Advice: How do I handle my guy at work?

“Hi NML, I read your post about coping with work drama and I am worried. I have been dating a guy at work (most people don’t know about it) and he is really starting to p*ss me off. I suspect that he’s trying to get this other woman that we work with but he has the front to be asking me for sex. I’m sure he has even told her about us and they are laughing at me. When I ask him where this is going, he tells me to ‘relax’. He says that he cares about me but I keep hearing little things about him flirting with other women Even though he is p*ssing me off, I’m really in love with him and I don’t want to believe that I have wasted my time with him. Help me!”

This is one of those situations where it is, what it is. Sometimes all you need to do is write down what is happening to you and then read it back to yourself. Seriously.

I’m going to be blunt - Don’t p*ss on your own doorstep unless you are pretty damn sure that 1) it could have some serious potential, 2) he’s not a playa, or 3) you’re only working there on a temporary basis or planning to leave anyway. Or as another reader put it “Don’t sh*t where you eat” - crude, but true.

The fact of the matter is that you don’t want to believe that you have wasted your time and you don’t want to be believe that he’s an assclown that you’ve wasted energy on.

But….Sometimes…it is what it is… This is most definitely one of those times!

Ladies, sometimes, in fact, often, we over analyse and try to see shades of grey when in actual fact, black and white is what’s needed.

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