xxx De

I remember a man in business telling me that if you want to drive another person crazy……you ignore them. No Contact is really the only way to deal with these emotional terrorists. It is sad commentary on the course of loving the wrong person. Just look at the life of Princess Diana.

For the sake of your family, children, firiends, and women in general….fly free of the EUM….he is a war zone!

Sure enough, that was on his mind, as proven with his question to you. So you know what he is thinking, at least on thath level.

He is a TOTAL a**hole. If he only just called you recently about the Hawaii trip: first, I hate to break it to you, but his original plans probably fell through, and that is why he is calling you, now, to go to Hawaii; and, second, he is probaby thinking of using the trip itself to get you into bed.

Be thankful for his telling you, his great love, that he saw TWO women when you had first started seeing each other. Though you weren’t necessarily exclusive, he didn’t HAVE to tell you. He just (conveniently) wants to get it off his chest. But that also acts as a warning to you–of not to get involved!

I think you shoudl have told him that you were, “of course, darling!” seeing other people, especially as you saw that he left you and things were basically “ended” between you.

This guys sounds tooooo mixed up. And, guess what, the other two women didn’t want to put up with it, either! That is why hopefully he will be all alone on Christmas!

Oh, I forgot: poor poooooooor little him doesn’t want to be elone for Christmas! He is thinking to himself, “Why be alone? Kirsten told me she is not seeing anyone. She is probably free. And here I am, witha ll this vacation time I haven’t used up.” (–yes, and maybe even an unused ticket for another woman who just backed off from the trip!)

He is a jerk also for talking about how he wants to fall in love in the first place. Falling in love is an organic thing: you shoudn’t talk about it or try to make it happen. Sounds like his trying to fall lin love is part of how he justifies his poor behavior to others. Though he may think that he will get attached to someone eventually–and, yes, this may make what he says somewhat sincere–he shoudn’t be dangling THAT carrot and making statements like that when seeing three women at a time!

TOTAL jerk. And retard. STAY AWAY! But, before completely cutting contact, tell him you are seeing someone right now, and that your accepting any calls/contact/etc. from the EUM woudn’t be fair to your current guy.

If the calls and contact come streaming in, block them. THAT is what this jerk deserves!

Give him the power to demean and devalue you and your needs in favour of him getting what he wants..uummm NO!!

MY love, your love… is for the person that shows me/us they deserve it, anything less is less than I or you deserve.

Merry Christmas!

This guy offers nothing, plus he was fooling around when you were together. Bad news!

We have maintained a ‘friendship’ for the past 2 years after splitting up amicably. This ‘friendship’ has worked its way into calls every day, meeting up once/twice a week for dinner/drinks, being each other’s confidante, sometimes falling into bed…so basically when I just read that back to myself its a relationship without any strings (I’m not proud of this ‘creation’ I’ve allowed, believe me). I’ve managed this ‘friendship’ and it has worked to my own advantage as well as his so in many ways I feel less obliged to be complaining ladies. However I think time has finally caught up with me and has bitten me wholeheartedly in the bum cheeks!

This weekend I’m certain I’ve seen the true colours of the ar*ewipe he can be and what I’ve been ignoring/waving away and now I don’t know what to do. We spoke yesterday and he proceeded to tell me all about his Sat night – the women was the main conversation (one comment of many that sticks is ‘nice, huge boobies’, I mean ‘attractive’ that any man refers to them as that, lol). I admit I did kind of react to it and I know I shouldn’t of done. If the boot was on the other foot, he’d have not been very happy with me though I’ve never spoken to him about things involving myself and men anyway. (I had a relationship with a man earlier in the year of which he was aware of but I was so certain to not discuss it with him particularly).

The reason we split up was because I want a child (eventually) and he already has children. We talked seriously about our future -initally he wanted everything – marriage, house, more children, I was the best thing to happen to him yada yada. He eventually admitted that he wasn’t sure he wanted any more children and he felt he had to tell me because he knew that eventually I did. I would always consider and compromise on lots of things but this one thing I wasn’t prepared to. Even if I never have children it would be through choice and not someone telling me it wouldn’t happen. We decided to part. We didn’t fall out of love with each other, no one else was involved, but that just seemed to make moving on that much harder.

That was two years ago and he’s never allowed me time to actually ‘get over him’. I initiated NC, he caved and I guess so did I by responding to him. I guess now I’m still at square one, going sideways and not forward. He has now decided that he would quite like to settle down/marry and perhaps have another child. Honestly talk about slap you in the face with a wet fish!

I cried yesterday which hasn’t happened in a long time. I know this whole situation is at my own creation. I pride myself on always being there for others, listening, being kind and unselfish, ensuring I’m a bloody good friend, I’d do anything for anyone – I feel that has been violated. I really don’t want to sound like a ‘victim’, definitely not my intention for writing – I’ve lots in my life which is good and positive. i just think I’ve lost my way a bit..

Any advice/ideas for sorting my life out once and for all would be greatly received xx