Mr Unavailable and The Fallback Girl Part One Launching and Competition
February 19, 2008 by NML
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It gives me great pleasure to announce that this Thursday I will be launching my first ever ebook! It’s now available to buy!I know that it has taken much longer than I anticipated but I have taken the decision to publish the book as an ebook trilogy in order to stop the wait! Thank you to all of you have been patient and the hundreds who registered by email!
What is it about? Mr Unavailable and The Fallback Girl is my guide to emotionally unavailable men and the women that love them. I am empowering women to get smart about their faux relationships with these men and gain real positive change so that they can find personal happiness, which in turn, will lead to better relationship opportunities.
Book One focuses on helping you understand who Mr Unavailable is, how he operates, what makes him tick, the types of situations you can find yourself in with him, why he is dangerous, and most importantly, how to spot and avoid him. It also gives an initial background to the Fallback Girl, emotional unavailability in general, and commitment-phobia.
Book Two focuses on YOU and why you have found yourself loving emotionally unavailable men. It explains how you go about engaging with Mr Unavailable, your booby traps, and the different types of women and the relationships that they create. Eg The Other Woman, The Yo Yo Girl, Miss Extreme Makeover Man Edition etc.
Why did I write it? Every month I come across thousands of women who are hungry for knowledge and advice on dealing with these men. Unfortunately most of us who love emotionally unavailable men believe that we are eager for commitment, but unfortunately our lack of self love, low self esteem and penchant for men with the emotional unavailability of a stone means that we are sabotaging any possibility of a truly committed relationship. Each day I get emails and comments from so many women asking for my help and try to help as many as possible through my posts and through direct contact with readers, but a book will put all of the information together in far more depth and help even more people. This book is for every woman who has been put through the wringer of a relationship with an emotionally unavailable assclown! I have been there, done that, worn the t-shirt!
To celebrate the launch of the ebook, I’m offering 15 copies - All you need to do is one of two things:
Either email mrunavailablecomp (at) baggagereclaim.co.uk (or you can put it in the comments box) with up to 150 words on how Baggage Reclaim or The Mr Unavailable Guide has helped you
Or Tell me in up to 150 words why you want to stop being involved with emotionally unavailable men.
Please include a name (surname not needed), age, and location (city or country) Competition is now closed but look out for more!
Thank you to everyone who reads my blogs and who writes in to me looking for advice and insights because you guys and my old bad taste in men made this book!
Back on Thursday with details on how to buy the ebook etc! Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl is now available to buy as an instant download. Find out more
NML x
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Hi - I’m 42 years old and live in the United
States. I’m so excited about the upcoming e-book! I check the Baggage Reclaim Blog daily.
Since my marriage of 14 years ended I’ve had relationships with 2 emotionally unavailable men. The first one lasted 9 months and the 2nd lasted 1.5 years. The 1st had moved on to someone else and still wanted to use me and take me for granted. The 2nd man ran hot and cold constantly and was the most narcissistic and selfish individual I’ve ever met - but his charm and good looks could knock you over and he knew how to use them.
This site, its contents and the responses from others helped me recognize both of these men for what they are and helped me finally come to my senses and end the games with these men. I’d been sucked in by them, pushed and pulled, and have been in no contact with EU#1 since the Fall and EU#2 for 2 months. My relationship with EU#2 was on/off for the last 5 months. I’d get sucked in again when he’d contact me because I wanted to hear what he had to say or I held out hope that he’d changed and I bought his lines. Know what? I don’t care what he has to say anymore, and I know he’ll never change! This site reminds me who he is and how stupid I would be to ever give him the time of day again.
I’m currently enjoying good quality time with a honorable and decent man so it doesn’t seem that I’m stuck with “bucks in ruts” forever (which is a relief) but I’m still a little leery and mindful of my own actions because I want to make sure I don’t do whatever I contributed to that and repeat the past.
I’m 38 years old and live in New York City. I’ve been reading this website for a year and it has really helped me to understand my pattern of falling for emotionally unavailable men (EUM).
I must quit falling for EUM because I want to experience love with an available man and start a family. I am so thankful that I finally faced reality.
Progress is slow. I haven’t dated an emotionally available man in years. However, recently I lost interest in an EUM. I recognized and processed the red flags! He is three years separated, just filed the divorce papers and says he’s emotionally over the failed marriage. His (in)actions tell a different story.
Previously, I would have tried to “win” this man’s love and my self-esteem would have taken a beating. Not this time. I understand that his “rejection” is not about me.
I’m determined to get there.
What a relief to find this site. I have just fallen in love with a man who clearly had issues but i did not realise just how many.
He spent four nights a week with me so it was a bit of a shock to discover that he spent the other three with his wife!! He had told me he lived alone after seperating 18 months earlier. Then i get a call from the wife and discover he is a compulsive liar and everything he told me, just about, was a lie.
Things got nasty between us but they are calmer now and the really dumb thing is… guess what… i want him back. He is trying to make his wife believe he is a reformed character despite the other women he messed about with before me. The difference was i got under his skin so much he talked to her about ending his marriage to be with me.
Do i move on or do i keep my distance for a while and get back in touch. In your experience does this have any chance of working out for me? Or am i just plain sick to even ask you?
Please help as i am wallowing in loss and misery.
Rachel xx
I read your stuff religiously and it has opened my eyes. I am a 50 year old professional woman who has been (WAS) involved with a controlling/ jealous married man for over 5 years. I am in week 4 of NCR. We met when I was still married and contemplating leaving. Well I left, he never did. Then I continued seeing him and other UEM trying to convince myself that it was for fun. I am the extreme of YO YO girl having gone back and forth every time I needed my ego boosted. What I traded away was my self esteem and the chance to have a real relationship with someone deserving. It will always be with me, but I will not forget the pain. I will need more support to continue my quest, and have found it here. I am so afraid that I will fall back again.
I am 50, live in upstate New York, and my name is Sharon.
Hey there,
Im very excited about your ebook.
But mainly because i know that you will provide so much value in it.
From your blog i can tell that you are helping so many people deal with these types of issues and i applaud you for that.
I’m still young 20 in fact .. and this blog and this book hopefully prevent me from falling into the traps of being with an unavailable man
Hot Alpha Female
http://www.hotalphafemale.blogspot.com
NML
I have been reading your blogs just about forever, its the place I come to when the pain gets too much for me to handle and my friends just do not understand what it is I am going through, YOU DO because you have been there and you know its not all black and white but a massive grey hole. I have your articles printed out by mybed ( I swear) and I read them especially the No Contact ones every night before I go to sleep and I am sure I could recite them. I have broken up since and found out that not only was this guy Mr. Emotionally Unavailable but while he kept telling me we were in a committed relationship he was sleeping with different women while keeping me around. I have been loyal and true to him and you know what I learnt to be true through the ages.
The truth does set you free. Yes I am hurt and have been thru immense pain but I my heart is light and I feel free.
Thanks NML for all that you do.
Hi ladies. You should all have just received an email with the first copies of the ebook! Congrats and thank you!