Emotional Guardedness Can Be a Block to Healthy, Loving Relationships

Do you feel guarded after a negative experience due to struggling, on some level, to forgive yourself? When dating or in a relationship, is your overriding concern the fear of being hurt again? If so, you have walls. Fear of the emotional consequences of trusting...

Living With Excessive Fear Blocks Love, Care, Trust and Respect

Fear plays a crucial role in alerting us to situations where self-care is necessary. Notifying you of a possible threat, it blocks love when you don’t distinguish between real and imagined threats or between past and present experiences and...

Letting Go of the Control Reins: The Path to True Emotional Autonomy

We humans love being in control. We fear uncertainty, not being liked, being unable to handle situations, and leaving our [uncomfortable] comfort zones. As a result, we develop habits aimed at influencing and controlling other people’s feelings and behaviour, and...

The Truth Is, No One Needs You to Be Problemless and Always Happy

On the surface, striving to please others and acting happier than you feel, doesn’t seem problematic. They feel like noble acts that prioritise making others feel good. It feels like you’re always ‘on’ and ready to please. By centering everyone else’s needs,...

Podcast Ep. 252: Respecting Someone Else’s Fear (even when you don’t ‘get’ it)

Even though we might consider ourselves to be empathetic, sometimes how we respond when other people express their fears is dismissive, judgemental and oversteps boundaries. In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I explain we sometimes struggle...