Podcast Ep. 252: Respecting Someone Else’s Fear (even when you don’t ‘get’ it)

Even though we might consider ourselves to be empathetic, sometimes how we respond when other people express their fears is dismissive, judgemental and oversteps boundaries. In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I explain we sometimes struggle...

They say you’re a ‘couple’, so why doesn’t it feel like that?

In dating, there’s often this intense focus, a goal, of getting the other party to say something that makes it clear that we’re in a relationship. We want to define the relationship so that we can know what to expect. Hell, we want to know that we’ve...

Jumping into relationships and belatedly realising commitment is involved

Being on the receiving end of not just someone’s intense interest in and attraction to us, but their seeming desire to jump into a relationship, can be pretty intoxicating. The intensity creates this romance of false intimacy, and we think we’ve jumped into a fairy...
Why Your Ex Still Reaches Out Periodically: Intermittent Reinforcement

Why Your Ex Still Reaches Out Periodically: Intermittent Reinforcement

I hear from so many people who have an ex they ‘randomly’ hear from out of the blue, typically via email or text. And these exes range from people they went on barely a handful of dates with, to people they dated but who didn’t feel ready for a...
Podcast Ep. 142: ‘Getting’ Commitment

Podcast Ep. 142: ‘Getting’ Commitment

I hear from so many people who feel as if they’re breaking their backs trying to ‘get’ someone to commit. There’s a lot of angst about why the person won’t commit, often blaming themselves for that person’s resistance. In this...