Relationship Advice: Should I cut contact, try out a new guy, or be alone?
I have a classic NML - He won’t even commit to a relationship with me. After nearly a year, and several halfhearted attempts on my part to break it off with him, I finally sat him down and told him enough! I was really hurt but relieved. The next day he called me insisting that he was working on being a better person ( I think this is true, just not with me) and he asked if we could talk in about a month after I’d healed and spent some time away from him. I reluctantly agreed.
Are emotionally unavailable men narcissists?
What’s the difference between an emotionally unavailable man and a narcissist? A thin line and someone defining it, but there is a line there nonetheless.
Since I published my ebook Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl which focused on the behaviour of emotionally unavailable men, I’ve had several emails requesting that I discuss the subject of [...]
The Justifying Zone: when a woman needs to justify her emotional or sexual investment
The Justifying Zone is that slippery slope that a lot of women find themselves in, especially after they have sexual contact with a guy. Many of us feel that we need to justify our emotional and sexual investment and this justification is effectively attempting to close the door after the horse has bolted.
The Justifying Zone [...]
Return On Investment in Relationships
Relationships are about give and take. I don’t expect anyone to stand there taking scores because this in itself creates a negative atmosphere for a relationship, however, in healthy relationships there is an overall healthy balance of give and take without having to kill yourselves getting that balance and there is certainly no need for [...]
Epiphany Relationships
Throughout your dating and relationship history, you’ve ended relationships and felt that whatever had happened had galvanised change, only for you to find yourself in a similar or worse situation all over again. But if you have truly experienced self-defining, life galvanising change as a result of a relationship, you have experienced an Epiphany Relationship.
An [...]
Boomerang Relationships & The Yo-Yo Girl
If you’ve ever had a ‘relationship’ that can’t seem to end with a guy that keeps turning up like a bad penny, it’s because you’re in a ‘boomerang relationship’. No matter how many times you get ‘chucked away’, you keep returning. Generally he’s the one to end it, although sometimes you do because you get [...]
Does Emotionally Unavailable Equal He’s Just Not That Into You?
Over at answerology, a reader asks “Do you think that emotionally unavailable really just equals he/she is just not that into you?” Truth be told, the answer isn’t a clear-cut ‘no’, but when you are faced with a Mr Unavailable’s behaviour, they act the way they do regardless of who you are. It’s not about [...]
Take The Focus Off Him and Put It Back To YOU
I always say that you are the only recurring character in your sitcom called life which means that when you find yourself in same scene different guy; instead of berating yourself for ’stumbling’ across yet another guy that treats you badly and doesn’t appreciate you for what you are, you should be taking a [...]
How To Spot Emotionally Unavailable Men
Also useful for spotting the physically and spiritually unavailable men!
He has a girlfriend
He’s married
He’s recently separated
He has a long distance relationship
He’s very reliant on text messages, IM’ing and email for the majority of his contact
Knowing When To Bail Out - Red Flags
Whilst that thing we refer to as dating is for having fun and getting to know each other, it is also the key period where you are looking out for the red flags that will later catch you with your pants down and infuriate the hell out of you. People have a nasty habit of [...]
