Having a Positive Outlook Matters in Loving, Intimate Relationships

A positive outlook is one of the four qualities of a loving partner, along with emotional availability, ownership, and commitment to self. Good mental attitude can be the difference between being with someone who sinks the relationship whenever the wind changes and...

Maybe the Relationship and Breakup Gifted You with Something After All

The aim of a relationship isn’t to show up doing what you always do. You don’t have a pre-defined role. No, you don’t. Shout-out to all the people pleasers, including Florence Nightingales, Listeners, Buffers, Good Girls/Guys, Helpers, Savers, and more, of the world....

When Old Coping Mechanisms Become Today’s Roadblock to Love

Whatever you’ve been doing to ‘get’ love or to avoid what you’re afraid of, it’s based on you having come up with a set of conditions for being ‘OK’. You’ve imposed these rules and obligations upon yourself as a form of self-protection. On some level, you figured that...

Resisting Change Leads to the Groundhog Day of Relationship Insanity

It’s easy to believe that you’re open to change if you’ve tended to lose yourself in your relationships. All the morphing, blending, and adapting to suit other people’s agendas was really you catering to your beliefs about yourself, love, and relationships. It...

The Powerful Untruths of Our Negative Beliefs Block Loving Relationships

When something happened in your childhood that you didn’t like the look or feel of, you searched for reasons to explain it. Often, this meant making yourself the focal point of that reason, even though it might not have had anything to do with you. You reached...