Passive Aggression in Relationships - Part 2
A couple of days back I explained how a typical Mr Unvailable or assclown (or maybe he’s both) uses passive aggression in the relationship to absolve himself of any responsibility but also to do nothing. But…would you be surprised to know that we can indulge in our own passive aggressive behaviour too?
Passive aggression is about trying to get your own way by essentially doing nothing, or doing exactly what you intended to do, even though you may have made noises to the contrary to the other party.
Now it’s safe to say that part of the reason why women get involved with men who are passive aggressive is because his behaviour mimics patterns that they are all too familiar with from their childhood.
Are we waiting for a fairy tale happy ending?
I recently wrote in my column about the author Josephine Cox, esteemed peddler of women’s fiction pondering whether her and similar authors “have unwittingly failed a whole generation of women by seducing them with false ideals of love and romance…”. The biggest topics on this blog are anything connected to emotionally unavailable men and being [...]
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Say it without pressure. Don’t do it because you think you have to; say it because you want to. Don’t say it because someone says it to you. Despite common belief, just because the three words get uttered doesn’t mean that you always have to hear the three words back.
Don’t say it because you want [...]
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Listen don’t just talk
People think that you need to talk a lot for good communication but there needs to be a balance between talking and listening. If you’re doing most of the talking, something’s not right.
Be careful of hearing and not listening
Some of us hear what we want to hear or are to busy formulating [...]
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Exes
They’re called an ex because they’re in The Past and every damn time either of you bring them up puts them in your present. In order for relationships to prosper, both parties need to be over their ex partners with closure, and you also both need to get over each other’s exes. It’s a redundant [...]
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In [...]
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Why Won’t Men Admit When They’re at Fault?!
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Rules for ‘Honesty’ in Relationships
1. Don’t ask questions if you’re not prepared to accept the honest answer. Honesty is not about hearing what you want to hear.
2. Don’t beat them up for being honest about a past that you weren’t a part of. Laughing and joking along about their past and then using it against them later down the [...]
