Singing Your Way to Emotional Unavailability
July 16, 2008 by NML
Throughout the entire time that I have been writing my new ebook Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl, my guide to emotionally unavailable men and the very reliable women that love them, I have been listening to a hell of a lot of songs and I realised that many of the songs that I love are about trying to get men that don’t want to be got, and saying that you’re better than the woman because you can love him better.
I even noticed that on my recent post about how Mr Unavailable blows hot and cold on women, only to turn the tables on you and turn YOU into ‘The Pursuer’, readers started putting songs on like ‘Shadowboxer to your phone’ by Fiona Apple and Duffy’s ‘Stepping Stone’ suggested by FinallyOverIt, BBP suggests a timeless favourite by Patsy Cline, ‘Crazy’ and I have seen many others suggested on the forum.
Here are some of my all time favourite songs…can you see a theme, other than the fact that Mary J Blige is the queen of Fallback Girl songs as well as R&B….?
Not Gon’ Cry - Mary J Blige (The Flogger Fallback Girl)
“While all the time that I was loving you
You were busy loving yourself
I would stop breathing if you told me to
Now your busy loving someone else”
No Happy Holidays by Mary J Blige (The Other Woman Fallback Girl)
“Christmas you weren’t with me, New Year’s Eve you were not around
Valentine’s came and went, Makes me wonder where your time was spent
Fireworks on the Fourth of July, Thanksgiving was another lie
Your family has never met me, And you’ve never met mine, no happy holiday”
I Can Love You (Better than she can) by Mary J Blige and Lil Kim - The Yo Yo Girl
“Wondering why you don’t love me, The way that I love you”
She Can’t Love You by Destiny’s Child - Yo Yo Girl, The Other Woman
“I saw your new girlfriend the other day, And I expected for her to be so much more than she was
I checked out her style, the way she smiled, The way she moved, the things she said
The way she looked at me like, “I got yo’ man”, She can’t love you like I can
Her awful love just cant compare to what I have, She can’t touch you like I do
‘Cause when she touch you, you pretend it’s me and you, There’s no way her love’s as good as mine
There’s no reason for you to waste your time”
Others include:
Underappreciated by Chrstina Aguilera
Superwoman by Karen White
I Can Change by John Legend
Willing and Waiting by Mary J Blige
Life Story by Angie Stone
Same Script, Different Cast by Whitney Houston (perfect for The Other Woman and The Yo You Girl)
If you want a journey through emotional unavailability, listen to Mary J Blige. I listened to pretty much every single album one day from the beginning to the end and there is a Fallback Girl that has grown.
I know that writing songs is about your own experiences, although I find it quite questionable that Destiny’s Child had that experience as they were barely tipping 20 when that song came out, but is losing a man, trying to take him off someone else, or waiting for him to change and return what most women have to sing about?! Well I guess we’re not looking for happy songs and at least they’re relatable, because let’s face it, there’s a hell of a lot of waiting, heartbroken, confused, underappreciated women out there.
But in the meantime, I want to know what your song is - Your thoughts?
And whilst we’re on the subject, what’s your feel good song for moving past him?
NML is the founder of Baggage Reclaim and has just published her new ebook Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl, which dissects emotionally unavailable men and the women that love him. Find out more.
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Ok, I’ll be the first to post on this one! Great article, NML! Music has been a big part of my healing process from my ex-EUM. Of course, Duffy’s “Stepping Stone” is my latest theme song, and second would be Fiona’s “Shadow Boxer”. But….my “moving on” song is “I Ain’t Settling” by Sugarland (country!). The main verse is,
“I ain’t settling for just getting by,
I’ve had enough ’so so’ for the rest of my life,
tired of shootin’ too low, gonna raise the bar high,
I ain’t settling for anything less than everything.”
Pretty much says it all for me!
NML - my all time fav song has always been Dreams. I never even realized what the lyrics meant until this year. My moving on song is “Movin’ On” by Rascall Flatts. Look at the 1st verse below. Also check out on lyrics.com “Take A Bow” by Rhianna
DREAMS by Stevie Nicks
Now here you go again
You say you want your freedom
Well who am I to keep you down
Its only right that you should
Play the way you feel it
But listen carefully to the sound
Of your loneliness
Like a heartbeat.. drives you mad
In the stillness of remembering what you had
And what you lost…
Thunder only happens when its raining
Players only love you when they’re playing
Say… women… they will come and they will go
When the rain washes you clean… you’ll know
MOVIN’ ON by Rascall Flatts
I’ve dealt with my ghosts and I’ve faced all my demons
Finally content with a past I regret
I’ve found you find strength in your moments of weakness
For once I’m at peace with myself
I have been burdened with blame, trapped in the past for too long
I’m movin’ on
Thx for all you do NML! Healing for me has been a slow process & painful but your insight & website have been instrumental to my progress of “movin on”.
:o)
My latest break-up songs are both by Eminem. The fact that my ex EUM didn’t like hip-hop definetely played a role in this selection!
1) For the break-up and beginning of NC: Rock Bottom. Somehow, having begged and lost all self-esteem and sitting on you’re hands not to dial his number doesn’t sound like such a big deal after you’ve repeated the following lyrics a good ten times:
“That’s Rock Bottom
When this life makes you mad enough to kill
That’s Rock Bottom
When you want something bad enough you’ll steal
That’s Rock Bottom
When you feel you have had it up to here
Cause you mad enough to scream but you sad enough to tear”
2) For the stage just after: “Just don’t give a f*ck” (he says it at least 15 times in one song!) and “Still don’t give a f*ck”. Both very good for auto-persuasion that it’s time to move on and you couldn’t care less about losing that guy
“To everytime I reminisce
Yo! I miss my past
But I still dont give a f*ck Y’all can kiss my *ss!”
I really appreciate this post because music has played a significant role in my acknowledging (and changing) unhealthy relationship patterns.
The song that says it all for me…
“Almost Lover” by A Fine Frenzy
I cannot go to the ocean, I cannot walk the streets at night
I cannot wake up in the morning without you on my mind
So you’re gone and I’m haunted, and I bet you are just fine
Do I make it that easy for you to walk right in and out of my life?
My feel good song is “Hit me with your best shot” by Pat Benatar
You come on with a come on, you dont fight fair
But thats o.k., see if I care!
Knock me down, its all in vain
Ill get right back on my feet again!
Regarding the assclown: “My Favorite Mistake” Sheryl Crow
Getting/Being Over it: “I’m Still Standing” Elton John
Seeing as how I’m that girl that’s always betting on potential, I have to go with Colbie Caillat’s “Realize.”
Chorus:
If you just realize what I just realized,
Then we’d be perfect for each other
and will never find another
Just realized what I just realized
we’d never have to wonder if
we missed out on each other now.
The best break up song ever? Taylor Swift “Just Another Picture to Burn”
Verse 1:
State the obvious,
I didn’t get my perfect fantasy
I realized you love yourself
More that you could ever love me
So go and tell your friends
That I’m obsessive and crazy,
That’s fine
I’ll tell mine
You’re gay,
And by the way,
Chorus:
I hate that stupid old pickup truck,
You never let me drive
You’re a redneck, heartbreak
Who’s really been a lie
So watch me strike a match
On all my wasted time
As far as I’m concerned,
You’re just another picture to burn.
Gotta love that and, yeah, it’s the ringtone on my phone for a couple of people!
Precious Things by Tori Amos
So I ran faster
But it caught me here
Yes my loyalties turned
Like my ankle
In the seventh grade
Running after billy
Running after the rain
These precious things
Let them bleed
Let them wash away
These precious things
Let them break their hold over me
He said youre really an ugly girl
But I like the way you play
And I died
But I thanked him
Can you believe that
Sick sick
Holding on to his picture
Dressing up every day
I wanna smash the faces
Of those beautiful boys
Those christian boys
So you can make me cum
That doesnt make you jesus
These precious things
Let them bleed
Let them wash away
These precious things
Let them break their hold over me
I remember
Yes in my peach party dress
No one dared
No one cared
To tell me where the pretty girls are
Those demigods
With their nine-inch nails and little fascist panties tucked inside the heart of every nice girl
These precious things
Let them bleed
Let them wash away
These precious things
Let them break
Let them wash away
These these precious things
Let them bleed now
Let them wash away
These these precious things
Let them break their hold over me
Precious …
Precious …
Almost Doesn’t Count - Brandy
Almost made you love me
Almost made you cry
Almost made you happy, baby
Didn’t I didn’t I
You almost had me thinkin’
You were turned around
But everybody knows
Almost doesn’t count
Almost heard you saying
You were finally free
What was always missing for you, baby
You’d found it in me
But you can’t get to heaven
Half off the ground
Everybody knows
Almost doesn’t count
I can’t keep on lovin’ you
One foot outside the door
I hear a funny hesitation
Of a heart that’s never really sure
Can’t keep on tryin’
If you’re looking for more
Than all that I could give you, than what you came here for
Gonna find me somebody
Not afraid to let go
Want a no-doubt-be-there kinda man
You came real close
But everytime you built me up
You only let me down
And everybody knows
Almost doesn’t count
Maybe you’ll be sorry
Maybe you’ll be cold
Maybe you’ll come runnin’ back, baby
From the cruel cruel world
Almost convinced me
You’re gonna stick around
But everybody knows
Almost doesn’t count
So maybe I’ll be here
Maybe I’ll see ya around
That’s the way it goes
Almost doesn’t count
Song for moving past him? JoDee Messina, “Bye Bye”
“Don’t think all these tears are gonna hold me here like they’ve done before
You’ll find what’s left of us in a cloud of dust on Highway 4
Baby, what did you expect me to do?
Just sit around and wait on you?
Well, I’m through watching you just skate around the truth,
I know it sounds trite - I’ve seen the light
Bye bye, love, I’ll catch you later
Got a lead foot down on my accelerator
And the rearview mirror torn off
‘Cause I ain’t never looking back
And that’s a fact.
I’ve tried all I can imagine
I’ve begged and pleaded in true lover’s fashion,
I’ve got pride, I’m taking it for a ride.
Bye bye, bye bye my baby, bye bye
“Parting Gift” - Fiona Apple
I opened my eyes
While you were kissing me once more than once
And you looked as sincere as a dog
Just as sincere as a dog does,
When it’s the food on your lips with which it’s in love
I bet you could never tell
That I knew you didn’t know me that well
It is my fault you see
You never learned that much from me
Oh you silly stupid pastime of mine
You were always good for a rhyme
And from the first, to the last time, the signs
Said ‘Stop’ - but we went on whole-hearted
It ended bad, but I love what we started
It said ‘Stop’ - but we went on whole-hearted
It ended bad, but I love what we started
I took off my glasses
While you were yelling at me once more than once
So as not to see you see me react
Should’ve put ‘em, should’ve put ‘em on again
So I could see you see me sincerely yelling back
I bet your fortressed face
Belied your fort of lace
It is by the grace of me
You never learned what I could see
Oh you silly stupid pastime of mine
You were always good for a rhyme
And from the first to all the last times, all the signs
Said ‘Stop’ - but we went on whole-hearted
It ended bad, but I love what we started
It said ‘Stop’ - but we went on whole-hearted
It ended bad, but I love what we started
Surrendering
you were full and fully capable
you were self sufficient and needless
your house was fully decorated in that sense
you were taken with me to a point
a case of careful what you wish for
but what you knew was enough to begin
and so you called and courted fiercely
so you reached out, entirely fearless
and yet you knew of reservation and how it serves
and I salute you for your courage
and I applaud your perseverance
and I embrace you for your faith in the face of adversarial forces
that I represent
so you were in but not entirely
you were up for this but not totally
you knew how arms length-ing can maintain doubt
and so you fell and you’re intact
so you dove in and you’re still breathing
so you jumped and you’re still flying if not shocked
and I support you in your trusting
and I commend you for your wisdom
and I’m amazed by your surrender in the face of threatening forces
that I represent
you found creative ways to distance
you hid away from much through humor
your choice of armor was your intellect
and so you felt and you’re still here
and so you died and you’re still standing
and so you softened and you’re still safely in command
self protection was in times of true danger
your best defense to mistrust and be wary
surrendering a feat of unequalled measure
and I’m thrilled to let you in
overjoyed to be let in in kind
Sade - Is It a Crime?
This may come
this may come as some surprise
but I miss you.
I could see through all of your lies
but still I miss you.
He takes her love
but it doesn’t feel like mine
He tastes her kiss
her kisses are not wine
they’re not mine.
He takes
but surely she can’t give what I’m feeling now.
She takes
but surely she doesn’t know how.
Is it a crime? Is it a crime that I still want you?
And I want you to want me
too.
My love is wider
wider than Victoria Lake.
My love is taller
taller than the Empire State.
It dives and it jumps and it ripples like the deepest ocean.
I can’t give you more than that
surely you want me back.
Is it a crime? Is it a crime that I still want you?
And I want you to want me
too.
My love is wider than Victoria Lake
taller than the Empire State.
It dives and it jumps
I can’t give you more than that
surely you want me back.
Is it a crime? Is it a crime that I still want you?
And I want you to want me
too.
It dives
it jumps and it ripples like the deepest ocean.
I can’t give you more than that
surely you want it back.
Tell me
is it a crime?
Breaking up with an EU
Reina- “No one’s gonna change you”
From the day we met
I knew you were the one
who stole my heart and ran with love
Now here you are
making me cry inside
no longer will I be a prisoner of your love
You, listen to me
I’m speakng my mind
I’m not gonna let you keep wasting my time
As hard as it is
As much as I’ll cry
I want you to know
That I’m saying goodbye
How long did you think we could go on?
While you treated me wrong and kept feeding me lies
I’m letting you know, so don’t be surprised
When I let you go and start living my life
Chorus:
Cause no one’s gonna change you
And I won’t even waste my time
I’m gonna find someone who will treat me right
Cause no one’s gonna change you
And I won’t even waste my time
I’m gonna find someone who will treat me right
There were times I believed things could work out
But as hard as I tried I was always in doubt
Now as sad as it is I’m sorry to say
My love has moved on and my hearts turned away
Some day you will see
That you’ve made a mistake
By the time you wake up it’ll all be too late
Cause I will have moved on and found someone new
Who wants to be mine the way I’ve wanted you
I gave you all of my time
Didn’t mean that much to you
Showered you with all of my love
And all you did was push my love
now you want me to stay
I can’t believe in you
when I’m finally working up the strength to walk away
And no one’s gonna change you
no, no I’m gonna find someone who will treat me right
“I Will Survive” is a great moving on song….
There is an excellent ‘heartache relief CD’ list of songs on the website
http://www.lollie.com
under the romance/relationship section…
Loving your e-book, NML - made it all the way to page 194 today - it is WONDERFUL. I see myself, I see him, I see clearly, and that has such healing power in it.
I realized I had ZERO boundaries. No wonder all I got was nothing but hot air and EUM’s… I lived in fantasy, in hope, in denial, and never in the present delaing with who he actually was and how he was treating me RIGHT NOW.
No more of that - that’s why your book thrills me. I can see why it doesn’t work, and I didn’t understand that before.
I was only blind until someone positive taught me what vision was
Oh man. So many eum songs…really. Basically every great ballad written by a woman is based on that….so, here’s another Duffy one, I cried at her concert when she sang this and when I saw the video for this I broke right down…(although that doesn’t take much, I’m a big softie)
Warwick Avenue
When I get to Warwick Avenue…
Meet me by the entrance of the tube.
We can talk things over, a little time…
Promise me you won’t step outta line.
When I get to Warwick Avenue…
Please drop the past and be true.
Don’t think we’re okay, just because I’m here…
You hurt me bad, but I won’t shed a tear.
I’m leaving you for the last time baby…
You think you’re loving but you don’t love me.
I’ve been confused outta’ my mind lately…
You think you’re loving but I want to be free.
Baby you’ve hurt me.
When I get to Warwick Avenue…
We’ll spend an hour, but no more than two.
Our only chance to speak, once more…
I showed you the answers, now here’s the door.
When I get to Warwick Avenue…
I’ll tell you baby, that we’re through.
I’m leaving you for the last time baby…
You think you’re loving but you don’t love me.
I’ve been confused outta’ my mind lately…
You think you’re loving but you don’t love me.
I want to be free, baby you’ve hurt me.
All the days spent together, I wished for better,
But I didn’t want the train to come.
Now it’s departed,
I’m broken hearted, seems like we never started.
All the days spent together, when I wished for better,
And I didn’t want the train to come
You think you’re loving but you don’t love me.
I want to be free, baby you’ve hurt me.
You don’t love me,
I want to be free,
Baby you’ve hurt me.
And then of course, my dear Amy Winehouse…
Back to Black
He left no time to regret
Kept his dick wet
With his same old safe bet
Me and my head high
And my tears dry
Get on without my guy
You went back to what you knew
So far removed from all that we went through
And I tread a troubled track
My odds are stacked
I’ll go back to black
We only said good-bye with words
I died a hundred times
You go back to her
And I go back to…..
I go back to us
I love you much
It’s not enough
You love blow and I love puff
And life is like a pipe
And I’m a tiny penny rolling up the walls inside
We only said goodbye with words
I died a hundred times
You go back to her
And I go back to
Black, black, black, black, black, black, black,
I go back to
I go back to
We only said good-bye with words
I died a hundred times
You go back to her
And I go back to
We only said good-bye with words
I died a hundred times
You go back to her
And I go back to black
As for getting over the bastards? Haven’t found the 100% cureall song for that but another Amy-
Tears Dry on Their Own
All I can ever be to you is a darkness that we knew
And this regret I had to get accustomed to
Once it was so right
When we were at our high
Waiting for you in the hotel at night
I knew I hadn’t met my match
But every moment we could snatch
I don’t know why I got so attached
It’s my responsibility
You don’t owe nothing to me
But to walk away I have no capacity
He walks away the sun goes down
He takes the day but I’m grown
And in this grey,
In this blue shade
My tears dry on their own
I don’t understand
Why do I stress a man?
When there’s so many better things at hand
We could’ve never had it all
We had to hit a wall
So this is inevitable withdrawal
Even if I stop wanting you
And perspective pushes through
I’ll be some next man’s other woman soon
I shouldn’t play myself again
I Should just be my own best friend.
Not fuck myself in the head with stupid men
He walks away the sun goes down
He takes the day but I’m grown
And its ok,
In this blue shade
My tears dry on their own
So we are history,
Your shadow covers me
The sky above
A blaze that only lovers see
He walks away the sun goes down
He takes the day but I’m grown
And in your way
In this blue shade
My tears dry on their own
I wish I could say no regrets
And no emotional debts
And as we kiss goodbye the sun sets
So we are history
A shadow covers me
The sky above a blaze
That only lovers see
He walks away the sun goes down
He takes the day but I’m grown
And in your way
My blue shade
My tears dry on their own
He walks away the sun goes down
He takes the day but I am grown
And in your way
My deep shade
My tears dry on their own
He walks away the sun goes down
He takes the day but I’m grown
And in your way
My deep shade
My tears dry
And the all time best…Ne Regrets Rein-Edith Piaf…but you need to understand French so I won’t post it…
sorry this was so long!! I could go on for days…
xoxoxo
song in my head at the moment is Fleetwood Mac
Tell me lies tell me lies tell me sweet little lies..
No idea why ..
ok I feel I have to contribute.
My favourite moving on song, the one that helps me getting mad with the bastard and not, DEFINITELY NOT wanting him back into my life is “I learned from the best” by Whitney Houston.
as for Fallback girls… has anyone ever listened to the lyrics of Mamma Mia?
Oh this song ‘Substitute Lover’ by Estelle is WRITTEN for Fallback Girls who are moving on!
“I know it would have been nice if i could have had your body
Knowing that everybody aint been with you
but you told me lies you made me give my heart away
but now i know the games you play
So I’m thru with you
Oh boy oh boy
I’m not your substitute lover oh no
Say boy oh boy I’m not your substitute lover oh no”
Keep the songs coming ladies! Brilliant choices!
Btw Nilondoner, THAT is a song!
I always hated the lyrics of bleeding love by Leona Lewis. I guess they don’t mean it literally, but still.
Love “sweet about me” by Gabriella Cilmi. Just cool, no revenge or bitterness.
uhm … I forgot a very important moving on, feel good song: “He wasn’t man enough for me” by Tony Braxton
and another one “What about” by Janet Jackson
ok I gotta stop now!
This has been me for a few months, feeling totally indifferent about him.
Phil Collins: “I don’t care anymore”
I don’t care what you say
We never played by the same rules anyway.
I won’t be there anymore
Get out of my way
Let me by
I got better things to do with my time
I don’t care anymore I don’t care anymore
I don’t care anymore I don’t care anymore
Well, I don’t care now what you say
‘Cos ev’ry day I’m feeling fine with myself
And I don’t care now what you say
Hey I’ll do alright by myself
‘Cos I know.
‘Cos I remember all the times I tried so hard
And you laughed in my face ‘cos you held all the cards.
I don’t care anymore.
And I really ain’t bothered what you think of me
‘Cos all I want of you is just a let me be.
I don’t care anymore D’you hear? I don’t care no more
I don’t care what you say
I never did believe you much anyway.
Okay guys, my last favorite EUM song is Alanis’
“You Owe Me Nothing in Return”
I’ll give you countless amounts of outright acceptance if you want it
I will give you encouragement to choose the path that you want if you need it
You can speak of anger and doubts your fears and freak outs and I’ll hold it
You can share your so-called shame filled accounts of times in your life and I won’t judge it
(and there are no strings attached to it)
You owe me nothing for giving the love that I give
You owe me nothing for caring the way that I have
I give you thanks for receiving it’s my privilege
And you owe me nothing in return
You can ask for space for yourself and only yourself and I’ll grant it
You can ask for freedom as well or time to travel and you’ll have it
You can ask to live by yourself or love someone else and I’ll support it
You can ask for anything you want anything at all and I’ll understand it
(and there are no strings attached to it)
You owe me nothing for giving the love that I give
You owe me nothing for caring the way that I have
I give you thanks for receiving it’s my privilege
And you owe me nothing in return
I bet you’re wondering when the next payback shoe will eventually drop
I bet you’re wondering when my conditional police will force you to cough up
I bet wonder how far you have now danced you way back into debt
This is the only kind of love as I understand it that there really is
You can express your deepest of truths even if it means I’ll lose you and I’ll hear it
You can fall into the abyss on your way to your bliss I’ll empathize with
You can say that you have to skip town to chase your passion I’ll hear it
You can even hit rock bottom have a mid-life crisis and I’ll hold it
(and there are no strings attached)
You owe me nothing for giving the love that I give
You owe me nothing for caring the way that I have
I give you thanks for receiving it’s my privilege
And you owe me nothing in return
This was fun! Now, I’m going to buy the new NML book…..:)
LADIES, LADIES, LADIES!!!! LISTEN UP- the song to top them all right now is ‘Let it Go’ by Keyshia Cole. You must see the video with the lyrics or get the latest album- it helped me get the strength to end things (finally this time, I hope)with my ex last week after listening over and over to most of the album- she is the new Fallback Girl Queen in my opinion!!! But she seems to realise when it is time to move on. The song should be this blog’s anthem, trust me- NML give it a listen.
Even her song ‘I Just Want It To Be Over’ from her first album describes many of our situations perfectly!!!
Music in this case has helped me see my situation with my emotionally unavaible, narcisstic ex for what it is. I have ended it with him countless times in the past year and a half of our two and half year relationship but I feel this time it will be final. I’m also trying to read NML’s ebooks which I’ve printed out as often as possible- have done two days full no contact already after almost a week since breakup. The longest I’ve gone before taking him back has been 8 days…. pray for me guys….
Cheekie, you beat me to it… ”Back to Black”. Ex-UMM had the audacity to suggest that the song was representative of me and him. Huh, he thinks a lot of himself! Bet he wishes I was pining for him every time he did one back to his girlfriend (yes, of course I was, but I still reprimanded him for bringing it up)
Addicted by Kelly Clarkson .. probably more for those who can’t let go ..
OK, I have been wanting to bring this subject up for a while…. if you want a complete and total guide to Emotionally Unavailable men and the heartbreak you feel loving them and just a very good insight to their thinking… Both of these albums have really helped me tremendously. Both albums are all about emotionally unavailable men. Awesome, insightful lyrics…
LISTEN TO AIMEE MANN!!!
Especially the albums “I’m With Stupid” and “Lost in Space”
Listen to “Par for the Course” and “Guys Like Me”
Here’s a snippet off of each….
“Guys Like Me”
Guys like me
We don’t know how it feels
Absentee even closing the deal
But every player there’s a
payoff in the final reel
But never with guys like me
Cause guys like me
We look good at the gate
But you’ll agree with the odds on the slate
and put your money on a bonafide heavyweight
and take it off guys like me
take it off guys like me
We pull you close but never really
looking warm but feeling chilly
you’ll describe us as impassioned
when it’s just a front we’ve fashioned
Cause guys like me
We all vow to become
clear and free of the fife and the drum
and block the circulation til
we’re all completely numb
let’s hear it for guys like me
let’s hear it for guys like me
let’s hear it for guys, guys like me
“Par for the Course” from “I’m with Stupid”
It’s par for the course
You bet the wrong horse
You put down the phone and cried
For yourself
And for what
You couldn’t have
A plea
That won’t do
Now that she
Serves it to you
And I don’t even know you
I don’t even know you anymore
I don’t even know you
I don’t even know you
It’s all you deserve
The loss of the nerve
The grade of the curve
Has brought you to this
By the boat that you missed
You clung to the raft
So she swerved out of your path
And I don’t even know you
I don’t even know you anymore
I don’t even know you anymore
You loved her a lot
But she lost the plot
And timing is everything
In this game
So let’s have
A moment of blame
Think how
It could have been
Well you should
Have said it all then
And I don’t even know you
I don’t even know you anymore
I don’t even know you anymore
“Guys Like These”
Really sad one this but Kissing a Fool by George Michael has been my recent song of the moment:
“Fooled me with the tears in your eyes
covered me with kisses and lies
so bye, but please don’t take my heart”
I”m with Beyonce on this one… I’m moving on and walking away cuz I KNOW I CAN… “Irreplaceable”
“You must not know ’bout me
You must not know ’bout me
I could have another you in a minute
Matter fact, he’ll be here in a minute, baby
You must not know ’bout me
You must not know ’bout me
I could have another you by tomorrow
So don’t you ever for a second get to thinkin’
You’re irreplaceable
“So since I’m not your everything
How about I’ll be nothing, nothing at all to you?
Baby I won’t shed a tear for you (I won’t shed a tear)
I won’t lose a wink of sleep (A wink of sleep)
‘Cause the truth of the matter is
Replacing you is so easy, hey… ”
And then there’s the other one… Jojo’s “Too LIttle, Too Late”
(Just putting the chorus in here but the whole thing is for us girls who are working on NOT being the fallback…)
“It’s just too little too late
A little too wrong and I can’t wait
Boy you know all the right things to say
You know it’s just a little too late
You say you dream of my face but you don’t like me
You just like the chase
To be real it doesn’t matter anyway
You know it’s just too little too late “
Hi, I like Keysha Cole’s Let It Go…it is one of my theme songs. Listen up ladies!
You need to get if he don’t want it
Love you the right way he ain’t gonna,
It ain’t where he’s at, it’s where he
where he wanna to be
I understand why you wanna try
Make him stay home late at night
But if wanna go he’ll be gone no lie
I can’t explain how many times I tried
How many times I cried
Thinkin about mine and where he might be
Remember when I gave everything I got
Couldn’t get deep down inside
How ya love someone who didn’t love me
[Hook 1]
But now I get if he don’t wanna
love you the right way he ain’t gonna
it ain’t where he’s at it’s where he
where he wanna be
[Chorus]
If he ain’t gonna love you
the way he should
then let it go
If he ain’t gonna treat you
the way he should
then let it go
If he ain’t gonna love you
the way he should
then let it go
If he ain’t gonna treat you
the way he should
then let it go
[Missy Elliott]
When this song come on in the club
they gon be like
damn that’s hot
And when they play it in they car
they gon drop they tops like
damn that’s hot
They gon mix it wit Biggie “It was all a dream” like
damn that’s hot
Me and Keyshia won’t stop
til the tick don’t tock like
damn that’s hot
[Keyshia Cole]
Now understand why I take my time
cause you come wit alibis
trynna get me to see thats where you trynna be
but I dont want yo man
Yo mans been callin me
trynna get me to see
that he wants me to be wit him
But he ain’t the one for me
and if you only knew
you would
do what you had to
finally see that
[Hook 2]
You need to get if he don’t wanna
love you the right way he ain’t gonna
it ain’t where he’s at its where he
where he wanna be
[Chorus]
If he ain’t gonna love you
the way he should
then let it go
If he ain’t gonna treat you
the way he should
then let it go
If he ain’t gonna love you
the way he should
then let it go
If he ain’t gonna treat you
the way he should
then let it go
[Lil Kim]
Here’s a little lesson Lil Kim don’t stress em
Kick em all straight to the curb like Beckham
broke up wit my Ex he wit her for now but
little do she know she just a rebound
callin my phone she so outta pocket
I been there before o’girl you need to stop it
trickin on me when he tell you he ain’t got it
you don’t get the picture
my pictures in his wallet
never ever thought I would leave him alone
but I let a dog roam now he wanna come home
but I
don’t trust him
though I still love him
no longer want him
lookin at his cousin
kinda buzzin
loose off the goose
got him on a chase like cranberry juice
when he’s wit you he’s wishin it was me
you might be where he’s at but I’m where
he wanna be (Baby Baby!)
Let It Go
Let It Go Let It Go Let It Go
Let It Go Let It Go Let It Go
Let It Go Let It Go Let It Go
[Chorus]
If he ain’t gonna love you
the way he should
then let it go
If he ain’t gonna treat you
the way he should
then let it go
If he ain’t gonna love you
the way he should
then let it go
and if he ain’t gonna treat you
the way he should
then let it go
[Missy Elliott]
When this song come on in the club
they gon be like
damn that’s hot
And when they play it in they car
they gon drop they tops like
damn that’s hot
They gon mix it wit Biggie “It was all a dream” like
damn that’s hot
Me Kim and Keyshia don’t stop
til the tick don’t tock like
damn that’s hot
I have a couple.
Ironically, written and performed by men, but great just the same..
Jack Johnson - Sitting Waiting Wishing
I was sitting, waiting, wishing
You believed in superstitions
Then maybe you’d see the signs.
Lord knows that this world is cruel
And I ain’t the lord, no I’m just a fool
Learning lovin somebody don’t make them love you.
Chorus
Must I always be waiting, waiting on you
Must I always be playing, playing your fool.
I sang your songs, I danced your dance
I gave your friends, all a chance
Putting up with them wasn’t worth never having you
Oh, maybe you’ve been through this before
But it’s my first time, so please ignore
The next few lines, cause they’re directed at you.
Chorus
I can’t always be waiting, waiting on you
I can’t always be playing, playing your fool.
Bridge
I keep playing your part
But it’s not my scene
Want this plot to twist
I’ve had enough mystery
Keep building it up
Then shooting me down
But I’m already down
Just wait a minute
Just sitting, waiting
Just wait a minute
Just sitting, waiting
Well if I was in your position
I’d put down all my ammunition
I’d wonder why it had taken me so long
But Lord knows that I’m not you
and if I was I wouldn’t be so cruel
cause waitin’ on love ain’t so easy to do
Repeat Chorus
Must I always be waiting, waiting on you
Must I always be playing, playing your fool
No I can’t always be waiting, waiting on you
I can’t always be playing, playing your fool, fool.. mmm mmm.
Barenaked Ladies - Thanks that was fun
Im learning. Im yearning.
Im burning all your stuff,
But thats not enough.
Im thinking that Im aching:
Mistaking lust for love.
Thanks that was fun.
Dont forget, no regrets (cept maybe one)
Did I scare you when I dared you?
I stared you in the eye and told you good-bye.
You mocked me. it shocked me,
When you walked me to the bus.
Thanks that was fun.
Dont forget, no regrets (cept maybe one)
Made a deal, not to feel (god, thats dumb)
Everybody knows the deal fell through.
I was hoping I could just blame you.
When was it that I became so soft?
This sentimentality doesnt look good on me.
I thought that you would be begging to be with me.
Im the one on my knees, blubbering,
Please, let me stay.
Deflated and jaded. i hate it when you call
(which isnt at all)
Ive spoken, though broken.
Heres a token of my love.
Thanks that was fun.
Dont forget, no regrets (cept maybe one)
Made a deal, not to feel (god, that was dumb)
Dont forget, no regrets (cept maybe one)
Made a deal, not to feel.
Thanks that was fun.