Comments on: Mr Unavailable and The Fallback Girl Part One Launching and Competition http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-unavailable-and-the-fallback-girl-part-one-launching-and-competition/ Self Esteem|Dating|Relationships|Emotional Unavailability|Commitment| Sat, 11 Feb 2012 20:27:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: NML http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-unavailable-and-the-fallback-girl-part-one-launching-and-competition/comment-page-1/#comment-130100 NML Thu, 21 Feb 2008 18:11:38 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-unavailable-and-the-fallback-girl-part-one-launching-and-competition/#comment-130100 Hi ladies. You should all have just received an email with the first copies of the ebook! Congrats and thank you! Hi ladies. You should all have just received an email with the first copies of the ebook! Congrats and thank you!

]]> By: Marie http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-unavailable-and-the-fallback-girl-part-one-launching-and-competition/comment-page-1/#comment-129768 Marie Thu, 21 Feb 2008 02:05:50 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-unavailable-and-the-fallback-girl-part-one-launching-and-competition/#comment-129768 NML I have been reading your blogs just about forever, its the place I come to when the pain gets too much for me to handle and my friends just do not understand what it is I am going through, YOU DO because you have been there and you know its not all black and white but a massive grey hole. I have your articles printed out by mybed ( I swear) and I read them especially the No Contact ones every night before I go to sleep and I am sure I could recite them. I have broken up since and found out that not only was this guy Mr. Emotionally Unavailable but while he kept telling me we were in a committed relationship he was sleeping with different women while keeping me around. I have been loyal and true to him and you know what I learnt to be true through the ages. The truth does set you free. Yes I am hurt and have been thru immense pain but I my heart is light and I feel free. Thanks NML for all that you do. NML
I have been reading your blogs just about forever, its the place I come to when the pain gets too much for me to handle and my friends just do not understand what it is I am going through, YOU DO because you have been there and you know its not all black and white but a massive grey hole. I have your articles printed out by mybed ( I swear) and I read them especially the No Contact ones every night before I go to sleep and I am sure I could recite them. I have broken up since and found out that not only was this guy Mr. Emotionally Unavailable but while he kept telling me we were in a committed relationship he was sleeping with different women while keeping me around. I have been loyal and true to him and you know what I learnt to be true through the ages.
The truth does set you free. Yes I am hurt and have been thru immense pain but I my heart is light and I feel free.
Thanks NML for all that you do.

]]> By: Hot Alpha Female http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-unavailable-and-the-fallback-girl-part-one-launching-and-competition/comment-page-1/#comment-129746 Hot Alpha Female Thu, 21 Feb 2008 01:23:27 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-unavailable-and-the-fallback-girl-part-one-launching-and-competition/#comment-129746 Hey there, Im very excited about your ebook. But mainly because i know that you will provide so much value in it. From your blog i can tell that you are helping so many people deal with these types of issues and i applaud you for that. I'm still young 20 in fact .. and this blog and this book hopefully prevent me from falling into the traps of being with an unavailable man Hot Alpha Female http://www.hotalphafemale.blogspot.com Hey there,
Im very excited about your ebook.

But mainly because i know that you will provide so much value in it.

From your blog i can tell that you are helping so many people deal with these types of issues and i applaud you for that.

I’m still young 20 in fact .. and this blog and this book hopefully prevent me from falling into the traps of being with an unavailable man

Hot Alpha Female

http://www.hotalphafemale.blogspot.com

]]> By: yoyo extreme http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-unavailable-and-the-fallback-girl-part-one-launching-and-competition/comment-page-1/#comment-129567 yoyo extreme Wed, 20 Feb 2008 18:17:39 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-unavailable-and-the-fallback-girl-part-one-launching-and-competition/#comment-129567 I am 50, live in upstate New York, and my name is Sharon. I am 50, live in upstate New York, and my name is Sharon.

]]> By: yoyo extreme http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-unavailable-and-the-fallback-girl-part-one-launching-and-competition/comment-page-1/#comment-129554 yoyo extreme Wed, 20 Feb 2008 18:00:44 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-unavailable-and-the-fallback-girl-part-one-launching-and-competition/#comment-129554 I read your stuff religiously and it has opened my eyes. I am a 50 year old professional woman who has been (WAS) involved with a controlling/ jealous married man for over 5 years. I am in week 4 of NCR. We met when I was still married and contemplating leaving. Well I left, he never did. Then I continued seeing him and other UEM trying to convince myself that it was for fun. I am the extreme of YO YO girl having gone back and forth every time I needed my ego boosted. What I traded away was my self esteem and the chance to have a real relationship with someone deserving. It will always be with me, but I will not forget the pain. I will need more support to continue my quest, and have found it here. I am so afraid that I will fall back again. I read your stuff religiously and it has opened my eyes. I am a 50 year old professional woman who has been (WAS) involved with a controlling/ jealous married man for over 5 years. I am in week 4 of NCR. We met when I was still married and contemplating leaving. Well I left, he never did. Then I continued seeing him and other UEM trying to convince myself that it was for fun. I am the extreme of YO YO girl having gone back and forth every time I needed my ego boosted. What I traded away was my self esteem and the chance to have a real relationship with someone deserving. It will always be with me, but I will not forget the pain. I will need more support to continue my quest, and have found it here. I am so afraid that I will fall back again.

]]> By: Rachel http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-unavailable-and-the-fallback-girl-part-one-launching-and-competition/comment-page-1/#comment-129393 Rachel Wed, 20 Feb 2008 11:38:44 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-unavailable-and-the-fallback-girl-part-one-launching-and-competition/#comment-129393 What a relief to find this site. I have just fallen in love with a man who clearly had issues but i did not realise just how many. He spent four nights a week with me so it was a bit of a shock to discover that he spent the other three with his wife!! He had told me he lived alone after seperating 18 months earlier. Then i get a call from the wife and discover he is a compulsive liar and everything he told me, just about, was a lie. Things got nasty between us but they are calmer now and the really dumb thing is... guess what... i want him back. He is trying to make his wife believe he is a reformed character despite the other women he messed about with before me. The difference was i got under his skin so much he talked to her about ending his marriage to be with me. Do i move on or do i keep my distance for a while and get back in touch. In your experience does this have any chance of working out for me? Or am i just plain sick to even ask you? Please help as i am wallowing in loss and misery. Rachel xx What a relief to find this site. I have just fallen in love with a man who clearly had issues but i did not realise just how many.

He spent four nights a week with me so it was a bit of a shock to discover that he spent the other three with his wife!! He had told me he lived alone after seperating 18 months earlier. Then i get a call from the wife and discover he is a compulsive liar and everything he told me, just about, was a lie.

Things got nasty between us but they are calmer now and the really dumb thing is… guess what… i want him back. He is trying to make his wife believe he is a reformed character despite the other women he messed about with before me. The difference was i got under his skin so much he talked to her about ending his marriage to be with me.

Do i move on or do i keep my distance for a while and get back in touch. In your experience does this have any chance of working out for me? Or am i just plain sick to even ask you?

Please help as i am wallowing in loss and misery.

Rachel xx

]]> By: Ashley http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-unavailable-and-the-fallback-girl-part-one-launching-and-competition/comment-page-1/#comment-129223 Ashley Wed, 20 Feb 2008 04:35:09 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-unavailable-and-the-fallback-girl-part-one-launching-and-competition/#comment-129223 I’m 38 years old and live in New York City. I've been reading this website for a year and it has really helped me to understand my pattern of falling for emotionally unavailable men (EUM). I must quit falling for EUM because I want to experience love with an available man and start a family. I am so thankful that I finally faced reality. Progress is slow. I haven't dated an emotionally available man in years. However, recently I lost interest in an EUM. I recognized and processed the red flags! He is three years separated, just filed the divorce papers and says he's emotionally over the failed marriage. His (in)actions tell a different story. Previously, I would have tried to “win” this man’s love and my self-esteem would have taken a beating. Not this time. I understand that his "rejection" is not about me. I’m determined to get there. I’m 38 years old and live in New York City. I’ve been reading this website for a year and it has really helped me to understand my pattern of falling for emotionally unavailable men (EUM).

I must quit falling for EUM because I want to experience love with an available man and start a family. I am so thankful that I finally faced reality.

Progress is slow. I haven’t dated an emotionally available man in years. However, recently I lost interest in an EUM. I recognized and processed the red flags! He is three years separated, just filed the divorce papers and says he’s emotionally over the failed marriage. His (in)actions tell a different story.

Previously, I would have tried to “win” this man’s love and my self-esteem would have taken a beating. Not this time. I understand that his “rejection” is not about me.

I’m determined to get there.

]]> By: Freja http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-unavailable-and-the-fallback-girl-part-one-launching-and-competition/comment-page-1/#comment-129183 Freja Wed, 20 Feb 2008 02:54:32 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mr-unavailable-and-the-fallback-girl-part-one-launching-and-competition/#comment-129183 Hi - I'm 42 years old and live in the United States. I'm so excited about the upcoming e-book! I check the Baggage Reclaim Blog daily. Since my marriage of 14 years ended I've had relationships with 2 emotionally unavailable men. The first one lasted 9 months and the 2nd lasted 1.5 years. The 1st had moved on to someone else and still wanted to use me and take me for granted. The 2nd man ran hot and cold constantly and was the most narcissistic and selfish individual I've ever met - but his charm and good looks could knock you over and he knew how to use them. This site, its contents and the responses from others helped me recognize both of these men for what they are and helped me finally come to my senses and end the games with these men. I'd been sucked in by them, pushed and pulled, and have been in no contact with EU#1 since the Fall and EU#2 for 2 months. My relationship with EU#2 was on/off for the last 5 months. I'd get sucked in again when he'd contact me because I wanted to hear what he had to say or I held out hope that he'd changed and I bought his lines. Know what? I don't care what he has to say anymore, and I know he'll never change! This site reminds me who he is and how stupid I would be to ever give him the time of day again. I'm currently enjoying good quality time with a honorable and decent man so it doesn't seem that I'm stuck with "bucks in ruts" forever (which is a relief) but I'm still a little leery and mindful of my own actions because I want to make sure I don't do whatever I contributed to that and repeat the past. Hi – I’m 42 years old and live in the United
States. I’m so excited about the upcoming e-book! I check the Baggage Reclaim Blog daily.

Since my marriage of 14 years ended I’ve had relationships with 2 emotionally unavailable men. The first one lasted 9 months and the 2nd lasted 1.5 years. The 1st had moved on to someone else and still wanted to use me and take me for granted. The 2nd man ran hot and cold constantly and was the most narcissistic and selfish individual I’ve ever met – but his charm and good looks could knock you over and he knew how to use them.

This site, its contents and the responses from others helped me recognize both of these men for what they are and helped me finally come to my senses and end the games with these men. I’d been sucked in by them, pushed and pulled, and have been in no contact with EU#1 since the Fall and EU#2 for 2 months. My relationship with EU#2 was on/off for the last 5 months. I’d get sucked in again when he’d contact me because I wanted to hear what he had to say or I held out hope that he’d changed and I bought his lines. Know what? I don’t care what he has to say anymore, and I know he’ll never change! This site reminds me who he is and how stupid I would be to ever give him the time of day again.

I’m currently enjoying good quality time with a honorable and decent man so it doesn’t seem that I’m stuck with “bucks in ruts” forever (which is a relief) but I’m still a little leery and mindful of my own actions because I want to make sure I don’t do whatever I contributed to that and repeat the past.

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