starts to go down hill from there … Balming herself for him not showing up?!? That’s the stupidest thing I have ever heard. If he didn’t want to go through with it, he could have at least let her know days before the event not while she was waiting for him, all dressed up on the stairs … And then to have her apologize to him?!? That just ruined everything for me. I love Big and Carrie, always have but the movie’s ending managed to ruin that for me as well … What she should have done was pick up the pieces and move on with her life …The movie didn’t have a feel good ending for me (especially since she took him back after six months in which the only thing he did was send her some emails!!!!!!! that’s it?!?)

And I get so annoyed when people say ‘well he came back, they could have gotten married then.’ I mean is this what these women would do? They’d marry the clown after he left them at the alter because he came back 5 minutes later saying: he’s ready now! I’m sorry but that doesn’t cut it. You’re either ready from the beginning or just go away!!!!!!!!! And why does everything have to be done his way? Why the citty hall wedding which is so not Carrie? Why couldn’t he just make the “huge” sacrifice to show up on his wedding day and get married knowing that it would make her happy. A man who truly loved he would have done that.

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