Guest Post: You can be a ‘Nice Guy’ but I need you to keep your balls and be a ‘man’
June 18, 2008 by Hot Alpha Female · 33 Comments
Hot Alpha Female writes…
Recently I had to travel to the US, and one particular issue kept coming up.
My travelling buddy, while really sweet and easy going, was slowly driving me insane. I thought I was going to pull my own hair out and wanted to give him a happy pill or something, just so he would be able to talk faster instead of taking 5 minutes to think of a response to anything I said! My main frustration was that this guy could not make a decision for the life of him!! He was travelling with me because he is meant to be that little bit more savvy, but honestly it would have been better travelling with a stuffed toy!
So here is the thing: This guy could not make a decision, said YES to everything that I asked him, and seemed to have no sense of opinion himself, and on top of that was a complete and utter people pleaser! I don’t know about you guys, but isn’t this something that you would find just irritating? Mind you, some of you may be thinking that it would be great to have such an easy going traveling buddy…
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Bad Relationship AND Bad Sex - Say what?
May 1, 2008 by NML · 9 Comments
I’m going to start this post by stating the obvious - Sex does not a relationship make. It’s not the be all and end all and all that jazz. OK, moving on swiftly now that we have that established!
But…and there is a big frickin’ massive BUT here…
Bad enough that a guy gives you a bad relationship but if he’s not even giving anything in the sack, I have to wonder why the hell a woman would be sticking around?
In the past I’ve had a lot of emails from women where they tell me the most awful things about their relationship with a guy and they finish it off by saying how they love him and the sex is amazing and yada, yada, and it’s what I’ve previously referred to as Great Dysfunctional Sex - sex powered by lots of negativity normally created by drama and insecurity. Crude as it may sound, you’d be amazed at the number of women that will stick in a bad relationship when a guy has a big dick and/or can sex them like crazy. It’s not an excuse, but I kind of understand a bit how someone can get blinded by the sex.
But I’ve noticed over the last few months that I am getting a lot of emails and comments from readers mentioning bad relationships AND bad sex. What the hell is all of this about?
So let me get this right, some of you are with guys that are:
mean with the relationship
mean with their time
mean with their affections
mean with their investment into the relationship
mean with their emotions
AND mean in the bedroom!!!
Where the hell have we gone so wrong that we would be prepared to take anything that we can get from man just as long as we get a semblance of a relationship?
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Drama Management Quick Tips
April 5, 2008 by NML · 15 Comments
It’s day 6 in the 30 Days of Drama Reduction series. When you feel like you are about to take a big dose of Relationship Crack and immerse yourself in the latest dramatisation starring you, it is important to become aware of what the Drama Triggers are and handle your reaction to it.
If you don’t learn how to handle and reduce, or even eliminate your Drama Seeking behaviour, you are likely to be perceived as 1) needy, 2) clingy, 3) messed up, and 4) a drama queen.
Now…even if you are with a pretty understanding, decent, emotionally available guy, those four things make you a very unattractive prospect to the average guy and they will eventually be turned off by your behaviour.
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Thirty Days of Drama Reduction
March 28, 2008 by NML · 3 Comments
On Monday, I’ll be starting a Thirty Days of Drama Reduction series. Every day I’m going to post an insight and tip about the inadvertent quest for drama and how to overcome your drama seeking tendencies so that you can learn to gravitate towards healthier relationships and also give a boost to your self-esteem.
There are so many accidental Drama Seekers out there and unfortunately, seeking out situations that cater to the drama meter only serve to sabotage any possibility of happiness, whether that be on your own or with someone.
Many readers are hooked on dysfunction. Many are hooked on the emotional rollercoaster. I get women telling me that they want to be happy and that they can’t bear the madness…and then throw themselves head first into situations that drive them crazy. Too many women are seeking out the fairy tale and everything around us seems to be telling us that if we’re not trying to create adrenaline rushes through all of this drama, we are lacking something in our lives.
All of this ends up having us believing that we are in love with a guy when in actual fact it’s the familiar feeling of drama that he brings to the table.
It’s time to get real. It’s time to put yourself on drama control! It’s time for a change!
If you have any specific issues or questions you want tackled, now is the time to put them forward!
Look out for posts from fab bloggers such as Hot Alpha Female, Lisa Q, Lance from Honey and Lance and more!
Have you got insights or tips to share? Have you written a post about drama? Would you like to include a guest post? Drop me a line and I’ll include you in the series.
Your thoughts?
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