One of the issues that many people struggle with is recognising when they’re being used, which is when a person avails themselves of something or someone as a means of accomplishing their chief aim. They exploit what they perceive as a vulnerability in order to gain an advantage.
While there are instances when [...]
There’s a lot of people that I could compare myself to, but I don’t, or at least I try to keep it to a minimum and I’m very conscious of where it’s likely to happen. It’s my inner critic, the surprising perfectionist in me that can rear its ugly head and put me back [...]
A few years back, before I delved deeper into the subjects of being afraid of making ‘mistakes’ and perceiving recognition of a date/relationship not working out as a ‘failure’, I explained the danger of putting yourself in the Justifying Zone.
This is that slippery slope that [...]
Every time I talk with anybody that’s struggling with boundaries and even has objections to enforcing them, or who is struggling with other tricky areas such as criticism, or who are tarring people who are X with the same brush because they had a negative [...]
Often, when people tell me stories, while the situations in themselves that they describe may be awful, what can really appall me are the seriously dodgy conclusions that are jumped to. If you have major rumination and panicking sessions about what you think people are thinking/saying about you, or what you think [...]
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