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When You Hang Around Or Keep Engaging To Confirm That They Haven’t Changed

By On March 6, 2013 · 195 Comments

One of the biggest fears people in unhealthy relationships have, is that if they call it as they see it and opt out, that maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow but soon or possibly in 2025,

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Reflections: Knowing Your Own Love

By On February 13, 2013 · 168 Comments

It’s that time of year again. I thought I’d do something a little different… a journey through my ‘old mind’….

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If I can’t love me, then how can I love you?

How do I know that it’s real? How do you know?

Am I really loving you or is it [...]

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How Having a “Tell” Can Give Someone The Impression That You’ll Tolerate Their Behaviour Or Issues

By On November 7, 2012 · 294 Comments

When we have low self-esteem and/or we are not being ourselves and even going so far as to misrepresent ourselves, we actually have ‘tells’, unconscious actions that are perceived to ‘betray’ an attempted deception or what we’re trying to put across about ourselves. We can find ourselves saying, doing and agreeing [...]

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Why Unhealthy Relationships Are The Equivalent Of A Power Struggle

By On August 8, 2012 · 152 Comments

Listening to a reader explain their tumultuous involvement with their on again/off again boyfriend recently, I was struck by the obvious power struggle that they both seem oblivious to. It’s like each one keeps returning, or leaving, or promising and then passive aggressively undermining it, [...]

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Do I Have A Sign On My Forehead Or Something? NO, It’s The Time Of Day Principle

By On June 29, 2012 · 217 Comments

You bump into your ex that you haven’t seen or spoken to for a while. You’ve spent months moving on with your life and are just getting to a place where you’re feeling good about you, are considering dating, and are even feeling confident enough to hang out with them and chat [...]

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