Comments on: So What is Commitment-Phobia?

By: Ajay

Ajay — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 04:28:31 +0000

I had commitmentphobia for about 10 years before I realized it…i knew i was indecisive but never realized the extent of it until my last relationship! I’ve reviewed some great books on the topic including Men Who Can’t Love (highly recommend) and realized I had this issue after I read Mr. Unavailable (fantastic read). Actually it made me start writing about it as well!

http://lovelifeandthelawofattraction.blogspot.com/

By: Baby-Girl

Baby-Girl — Fri, 02 May 2008 17:03:01 +0000

I have recently been involved with a person, who may be a CP, for 2 years. We’ve steadily been off and on, lately moreso on. He’s been, seeming, to make efforts to bring us closer but once he offered for us to move in together and I agreed, things drastically went downhill from there. We’ve been arguing. He’s been critizing me and bringing all these faults, he’s found about me to my attention. It’s been a complete change, like night and day. I went away for business for a week and broke it off with him. When I got back, I did not speak to him for another week and then he pleaded to see me. I was a little apprehensive and did not meet with him. Now he’s completely shut down and will not return any of my calls or messages. Does this sound like classic CP behavior or a man playing games?

By: Nasreen

Nasreen — Tue, 04 Dec 2007 00:45:16 +0000

I wish to ask Susan a question please. (I hope she is reading and is able to reply; if not then anyone reading this, who can answer, please do so, I would really like your views)

Susan, you were friends with this man for so many years before your ‘relationship’ started – who made the first move and crossed that only friends boundary? I am in a similar position, but I admire from afar, afraid that by telling him that I love him deeply he may reject my love and that this would go on to ruin our friendship.

Can anyone help on this please?

By: Susan

Susan — Thu, 08 Nov 2007 15:45:27 +0000

I am on the other side of the relationship…I am involved with someone I love very dearly who is a classic commiitment phobic. Our relationship is a constant emotional rollercoaster and unfortunately I am the one who suffers. I’m sure anyone who reads this asks “why do you stay if you know this”? I ask myself this same thing very frequently. The answer to that is I know without a doubt that he loves me. We have both been divorced and neither of us are looking to remarry. When our relationship is “on” it’s the great. We have been best friends for three years, our “relationship” only started a year ago. He struggles with “us” and recognizes the fact that committment of any kind is difficult for him but he hangs in there. When I detect that he is struggling I give him the space that he needs to figure things out, I never put any pressure on him. Friends ask me why do you stay, you have nothing binding you two together. That is furthest from the truth…he has my heart.

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By: Roxy

Roxy — Tue, 15 May 2007 17:45:54 +0000

Yup… that’s me… I am very good at not commiting. Now I am in a fantastic relationship with a man who also is good at not commiting. Somehow we have been able to commit to each other, yet neither one of us will admit it.

Hey it works!