Signs That She Won’t Sleep With You
January 4, 2006 by Vixen
Sometimes a guy…bless his little heart, can’t get it through his head that she is just not that into him. Even though you have given him a red or yellow light, he still continues in
his dogged pursuit of getting some booty. I know it might be hard for him to believe, and a severe blow to his massive ego, but not every single woman on God’s green earth wants to knock boots with him the minute she sees him. There could be a multitude of reasons why she isn’t interested in having sex with him, however, the basic signs are all the same.
Your best bet would be to find out why she doesn’t want to sleep with you, and take your cues from that. Pressuring her, making snarky comments about blue balls, and criticising her aren’t going to help you at all. She will sleep with you when she is ready…or not at all.
Here are some signs to tell that she is most probably NOT interested and you should go sow your oats elsewhere.
1. She never sees you during the evenings. If she is interested in sleeping with you, Miss Hot Stuff will provide the opportunity. So, if you find yourself seeing her only in broad daylight, with her driving her car to meet you someplace, chances are,
she isn’t feeling like sleeping with you.
2. You have never seen the inside of her apartment: Another case of opportunity being denied. If she doesn’t invite you up, or let you in past her foyer, chances are she won’t sleep with you.
3. She always stops you from getting to 3rd or 4th base. If she always breaks the physical connection first, she probably wasn’t going to sleep with you. It could be with a divine interruption of her cell phone, her getting up and straightening her clothes, asking if you would like a glass of water…these are all distractions to dissuade you from your quest. Take the cues and move on from there.
4. She hasn’t introduced you to any of her friends, or mentioned you to them. We love to brag and show off our man to our girls, so if they don’t even know you, you are most probably her little secret. When she wants to sleep with you…her friends will most definitely know before you do.
5. She keeps telling you that she doesn’t. Don’t think that a strong red light will change because of your nagging. If she tells you that she doesn’t want to sleep with you…she doesn’t! You would be better facing your energies finding out why she doesn’t want to sleep with you, than trying to coerce her to change her mind.
6. She tells you she is a virgin. There is a reason she is still a virgin at 25 bucko! She is probably very adept by this time at fending off unwanted advances. You might
argue that she is lying (and she might be), but either way…she doesn’t want to sleep with you. You should respect that and back off, versus you dog-headedly trying to get in her pants. This will only annoy her and cause her to cut you out completely.
7. She doesn’t initiate intimacies. You might argue that your babe is shy, however, if you find that you are the only one constantly initiating physical encounters, she probably doesn’t really want to sleep with you and is only going with the flow for a moment. Trust me, if she wants some, she will send you one of those flirty signals that we women do, squeeze your bum or just lean in for a kiss. Communication is your best bet in this hazy cloudy zone. I know that it might be hard for you to think with your Northern brain, but you really must in this instance. Miss Hot Stuff isn’t sleeping with you until she is good and ready, so focus your energies on showing her that you are worth the time, instead of using your time to show her your penis.
Class dismissed.
Vixen is Deputy Editor for Baggage Reclaim. Visit her blog Bad Girls Guide
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how about a guy who isn’t interested in sex? I live with my boyfriend and we have sex probably once a month. I offer oral sex to him because I enjoy it, but, he will literally push my head away! not sleeping with anyone else, he just says he has no dsire for sex..he is overweight and embarassed (at least he says he’s embarassed) and doesn’t feel good about himself..but honestly, what guy is content with having sex once a month? He says it’s not me, it’s him and how he feels about himself…I don’t know
That is sad penny. Hope you moved on.