Oops! I Said ‘I Love You’ in Bed

October 24, 2006 by Vixen

guy kissing his semi naked girl in bed I know there are a few women that can relate to the following story. You are in the middle of a hot and heavy sack session with your guy and caught up in the moment. Somewhere in between nirvana and ecstasy, you run out of things to say and slip out the L-word before you can catch yourself. You inwardly cringe, knowing that you haven’t said it before and wonder if it was loud enough that he heard it. So what’s a girl going to do?

First of all, even though you want to die of embarrassment on the spot, don’t take it that seriously. Most guys have heard it before in the boudoir, and will take it in stride and just pretend like nothing happened. They will usually chalk it up to the fact that they are so amazing in bed (that huge male ego;) and not make a fuss of it.

Although you might want to use the opportunity to poke and prod as to his feelings, resist the urge to do this. It was a spontaneous expression in the heat of the moment, and asking him for a similar response is just asking him to lie to your face if he doesn’t feel the same way. If he feels it, he will say it. If he doesn’t say it back, just let it go. He’ll say it when he is ready to and not a moment before.

If he does say something to you later, you have two options—either you confess that you love him, or that you love the sex. The status of your relationship will determine the option you take. You could play it off, telling him that you meant to say, “I love it when you do this,” but couldn’t get the words out. Or you could just come clean and let him know that you were serious—you really do love him and take it from there.
Either way, this is an Oops moment that is totally fixable. Just be sure that the next time, you stick to appropriate sex talk/sounds instead.

Vixen is deputy editor of Baggage Reclaim and has more great advice on her blog The Bad Girls Guide.