Comments on: Reader Question: How do I know if I’m overestimating myself? http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reader-question-how-do-i-know-if-im-overestimating-myself/ Self Esteem|Dating|Relationships|Emotional Unavailability|Commitment| Sat, 11 Feb 2012 16:33:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Tulipa http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reader-question-how-do-i-know-if-im-overestimating-myself/comment-page-1/#comment-187415 Tulipa Sun, 07 Sep 2008 05:34:00 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/?p=1219#comment-187415 OUCH and so true... OUCH and so true…

]]> By: ivyowl http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reader-question-how-do-i-know-if-im-overestimating-myself/comment-page-1/#comment-187013 ivyowl Fri, 05 Sep 2008 22:34:00 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/?p=1219#comment-187013 Steve left me for someone who has all the superficical qualities I lack. She is a glamor girl with a great job and 250 pairs of shoes in her tastefully decorated home. She spends an hour in the morning making up a face that has been under the knife zillons of times. She is a 10 because of all the stuff she does to herself and she wears all these expensive clothes. I know this is why he left me for her. I know this because Steve is a superficial person himself. He is very shallow. He as much as told me he was leaving me partly because my butt was not big enough. I guess what I am saying is I found someone to reject me over the same things I reject myself for..and that is not having any superficical qualites. I suspose this is the reverse of overestimating yourself. It seems everyone overestimates the importance of the superficial stuff. This is not how it normally is. Most guys I date were superficical but didn't reject me like Steve did because I met their standards. Ths doesn't mean they weren't just as superficical and unavailable as Steve though. In the end I always realized these guys who claimed to love me never really knew me. They getting to know me at the outside. So shallow. All of them Steve left me for someone who has all the superficical qualities I lack. She is a glamor girl with a great job and 250 pairs of shoes in her tastefully decorated home. She spends an hour in the morning making up a face that has been under the knife zillons of times. She is a 10 because of all the stuff she does to herself and she wears all these expensive clothes.

I know this is why he left me for her. I know this because Steve is a superficial person himself. He is very shallow. He as much as told me he was leaving me partly because my butt was not big enough.

I guess what I am saying is I found someone to reject me over the same things I reject myself for..and that is not having any superficical qualites.

I suspose this is the reverse of overestimating yourself. It seems everyone overestimates the importance of the superficial stuff.

This is not how it normally is. Most guys I date were superficical but didn’t reject me like Steve did because I met their standards. Ths doesn’t mean they weren’t just as superficical and unavailable as Steve though.

In the end I always realized these guys who claimed to love me never really knew me. They getting to know me at the outside. So shallow. All of them

]]> By: Loving Annie http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reader-question-how-do-i-know-if-im-overestimating-myself/comment-page-1/#comment-186970 Loving Annie Fri, 05 Sep 2008 19:33:43 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/?p=1219#comment-186970 ouch. i have done this so many times... wow - talk about being in the dark... I hope all of this is making me humbler and more aware for next time... It's funny how much work it really is to learn how to love myself, to genuinely have solid self-esteem and be a good person, regardless of 'things' or 'accomplisments'... I realize that all the years I spent obsessing/grieving/staying stuck over one EUM or the other was really just a way to not work on improving myself. Thanks again NML :) ouch. i have done this so many times… wow – talk about being in the dark… I hope all of this is making me humbler and more aware for next time…

It’s funny how much work it really is to learn how to love myself, to genuinely have solid self-esteem and be a good person, regardless of ‘things’ or ‘accomplisments’…
I realize that all the years I spent obsessing/grieving/staying stuck over one EUM or the other was really just a way to not work on improving myself.

Thanks again NML :)

]]> By: NML http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reader-question-how-do-i-know-if-im-overestimating-myself/comment-page-1/#comment-186939 NML Fri, 05 Sep 2008 18:04:40 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/?p=1219#comment-186939 Thank you! Thank you!

]]> By: Blaise Parker http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reader-question-how-do-i-know-if-im-overestimating-myself/comment-page-1/#comment-186936 Blaise Parker Fri, 05 Sep 2008 18:00:00 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/?p=1219#comment-186936 NML, accomplished is misspelled. Otherwise, great post. As per usual. NML, accomplished is misspelled.

Otherwise, great post. As per usual.

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