Comments on: Relationship Advice: Am I right not to go back to my flip flapping divorcee? http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/relationship-advice-am-i-right-not-to-go-back-to-my-flip-flapping-divorcee/ Self Esteem|Dating|Relationships|Emotional Unavailability|Commitment| Sat, 11 Feb 2012 20:27:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: lisaq http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/relationship-advice-am-i-right-not-to-go-back-to-my-flip-flapping-divorcee/comment-page-1/#comment-192158 lisaq Tue, 07 Oct 2008 10:18:13 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/?p=1319#comment-192158 I agree. He'll never commit to you. Time to pick up the pieces, heal, and start worrying about you and your future...without the assclown. I agree. He’ll never commit to you. Time to pick up the pieces, heal, and start worrying about you and your future…without the assclown.

]]> By: Brad K. http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/relationship-advice-am-i-right-not-to-go-back-to-my-flip-flapping-divorcee/comment-page-1/#comment-192064 Brad K. Tue, 07 Oct 2008 01:06:18 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/?p=1319#comment-192064 Penny, I don't see that you are ready for anything long term. You have settled for dating this guy for five years - why would you think you actually want that to change? If you had been ready for marriage or a mate, you would not have picked, or stayed with, a guy committed somewhere else. That aside, this guy has been seeing a woman (you) willing to commit adultery (for him) for four and a half years. Does that sound like a good choice for a life mate to you? For either of you? This seems like a ripe mess. He needs time to learn who he is, now, and decide what he wants. And you have to understand why you wanted a cheater in the first place, and why you broke things off when he talked about marriage in the future. It seems neither of you are in a good place to contemplate a future joined with a partner, yet. Penny, I don’t see that you are ready for anything long term. You have settled for dating this guy for five years – why would you think you actually want that to change? If you had been ready for marriage or a mate, you would not have picked, or stayed with, a guy committed somewhere else.

That aside, this guy has been seeing a woman (you) willing to commit adultery (for him) for four and a half years. Does that sound like a good choice for a life mate to you? For either of you?

This seems like a ripe mess. He needs time to learn who he is, now, and decide what he wants. And you have to understand why you wanted a cheater in the first place, and why you broke things off when he talked about marriage in the future. It seems neither of you are in a good place to contemplate a future joined with a partner, yet.

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