You’re not needy, impatient or pushy for wanting more than an unfulfilling relationship

When a partner can’t meet your needs but also claims that you’re impatient, pushy, needy or difficult, they essentially want you to OK their lack of investment in the relationship. At the very least, they want you to reframe unmet needs and potential...

Podcast Ep. 222: They’re just not that into you?

In this week’s episode of  The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk about why some of us wrestle with ‘he’s just not that into you’. From the 2004 book of the same name and a hilarious episode of Sex and the City, this advice helped us to stop...
Podcast Ep. 131: The Trouble With ‘Well-Meaning’ Bad Advice

Podcast Ep. 131: The Trouble With ‘Well-Meaning’ Bad Advice

Three days before I met Em, I broke it off with a guy that I’d been dating for three weeks. From the way he approached me, through to the dates, calls/texts, I had a lot of misgivings about him. Trouble was, my friends felt that I was being “hasty”...

Is Emotional Unavailability All That Different From Incompatibility?

A lingering question when we’ve been involved in an unavailable relationship and then they appear to commit elsewhere is, Was my ex emotionally unavailable or were we incompatible? We often ponder this question when, although there are signs showing the...
Revisited: The Madness of Making Assumptions in Dating & Relationships

Revisited: The Madness of Making Assumptions in Dating & Relationships

A couple of years ago, I wrote about 10 reasons women choose men…and why they shouldn’t including stuff like being a churchgoer, being married and loving kids and animals, and more recently I’ve written about being blinded by intelligence and looks....