Giving Love Requires the Emotional Generosity of Empathy and Compassion

Loving somebody takes knowledge and understanding. As a result, we experience love when we practise vulnerability, compassion and empathy, so to love is giving. We actively choose not to let fear dominate. Love, the feeling and verb, takes investment. We have to be...

We Don’t Need to Suffer to Prove How Much We Love Someone

Too many of us mistake suffering for love. In fact, some of us mistake suffering for proof we’re a Good Person. It’s as if we don’t value someone or feel that we’re worthy and doing ‘enough’ unless we’re struggling and straining. We’ve been socially conditioned to...

What It Means to Love Someone

To love someone is to know and understand them. It takes time and experience, so that means we have taken the time to care, trust and respect. Love is an action, mentality and attitude, not just a feeling. We can only know the truth and extent of our feelings when...

Four Core Values for Healthy Romantic Bonds

Mutually fulfilling relationships are that way because four core values, love, care, trust and respect, underpin them. These values are universal principles that apply to every loving relationship, romantic and otherwise, and there are always some or all missing in...

Intimate Relationships Need To Be Mutually Fulfilling

For a relationship to have a chance of going anywhere good, it needs to be mutually fulfilling. It needs two people with a shared out-in-the-open agenda who prioritise similar things, which, in turn, means that the relationship they co-create generates happiness and...