Comments on: New Year, New Decade: How will you be taking care of you? How will you approach love & relationships? http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/ Self Esteem|Dating|Relationships|Emotional Unavailability|Commitment| Sat, 11 Feb 2012 20:27:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Gina http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-251824 Gina Sun, 10 Jan 2010 22:15:50 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/#comment-251824 I discovered this site on Chirstmas :) this was the best Christmas present I ever gave myself... or rather you gave me NML. Bless you! So here we go, this new year to me wil be: New thoughts -> new actions -> new habits -> new behaviours...new me... This new me will not include any assclown who was, or rather, was not, in my life up until end 2009. mm mm feels good to be free.... I discovered this site on Chirstmas :) this was the best Christmas present I ever gave myself… or rather you gave me NML. Bless you!

So here we go, this new year to me wil be:
New thoughts -> new actions -> new habits -> new behaviours…new me…

This new me will not include any assclown who was, or rather, was not, in my life up until end 2009.

mm mm feels good to be free….

]]> By: Siv http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-251814 Siv Sun, 10 Jan 2010 11:52:00 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/#comment-251814 It is a New Year. And now I am seeing that so much of what we expect to receive from them, is what we need to expect of ourselves first. Even after we were long over, I have been trying so long to be a friend to someone who does not have the ability to do the same, whose idea of effort is incomparably small, and yet who clings to me the second I distance myself. Nevertheless I continue to expect him to step up and care about me - not only because he has often emptily promised that he does, but because I myself have been afraid to step up and care about myself. The idea that my worth is dependent on his actions, well let's do some math: his actions are empty words, unmotivated actions, desperate attempts to make it right, immediately following ambivalent reactions....so let's calculate all that into my supposed personal worth. Ouch. Well, writing it and reading it make the whole situation come into focus - it's simply unhealthy. And kudos to him, for whittling down my sense of reality. But instead of blame, I just feel sorry for him. I can't call him anything bad, because he is the victim. Although this one time he got me to think and act this disillusioned way, this is his permanent view of how to lead his relationships. And that is sad - I can honestly say I wish for him that one day he will know what love is. I do, unlike him I was very lucky to learn it from my mom and dad. And I know that I have the best chances to heal, move on, and find it. With Extreme Gratitude To You, NML. It is a New Year. And now I am seeing that so much of what we expect to receive from them, is what we need to expect of ourselves first.

Even after we were long over, I have been trying so long to be a friend to someone who does not have the ability to do the same, whose idea of effort is incomparably small, and yet who clings to me the second I distance myself. Nevertheless I continue to expect him to step up and care about me – not only because he has often emptily promised that he does, but because I myself have been afraid to step up and care about myself. The idea that my worth is dependent on his actions, well let’s do some math: his actions are empty words, unmotivated actions, desperate attempts to make it right, immediately following ambivalent reactions….so let’s calculate all that into my supposed personal worth. Ouch. Well, writing it and reading it make the whole situation come into focus – it’s simply unhealthy.

And kudos to him, for whittling down my sense of reality. But instead of blame, I just feel sorry for him. I can’t call him anything bad, because he is the victim. Although this one time he got me to think and act this disillusioned way, this is his permanent view of how to lead his relationships. And that is sad – I can honestly say I wish for him that one day he will know what love is. I do, unlike him I was very lucky to learn it from my mom and dad. And I know that I have the best chances to heal, move on, and find it. With Extreme Gratitude To You, NML.

]]> By: sharlena sharlena http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-251668 sharlena sharlena Mon, 04 Jan 2010 18:27:25 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/#comment-251668 number three really hits home. its hard sometimes to decipher reality from fantasy. you get so caught up with the good parts of someone you overlook all the bad or all the red flags when it is staring you in the face. i am learning more and more it is better to live up to my expectations then my imaginary ones. my new years resolution is going to be focusing on myself. number three really hits home.
its hard sometimes to decipher reality from fantasy. you get so caught up with the good parts of someone you overlook all the bad or all the red flags when it is staring you in the face. i am learning more and more it is better to live up to my expectations then my imaginary ones. my new years resolution is going to be focusing on myself.

]]> By: oldchris http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-251632 oldchris Sun, 03 Jan 2010 16:38:01 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/#comment-251632 I discovered this website in March 2009, as I was having "trouble" with a man, unbeknown to my unenlightened self, a classic EUM. Nine months down the road, with my epiphany relationship behind me and relationship free, I realise that my ex husband and subsequent three relationships, since my divorce, had all been with EUMs. I initiated the NC rule in April 2009, downloaded Mr Unavailable and the Fall Back Girl, and have never looked back! NC was difficult, but when I realised I was using relationships to fill a lonely gap in my life, and my fear of being alone, I knew I had to change....fast! While there may not be many available men of my age around, and understanding that a lot of them can pick and chose and act like assclowns, this lady is making a stand against them all. I've had dates with two of them in the last few months. The first waved his big red flag (married!) on the first and only date, and couldn't understand why I would not be happy with the third rate situation he was offering me. The second man demanded sex on the 2nd and 3rd dates. Well he didn't get it,(sex!) and his insensitive reply was "Oh, don't you like sex then?" A classic EUM reply if I ever heard one! This is the first Christmas and New Year holiday without a man in my life for over 35 years, and it's been the best one I have ever had. I've had a great time with my family and close friends and have accepted all invitations without having to worry if the latest EUM was going to include me in his Christmas plans, or get drunk or moan about what I wanted to do etc etc etc. Ladies, it's tough, there's no getting away from that, but keep believing in yourselves. All those EUMs out there need to get the message loud and clear that we value and respect ourselves, and we don't need them and their s****y behaviour messing up our lives! The very best to all of you for 2010, and stay strong! I discovered this website in March 2009, as I was having “trouble” with a man, unbeknown to my unenlightened self, a classic EUM. Nine months down the road, with my epiphany relationship behind me and relationship free, I realise that my ex husband and subsequent three relationships, since my divorce, had all been with EUMs. I initiated the NC rule in April 2009, downloaded Mr Unavailable and the Fall Back Girl, and have never looked back! NC was difficult, but when I realised I was using relationships to fill a lonely gap in my life, and my fear of being alone, I knew I had to change….fast! While there may not be many available men of my age around, and understanding that a lot of them can pick and chose and act like assclowns, this lady is making a stand against them all. I’ve had dates with two of them in the last few months. The first waved his big red flag (married!) on the first and only date, and couldn’t understand why I would not be happy with the third rate situation he was offering me. The second man demanded sex on the 2nd and 3rd dates. Well he didn’t get it,(sex!) and his insensitive reply was “Oh, don’t you like sex then?” A classic EUM reply if I ever heard one!
This is the first Christmas and New Year holiday without a man in my life for over 35 years, and it’s been the best one I have ever had. I’ve had a great time with my family and close friends and have accepted all invitations without having to worry if the latest EUM was going to include me in his Christmas plans, or get drunk or moan about what I wanted to do etc etc etc.
Ladies, it’s tough, there’s no getting away from that, but keep believing in yourselves. All those EUMs out there need to get the message loud and clear that we value and respect ourselves, and we don’t need them and their s****y behaviour messing up our lives!
The very best to all of you for 2010, and stay strong!

]]> By: L Forrest http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-251519 L Forrest Fri, 01 Jan 2010 00:01:43 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/#comment-251519 I, too, just discovered this blog. I have been TOW for 5 years... I cringe to write that. This week we were going to see the movie "It's Complicated".. our first public date in...5 years.. I burn to write that. It's good to see in print all the things i've been telling myself... for years. I thought about how much I wanted to go see that movie with him...and that was my moment. How pitiful that little crumb was. Although i've had several attempts, reading this blog and comments allows me to forgive myself..and just like New Years... start again. Forgive, understand...move forward... good luck everyone..and thanks I, too, just discovered this blog. I have been TOW for 5 years… I cringe to write that. This week we were going to see the movie “It’s Complicated”.. our first public date in…5 years.. I burn to write that. It’s good to see in print all the things i’ve been telling myself… for years. I thought about how much I wanted to go see that movie with him…and that was my moment. How pitiful that little crumb was. Although i’ve had several attempts, reading this blog and comments allows me to forgive myself..and just like New Years… start again. Forgive, understand…move forward… good luck everyone..and thanks

]]> By: LadyDB http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-251518 LadyDB Thu, 31 Dec 2009 23:18:36 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/#comment-251518 I am truly greatful for finding this site several weeks ago and have read many articles and post that reaffrimed so many of the life lessons I learned over the years. My most recent moving on moment came early this month. I had reconnected with a high school friend at a class reunion two years ago. We had one date and he was totally truthful about who he is. A confirmed bachelor, with many women over the past years and offered a "Friends with Benefits" arrangement which I promptly declined, however we agreed to remain friends. He wasn't currently in a relationship. Things went well, we shared some good times, laughs, hugs and thoughtful caring phone and email conversations catching up on old times. He was having a hard time reading me, but I had been honest from the start. Then about six months ago I started feeling like it was the beginning of the end. He started suggesting that we give each other a try and I almost fell for it. I was feeling some power and control tactics, because I called him on some of the games he was starting to play. He was beginning not to be able to live up to the friendship committments he made to me. I think he realized that he had met his match in me. I also realized I was spending far to much of my time and engery on a friendship Instead of keeping my self open and available to meeting other available men. I probably have my own committment fears. I painfully but kindly had to detach in a loving way. So I am wishing all the ladies and my self a Happy Moving on for the New Year and being open to the Best is yet to Come!!! I am truly greatful for finding this site several weeks ago and have read many articles and post that reaffrimed so many of the life lessons I learned over the years. My most recent moving on moment came early this month. I had reconnected with a high school friend at a class reunion two years ago. We had one date and he was totally truthful about who he is. A confirmed bachelor, with many women over the past years and offered a “Friends with Benefits” arrangement which I promptly declined, however we agreed to remain friends. He wasn’t currently in a relationship. Things went well, we shared some good times, laughs, hugs and thoughtful caring phone and email conversations catching up on old times. He was having a hard time reading me, but I had been honest from the start. Then about six months ago I started feeling like it was the beginning of the end. He started suggesting that we give each other a try and I almost fell for it. I was feeling some power and control tactics, because I called him on some of the games he was starting to play. He was beginning not to be able to live up to the friendship committments he made to me. I think he realized that he had met his match in me. I also realized I was spending far to much of my time and engery on a friendship Instead of keeping my self open and available to meeting other available men. I probably have my own committment fears. I painfully but kindly had to detach in a loving way.

So I am wishing all the ladies and my self a Happy Moving on for the New Year and being open to the Best is yet to Come!!!

]]> By: aphrogirl http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-251516 aphrogirl Thu, 31 Dec 2009 22:52:09 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/#comment-251516 amen to tending to our own hearts and I will add these goals of mine... focus some basic attention your body and looks, make yourself healthy foods, give up the unhealthiest of addictions you may have, get outside in the fresh air more, dance and sing more. Best wishes to all who hope and work towards a more beautiful life for themselves, for I believe that knowing and loving the beauty and joy within ourselves is truly how we project much needed joy and beauty into the world...or somethin like that ! : - )) xoxoxo amen to tending to our own hearts and I will add these goals of mine… focus some basic attention your body and looks, make yourself healthy foods, give up the unhealthiest of addictions you may have, get outside in the fresh air more, dance and sing more.

Best wishes to all who hope and work towards a more beautiful life for themselves, for I believe that knowing and loving the beauty and joy within ourselves is truly how we project much needed joy and beauty into the world…or somethin like that ! : – )) xoxoxo

]]> By: flygirl http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-251509 flygirl Thu, 31 Dec 2009 16:59:38 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/#comment-251509 "Because of abandonment issues, I cling to commitment-phobes, the hardest to get to “love” you because if they did, I’d have validation from the trickiest of prey that I was WANTED"-well said A19! I think we are drawn to that which we know we can't have...we thrive on the challenge of striving for someone's approval that will never give over, and lap up the crumbs they throw our way. I said to a friend last night in the throes of tears, "I feel so lonely. No one needs me anymore...my kids are grown, I moved out of my house, my dog is even gone. I feel completely detached". Then I laid down in my bed, closed my eyes and suddenly saw a picture of Me needing Me. I NEED MYSELF!! I need to tend to my heart the way I've tended to others. Wow, what a revelation to see it from that angle. Take all the energy, time, love, validation, accomodation that I've poured into others, and turn it back to me. The only way to turn the tide is to love ourselves, thereby diminshing the "demand"/tolerance for EUM behaviour. When we collectively say "Enough!" and no one will have them anymore they'll be forced to glance in the mirror and decide maybe they'd better have a look inside. This isn't man-hating, it's about holding out for the love you will eventually come to know you deserve. Here's to fresh starts and learning to tend our own hearts first! Happy 2010, Sweet Sisters!! “Because of abandonment issues, I cling to commitment-phobes, the hardest to get to “love” you because if they did, I’d have validation from the trickiest of prey that I was WANTED”-well said A19!

I think we are drawn to that which we know we can’t have…we thrive on the challenge of striving for someone’s approval that will never give over, and lap up the crumbs they throw our way.

I said to a friend last night in the throes of tears, “I feel so lonely. No one needs me anymore…my kids are grown, I moved out of my house, my dog is even gone. I feel completely detached”. Then I laid down in my bed, closed my eyes and suddenly saw a picture of Me needing Me. I NEED MYSELF!! I need to tend to my heart the way I’ve tended to others. Wow, what a revelation to see it from that angle. Take all the energy, time, love, validation, accomodation that I’ve poured into others, and turn it back to me.

The only way to turn the tide is to love ourselves, thereby diminshing the “demand”/tolerance for EUM behaviour. When we collectively say “Enough!” and no one will have them anymore they’ll be forced to glance in the mirror and decide maybe they’d better have a look inside. This isn’t man-hating, it’s about holding out for the love you will eventually come to know you deserve.

Here’s to fresh starts and learning to tend our own hearts first!

Happy 2010, Sweet Sisters!!

]]> By: Jezzy http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-251508 Jezzy Thu, 31 Dec 2009 16:16:45 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/#comment-251508 Happy New Year The only twinge of regret I feel now is for her(the one he chose to be with) after all the time and emotion I wasted on him...he;s her problem now, and I feel sorry of what she is going to go through, him blowing hot/cold...non-communication all of it. She is going to waste an untold amount of time and emotion on him She's happy and in love now, but knowing what I know about him, she's just in for a world of hurt and misery. I can only hope one day she finds this blog and it does for her what it did for me. Happy New Year

The only twinge of regret I feel now is for her(the one he chose to be with) after all the time and emotion I wasted on him…he;s her problem now, and I feel sorry of what she is going to go through, him blowing hot/cold…non-communication all of it. She is going to waste an untold amount of time and emotion on him She’s happy and in love now, but knowing what I know about him, she’s just in for a world of hurt and misery.
I can only hope one day she finds this blog and it does for her what it did for me.

]]> By: phoenix http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-251507 phoenix Thu, 31 Dec 2009 15:21:00 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/#comment-251507 This website has been a real eye opener and life saver for me. I have been with the lowest form of Assclown for the last four years. I have been drained, confused and at one point on the edge of suicide. As a strong intelligent women i didn't realise just how much i had lost myself and my self esteem. Over the last month i have realised just how damaging the relationship the relationship i have been in for the last four years. Today about an hour ago i have finally done it. I have told him to get the rest of my things from my house and bugger off and don't contact me anymore. Yes it's news years eve and I my old self would of wanted to have an evening with him where we get on....... but it's all fake. The gut wrenching feeling in my stomach is going, the feeling like i am selling myself short is disappearing, my confused mind is calming. That's just after an hour. I am going to go for no contact. I have had enough of making excuses for this idiot. The man is a compulsive liar and he has the audacity to accuse me of cheating on him. More than likely transferring his actions on me. I suppose he believes i will tolerate this crap because it's New Years eve, but there is never a right time to ditch an Assclown, except when the penny drops i doesn't matter what bliddy day it is. Dignity and self respect should be an every day occurrence. I have read so many articles on here and have really took everything in. I feel so much better but this is one Assclown that i know will not leave me alone. At present he has moved back to his mother, he is 47 years old, no commitments, no bills to pay with a control freak mother who blows smoke up his arse. What i expect now the rose coloured specs are in the bin is psychopathic behaviour from him that worries me. It is definitely an enough moment for me. I will still be going out tonight and celebrating this year and everything i have learned. Hopefully this year will be a year of no confusion, lies and bad treatment. Thank you all here, and have a fab new year. xxx This website has been a real eye opener and life saver for me. I have been with the lowest form of Assclown for the last four years. I have been drained, confused and at one point on the edge of suicide. As a strong intelligent women i didn’t realise just how much i had lost myself and my self esteem.

Over the last month i have realised just how damaging the relationship the relationship i have been in for the last four years. Today about an hour ago i have finally done it. I have told him to get the rest of my things from my house and bugger off and don’t contact me anymore. Yes it’s news years eve and I my old self would of wanted to have an evening with him where we get on……. but it’s all fake.

The gut wrenching feeling in my stomach is going, the feeling like i am selling myself short is disappearing, my confused mind is calming. That’s just after an hour. I am going to go for no contact. I have had enough of making excuses for this idiot. The man is a compulsive liar and he has the audacity to accuse me of cheating on him. More than likely transferring his actions on me. I suppose he believes i will tolerate this crap because it’s New Years eve, but there is never a right time to ditch an Assclown, except when the penny drops i doesn’t matter what bliddy day it is. Dignity and self respect should be an every day occurrence.

I have read so many articles on here and have really took everything in. I feel so much better but this is one Assclown that i know will not leave me alone. At present he has moved back to his mother, he is 47 years old, no commitments, no bills to pay with a control freak mother who blows smoke up his arse.

What i expect now the rose coloured specs are in the bin is psychopathic behaviour from him that worries me. It is definitely an enough moment for me.

I will still be going out tonight and celebrating this year and everything i have learned. Hopefully this year will be a year of no confusion, lies and bad treatment.

Thank you all here, and have a fab new year.

xxx

]]> By: BettyBoo http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-251506 BettyBoo Thu, 31 Dec 2009 13:24:41 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/#comment-251506 Thanks NML. Happy New Year to everyone :-) xxx Thanks NML.

Happy New Year to everyone :-)

xxx

]]> By: de-lightedtobefree http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-251504 de-lightedtobefree Thu, 31 Dec 2009 10:52:14 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/#comment-251504 Happy happy New year to all of us :) xx and hugs De Happy happy New year to all of us :)

xx and hugs

De

]]> By: Naaz http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-251500 Naaz Thu, 31 Dec 2009 04:25:51 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/#comment-251500 66 dayz of NC, I am working on self love and shuting up that voice in my head that create illusion with him. I am not replacing his thoughts with someone who does not exist. Working on myself to feel that love for me that i never felt before. I am kinda excited about the thought. Good luck to me and all the beautiful ladies who have been on painful path of love,where i came from best of luck to all of you and Happy new year! Thanks NML! 66 dayz of NC, I am working on self love and shuting up that voice in my head that create illusion with him. I am not replacing his thoughts with someone who does not exist. Working on myself to feel that love for me that i never felt before. I am kinda excited about the thought. Good luck to me and all the beautiful ladies who have been on painful path of love,where i came from best of luck to all of you and Happy new year!
Thanks NML!

]]> By: chrisb http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-251497 chrisb Thu, 31 Dec 2009 01:28:35 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/#comment-251497 Trinity - I agree .... it's the wasted years that suck the most. Only I never before realised I was wasting them. Too busy trying to change myself, make them happy and please others too. Lately I've been hit by a (somewhat obvious) new idea .. shouldn't these people have been trying to make me happy (at least as much as I was trying to do for them) ! I have a daughter - 9 years - whose boundries I protect and whose right to be an individual I constanly stick up for. I have to learn now how I can do that same thing for myself. Currently I have one tight focus - making it past new year with NC intact and then 2010 is for me and my daughter Good luck all Chris Trinity – I agree …. it’s the wasted years that suck the most. Only I never before realised I was wasting them. Too busy trying to change myself, make them happy and please others too.

Lately I’ve been hit by a (somewhat obvious) new idea .. shouldn’t these people have been trying to make me happy (at least as much as I was trying to do for them) !

I have a daughter – 9 years – whose boundries I protect and whose right to be an individual I constanly stick up for. I have to learn now how I can do that same thing for myself.

Currently I have one tight focus – making it past new year with NC intact and then 2010 is for me and my daughter

Good luck all

Chris

]]> By: Sophia http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-251495 Sophia Thu, 31 Dec 2009 00:20:15 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/new-year-new-decade-how-will-you-be-taking-care-of-you-how-will-you-approach-love-relationships/#comment-251495 Thank you for this website. It has been an eye-opener and an inspiration. My New Year's resolution is to to delete all emails I have received from the EUM. My wise daughter thinks I'm still holding on by keeping the emails. I told her I just want to be reminded of how poorly he treated me, by re-reading the nasty ones. She says I need to go cold-turkey. I have blocked his emails, as of yesterday, and 6 phone numbers. I think I'm doing pretty good. I didn't block him from my email before yesterday because of the holiday season, as he claimed he was so distraught about us breaking up (I ended it after 3 1/2 yrs. of hell). Too long to go into, but I finally have come to my senses. I know I have to do NO CONTACT and I will do it. Happy New Year to all you wonderful people on this site. Thank you for this website. It has been an eye-opener and an inspiration.
My New Year’s resolution is to to delete all emails I have received from the EUM. My wise daughter thinks I’m still holding on by keeping the emails. I told her I just want to be reminded of how poorly he treated me, by re-reading the nasty ones. She says I need to go cold-turkey. I have blocked his emails, as of yesterday, and 6 phone numbers. I think I’m doing pretty good. I didn’t block him from my email before yesterday because of the holiday season, as he claimed he was so distraught about us breaking up (I ended it after 3 1/2 yrs. of hell).
Too long to go into, but I finally have come to my senses.
I know I have to do NO CONTACT and I will do it.
Happy New Year to all you wonderful people on this site.

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