Want More Dating Success? Be Discerning By Adopting a Recruiter Mindset

A recruiter is someone whose job is to match qualified candidates with suitable open positions at organisations. If they put any ole candidate forward for the role, they do everyone a disservice (and damage their reputation), so they have to be discerning. Having what...

But Really, Is It ‘Okay’ To Date Somebody You Don’t See a Future With?

As humans, we give ourselves permission to be, do and have things that are’t necessarily reflective of who we are in the main or our stated intentions and values.  We say we want to cut back on sugar and then, when stressed, give ourselves permission to eat...
The stress and anxiety of figuring out the ‘etiquette’ of who pays for dates

The stress and anxiety of figuring out the ‘etiquette’ of who pays for dates

How someone interacts with money on dates can prove to be a deal-breaker. Despite expanding relationships beyond the outdated notion that male-female relationships are ‘the norm’, the mental stumbling block of who pays on dates persists. A legacy of what...

Podcast Ep. 232: Columboing New or Prospective Partners on Social Media

via GIPHY When you’ve just started chatting to, dating, or going out with someone, it’s not usual in these times to do a spot of, how shall we put it, checking up on social media. OK, let’s call it snooping, columboing (I love Columbo!). You know,...

Explaining boundary issues to a date will only violate you further

Nobody knows what your boundaries are until you convey them through your actions.So many people have asked me variations of “I’ve been on a few dates with someone and I really like them, but they’ve busted my boundaries a few times. What should I say...