Resisting Change Leads to the Groundhog Day of Relationship Insanity

It’s easy to believe that you’re open to change if you’ve tended to lose yourself in your relationships. All the morphing, blending, and adapting to suit other people’s agendas was really you catering to your beliefs about yourself, love, and relationships. It...

Podcast Ep. 238: Be Careful Who You Tell Your Problems To

They say a problem shared is a problem halved, but not always. When you tell your problems to the wrong person it can become a problem multiplied. In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I explain why you have to be careful who you tell your...

Repeats of painful situations invite us to learn what we didn’t before

Finding ourselves in repeats of the same situation can be infuriating and demotivating. We start to wonder if we’re Jedi mind tricking people and life into letting us down. We hear that old adage that life keeps serving the same lessons until we heed them, but...

About Voting for the Relationship You Want

Here’s where I see so many people run into problems: they say that they want to be in a serious relationship, to settle down, and to no longer be in their old pattern, but their choices say otherwise. And it’s the latter that sets the stage for the...
If You’re Going To Be Afraid of ‘Settling’, Be Afraid of Settling For Pattern

If You’re Going To Be Afraid of ‘Settling’, Be Afraid of Settling For Pattern

One of the things that used to put the big-time fear into me was ‘settling’. No way was I gonna find myself with some ‘nice guy’ that bored the bejaysus out of me. I wanted love and what I was used to looking for and feeling. This meant that...