Podcast Ep. 38: The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy of Being Self-Critical, Make A Date With Worry, Relaxing In Unexpected Free Time

It’s time for another episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions. In episode 38, I cover: 38: Certain years in our life stand for certain lessons in our life and after turning 39 yesterday, I share what 38 meant for me including stretching my vulnerability. The vicious...

Let Your Anxious Younger Self Know That You Have Their Back

Experiencing a level of anxiety when we embark on dating again after previous setbacks is entirely normal. We tend to be quite hard on ourselves when we experience it though, exacerbating the anxiety, and making it difficult to get grounded and trust ourselves. People...

Podcast Ep. 6: Ask For Help, Stop Overfeeding Your Worry Fish, and You Can’t Have a Relationship If They Don’t Make Time

I’m all recovered from celebrating ten years of Baggage Reclaim with some of my crew here in London. Em DJ’d for the evening, everyone ate a lot of food and packed in a lot of drinks, and what was so heartwarming wasn’t just seeing my friends and...
Our imaginations can do a very good job of scaring us and creating Dynasty levels of drama in our heads

Our imaginations can do a very good job of scaring us and creating Dynasty levels of drama in our heads

A few days ago, I got a mini telling off from my mother over something I hadn’t done. I instinctively felt defensive when she raised the subject because I momentarily switched to being teenage Nat that felt as if her mother was riding her arse like Zorro with...
Do you have an Overactive Guilt Thyroid? Why it’s time to lose the misplaced sense of obligation over birthday greetings to exes, text replies etc

Do you have an Overactive Guilt Thyroid? Why it’s time to lose the misplaced sense of obligation over birthday greetings to exes, text replies etc

When I hear stories from readers regarding their angst about whether or not to do something, it becomes clear that when we tie ourselves up in knots over stuff like whether to send a birthday greeting to an ex, whether to agree to a favour, whether to reply to a text,...