Podcast Ep. 226: Yeah, but Am I Needy?

The reason why we, for instance, don’t ask for what we need and want, or have boundaries, or express our feelings or flag discomfort, and why we engage in habits like people pleasing, is an underlying fear of being needy combined with also still trying to meet...

Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

When we’re people pleasers, we imagine that being “good” means that we’ll feel good. Of course, this is super confusing when we feel like crap despite trying to be everyone else’s version of good. We wrestle with overwhelm, shame, resentment and...

Stop shaming you for having needs

Acknowledging that you have needs is like acknowledging that you breathe.  Do you know when you won’t have needs? When you’re dead.  From the moment we are born until we die, we have needs. And every single last thing that we do is about meeting a...