Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl: Out July 8th
There has been a slight delay but I can definitively confirm that the book will be available to buy from the 8th of July!
Here’s a bit about what the book is about:
When a woman finds herself in a relationship with Mr Unavailable, that emotionally distant, commitment shy guy, she wonders what she has done wrong [...]
Guest post: Love’s Antihero - Insatiable Restless Souls
I had to share this poem written by Baggage Reclaim reader Elizabeth Scott a Fallback Girl who has been reading this blog for the past six months. She wanted to say thank you and share her poem, which captures the essence of the emotional stone wall, that is being involved with a Mr Unavailable.
Running from the arms of one yet to another
Desperate for love, but afraid to smother
Restless souls whose passion briefly burns bright
Quickly fading to ash in the dawn of real love’s light
Are we dating our fathers? That familiar “daddy feeling”
It doesn’t have to be an absentee father or a ‘bad’ father; it may just be that the significant male figure in our life didn’t express his emotions or made you work hard for his attentions and affections, and for all intents and purposes, he was emotionally unavailable…. Or if he never turns up, you not only fear abandonment by all men, but at the same time you may seek a relationship where you let them have more control, in the hope of finding that intangible feeling of comfort that you have been missing from your father all of your life.
Betting On Potential in Relationships
This is an excerpt from…Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl Book Two. Yes it has been delayed a bit…more on that very soon but here is an excerpt from the chapter ‘Betting on Potential’ - one of the recurrent destructive behaviours that keep Fallback Girls rooted in dubious relationships…
“Potential is something that should be derived from the promise of actual actions that have already occurred, not the blinkered fairy tale in your head. Potential is about the potential of the relationship, NOT the potential of what the guy could be if only x, y, and z were to occur. Here is the difference:
You should see potential in a relationship that has the positive hallmarks of a relationship with direction. This normally occurs because both parties are getting to know each other, there is consistency, there is no ambiguity, there is communication of feelings, and both parties have both their feet in the relationship.
