The No Contact Rule Really Does Work - Reader Success Story
I’ve always known that No Contact works otherwise I wouldn’t spend so much time writing about it and advising people, but it’s painful, a shock to the emotional system, and brings about so many conflicting feelings, not least because the men that you need to do No Contact with tend to be assclowns that won’t [...]
Guest Post: Don’t Envy The “Other” Women Who End Up With Mr Unavailable. It could be karma…
Annie from The Adventures of Genuine Annie has another insightful post getting us to understand why your Mr Unavailable may choose the next woman…
It is regularly mentioned on this site that if we end up with emotionally unavailable men (E.U.Ms) or what we also call Mr Unavailable’s, it is because we actively choose men that [...]
10 Truths You Need to Accept About Breaking Up: Part 2
Following on from Part 1 yesterday, here on the final 5.
6. You are never going to get all of the answers
This is a female desire more so than a male one but we want an explanation as if expecting that this will satisfy us or even make us feel better and give us closure. Here’s [...]
10 Truths You Need to Accept About Breaking Up: Part 1
1. Break-ups hurt
Take it as a given that you are going to experience some pain. Depending on the length of the relationship, it will at the least be short-term, if not medium-term pain and whilst we all have our different timelines, you’ll know that you’re not dealing with the break-up and the hurt if it [...]
Relationship advice: I ‘think’ my sister is sleeping with my Mr Unavailable
Esther asks: I hold my hand up and admit that I am in love with a Mr Unavailable. I want to end things but I keep being drawn back and recently I have come to suspect that he is sleeping with my sister. I know, f*cked up or what?
My sister has always been ‘the beautiful [...]
Famous Mr Unavailable’s and Fallback Girls: Sienna Miller
British actress Sienna Miller, 27, appears to have it all. Fame, revered style, good lucks, and the world at her feet, yet it seems that she is more known for her poor taste in relationships than she is for her acting skills. I can’t say I’m a fan of Sienna Miller but I actually feel for her because as many women who have found themselves on this site can attest to, when you don’t have the right relationship values and decent sense of self, you find yourself looking for love in all the wrong places and being in pretty self-destructive relationships.
Despite what some people may consider as having it all, Sienna likes men with unfinished business, high drama, serious IT factor, and she may believe a little too much in her own hype, something I discussed before when we overestimate the value of the things that don’t matter, causing us to overestimate our superficial value and what we think we bring to a relationship. She uses her charms to draw in guys but struggles to hold onto them, and on some level she recognises how doomed her relationships are. It’s not that it’s her fault she can’t hold onto them but she does mess with men that aren’t going to be held on to by anyone.
Guest Post: Emotionally Unavailable Men - Understanding the girl after you
Annie from The Adventures of Genuine Annie shares some great insights into the disconnected world of Mr Unavailable, the relationships he has after you break up, and what they mean about him. It’s a great reminder that we shouldn’t romantisize or envy the relationships we think he has with others.
Meet Alan, sex addict, woman hater.
Married [...]
Reader Question: What does an emotionally unavailable man do when a relationship ends?
A Chicago reader asks: “I am wondering how the emotionally unavailable man is after a relationship, how he talks to himself, or if he’s happy, etc. Not for HIM, but just to make myself feel better.”
Interesting question. I’d ask why do you care but we all do what we need to do in order [...]
Guest post: Striking the balance between being the ‘pursuer’ and the ‘pursued’
In today’s guest post from long time reader, Sweet KeiKei, she explains why being in either of the extreme roles of being the pursuer or the pursued is a sign of an unhealthy relationship and how she is redressing the balance for a happier self.
In my opinion, there are three types of people when [...]
Relationship Advice: Help me get away from my drunken, cheating boyfriend
Denise asks: I need some advice. I’m so fed up. I’ve been with my partner for almost 7 years. He puts me down all the time, has come on to my so called mate, fingering her in the back of a taxi ( the driver told me) and I got rid of him but he [...]
