Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

When we’re people pleasers, we imagine that being “good” means that we’ll feel good. Of course, this is super confusing when we feel like crap despite trying to be everyone else’s version of good. We wrestle with overwhelm, shame, resentment and...

You Might Feel Bad After Standing up for Yourself, but You’ve Done a Good Thing

Sometimes after I’ve stood up for myself, whether it’s in conflict situations or where I’ve essentially put my stake in the sand and said ‘Yep, this is who I am’ or ‘This is what I care about’ or ‘This is what I’d...
The Pandemic Will Teach Us to Be More Boundaried

The Pandemic Will Teach Us to Be More Boundaried

In my teens, I would sometimes be in situations where boys pressed to go further than I wanted. I learned how to steer busy hands back up north and to try to make it all as nicey-nice as possible so they didn’t feel wounded and I didn’t feel threatened....

Podcast Ep 192: I Guilt You So Much!

In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk about how so many of us have got into a cycle of feeling bad about ourselves. Guilt has become the currency of our relationships, and it’s bankrupting our self-esteem to keep doing...
Do you really feel guilty, or are you hiding out?

Do you really feel guilty, or are you hiding out?

Have you ever found yourself in a cycle of saying how guilty you feel about something? It can lead to paralysis or spending more time beating you up than you do taking positive action. What happens when you do nothing? You make no decisions or avoid them. You worry...