Get To Grips With Values & Value in Relationships

I have so many people say to me ‘But we have so much in common!’ while they list the hobbies and interests that they share, but if you don’t share common primary values (these are your fundamental core values), your relationship will flounder and fail no matter how much you both like bungee jumping, or high-brow books, or a shared love of Pavarotti or the arts. You may have a lot in common, but it’s not enough if you don’t have shared primary values. Period.

Values are about what you need in order to live your life authentically so that you can be happy and feel good. These are about your firmly held beliefs about what makes you a person of value and also what you see as valuable in others. They’re critically important to every relationship you have, and also to your sense of self, and they work in tandem with your boundaries.
Unfortunately many people don’t recognise the importance of values in relationships or believe that certain things that they value such as common interests, their appearance, the chemistry, connection, and passion are really important in a mate.

Get To Grips With…Values & Value in Relationships is a very detailed expansion on my recent blog post series on being valued and values in relationships. From explaining what values are, to separating out your primary and secondary values, to demonstrating how two people can appear to have a lot in common until you look at the issues and professed common ground and discover a disconnect, this dedicated guide is here to open your eyes to the real issues and the real opportunities so that you can get happy and stop feeling frustrated and bewildered by your choices.
I also explain why relationships don’t work, why appearance, attraction, chemistry, and passion are not enough, why you don’t get brownie points for abandoning your values, and how if you don’t understand who you are, your values, your beliefs, and goals, you’ll end up being out of step with yourself and finding that you are not only met with resistance, but you’re at conflict within you too.
The original series was just over 5K words and the ebook is over 27K words of inspiring and informative advice about how to be treated with value and ensure that you focus your energies on relationships with people who share your common values, and be aware of the impact of your actions on your values.

Who Am I? I (Natalie Lue also known as NML) am the founder of Baggage Reclaim which I use to help empower people so that they can have healthier relationships, both with themselves and out there in the crazy world of dating and relationships. With over 240K readers a month, through my blog posts, ebooks, and also working one-on-one with readers, I’ve used my experiences and my insight into the dynamics of modern day relationships to help people make positive change.

I’m not a psychologist or psych anything. I’m someone who used to have poor taste in men and thought I was having a run of bad luck until I got real with myself and recognised that I was the only common denominator in my relationships and that I had my own issues with commitment and emotional unavailability. That journey has been shared through my blogs and many men and women have used it to get real with themselves so that they can be accountable for their own choices.

If you are a blogger/media owner and would like to review the book for your publication, please email your details, including where the review will be appearing and roughly when you expect it to appear – natalie [at]baggagereclaim.co.uk