Comments on: Stop Giving To Men That Don’t Deserve or Want It

By: angelo

angelo — Wed, 13 Feb 2008 04:09:52 +0000

i think it’s hilarious how women b!@#h and
moan that all men wan’t is sex, yet when a man
doesn’t roll over when a women demands women
panic.(does that mean that it’s important for
everybodys sanity for men to be the’hard up pigs’ woman constantly whine about?) p.s.
men DESERVE aLOT better than these things posing as women also.

By: Sara

Sara — Fri, 01 Feb 2008 20:44:07 +0000

I was wondering if the girl who was twice divorced was then dating the 37 year old man from Illinois? I believe we may have dated the same man. I was left heartbroken as a result of his emotional indecision.
Feel free to respond if you receive this message.

By: Gloria

Gloria — Fri, 05 Oct 2007 18:15:47 +0000

To Gigi. This man is using you. You deserve so much better. Life is way too short to deal with a man than seemes to be sexually, financially and emotionally unavailable. He is giving to his female friends what he should be giving to you. And did you say you had been with him for almost 3 years? Please get out of this now. I can’t believe he is not trying to have sex with you. Most heterosexual men can’t just live with a woman or even be around a woman without wanting to at least touch or kiss you. This is very unusual. You’ve have been given more than enough evidence that this man is not a good man or a good person and he doesn’t seem to care about your feelings at all. I would not try to figure out why he is the way he is or what he is really doing. If all of these things are going on (especially never showin interest in kissing or having sex with you) you can clearly see that:
“He’s just not that into you”. It is not your fault that he is trying to use you, but allowing him to continue to do it will be your fault if you don’t leave. I’ve never allowed a man to do this to me or experienced anything like this, but I have allowed a man to use me for almost 6 months. At only 29yrs old (30 yrs old now) I had been divorced twice from two different abusive men who refused to help support or stay in contact with their children. I hadn’t been with a man seriously in about a year, I had no friends where I lived and the lonliness almost killed me! I allowed my self to become involved with a male (not a man) that had nothing to offer a woman……..NOTHING, but his companionship seemed to sooth my lonliness and give me something other than stress to look forward to. This man turned out to be a 37 year old looser who gaved me mixed messages about our “Friendship” as he called it. I knew that we didn’t have a real future, but hoped that he would see all that I had to offer and like the article said, and eventually want a relationship. Anyway, I’m proud to say that I ended it and stopped seeing him after 9 months of an emotional rollercoaster. It’s funny though, because now that I’m not around anymore he keeps calling me to the point where I had to tell him to stop! Oh well, some poeple don’t know what they had until it’s gone. Please remember, this: I WOULD RATHER DIE ALONE, THAN LIVE ON MY KNEES! I know it hurts, but you have to let this man go. God will not bless him for using you. Invest your time,money, energy and living space in yourself. Once you do this, you will probably find someone better anyway. Don’t take any crap from any man ever again! Good Luck to You! I hope things work out for you. God Bless

By: Gigi

Gigi — Fri, 06 Apr 2007 18:13:11 +0000

okay. Good advice. Let’s say one is living with a man who says he loves us but is not in love with us. Let’s say these people have never had sex because the guy isn’t attracted to the woman but she’s attracted to him. Let’s say this woman has done exactly what you said not to do above and has “worn the guy down” and now they are living together (although he expressed the interest first when she asked if he knew anyone who needed a roommate) and what started out as a roommate arrangement has morphed into something else, but don’t know what…still haven’t had sex, or even a kiss…but sleep together in the same bed everynight. Let’s say that said guy refuses to discuss the relationship when she brings it up saying only that he prefers to keep things “day-to-day” and to see where “this is all going”…for the past three years. Let’s say this said man says that he’s more comfortable being friends with women and has lots of women friends…which would be fine except that he’s had sex with them or has expressed that he finds these women attractive…but states that woman has nothing to worry about and to date, the woman is almost certain he has not been with another (because he’s home almost everynight and no other tell-tell signs of a relationship). Let’s say that the woman speculates that his man doesn’t tell his women friends that he’s living with someone nor does he tell his “true” close women friends that he’s “with” this woman… only that they are roommates and that he doesn’t want to discuss it. Let’s say to be fair that the man has never claimed to want anything from the woman and has maintained the same stance from the beginning. Never trying to trick or deceive. Let’s say woman took an on-line course on jealousy and found out that she’s only 50% responsible for it and when she tried to discuss the definition of the relationship he became angry. He stated, when confronted, that there was nothing wrong with staying in touch with a “f-buddy” (she saw “Jill’s phone number on his cell phone – got what I deserved?) even if they aren’t f-buddies anymore and have nothing in common other than they f’d. Now at the man’s request, the woman moved to another state with the man, has no job (plenty of savings, though) and man is going to bars with his new co-workers – saying it’s part of the new job – and coming home after midnight talking about the “game” his co-workers are running on women (he doesn’t drink). Let’s say woman gets so mad and jealous and sick that she can’t even look man in face anymore.

Advice, please?

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