‘Am I Self-Aware?’ Do You Trust, Listen To, Care For, and Know Yourself?

We’re often encouraged to be self-aware, but what does that mean? Here are some questions to help you answer the question Am I self-aware? Do you say no when you need, want to or even should? In those instances where you recognise you need to say no after saying yes,...

The True Purpose of Having Standards: Guiding You, Not Controlling Your Relationships

Something I see a lot of confusion around is the purpose of standards. We decide that we have certain standards, and when people behave in ways that don’t reflect these, we get mad at them. We try to persuade, guilt, or shame them into meeting our standards....

Beyond Surface Connections: From Common Ground to Shared Core Values

Whether we’re strangers, acquaintances, close friends, co-workers, family, or lovers, getting along drives our perception of the quality of the relationship and how secure we expect us to feel in the future. Think of getting along as the things we do to have...

What You Prioritise in Your Relationship Prevails

When we prioritise the core values of love, care, trust and respect, we stop getting sidetracked by what we think are signs of one of these values while sacrificing the presence and importance of another. If we want our relationships to go somewhere good, healthy,...

Four Core Values for Healthy Romantic Bonds

Mutually fulfilling relationships are that way because four core values, love, care, trust and respect, underpin them. These values are universal principles that apply to every loving relationship, romantic and otherwise, and there are always some or all missing in...