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By: Five Reasons Men Leave Women They Love « The Blueprint Magazine

Five Reasons Men Leave Women They Love « The Blueprint Magazine — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 04:51:53 +0000

[...] of women are prepared to turn themselves into the sacrificial lamb of their relationships. They do Dicks Before Chicks behaviour and are so caught up in proving their worth by having a man in their life, that all of their [...]

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Thu, 14 Sep 2006 08:42:57 +0000

[...] I actually agree with this reason to an extent. I am a firm believer that a lot of women are prepared to turn themselves into the sacrificial lamb of their relationships. They do Dicks Before Chicks behaviour and are so caught up in proving their worth by having a man in their life, that all of their energy is directed towards him. This can be flattering at first but will eventually feel like a noose around his neck and on top of that, women who make the man the be all of everything, as if the sun rises and sets on them, generally end up miserable. We need to derive our self worth from ourselves, not from our relationship status. We must Get a Life. [...]

By: NML

NML — Tue, 22 Aug 2006 13:46:20 +0000

I agree with a lot of what you said. There are a lot of mixed social messages floating around and if you keep taking them in over a long period of time, it’s bound to affect your attitude and mindset. The last para was the best though because what women who behave in this way forget is that they send out a clear message to men and they can take advantage of our bad behaviour.

By: Brad K.

Brad K. — Mon, 21 Aug 2006 14:41:44 +0000

You set yourself an interesting project. Social engineering, a basic change to how society thinks and behaves, is a pretty thankless task.

It will be interesting to see in the next few years if the rate of divorce drops for certain people — people that read blogs before and while dating. People sharing how they look for casual partners, and how unsatisfying hasty choices keep turning out, may increase the interest of people to pick better the first time.

I think much of the greedy behavior is due to mass media advertising, especially in the fashion, auto, and clothing industries. Companies trying to better their income worry about market share, about being number one in some way — and convincing customers that they are number one, and also that being number one is ‘good’. TV and movie stories often display that one or two characters are ‘best’, the homecoming queen, the belle of the ball. And so we allow big media to train ourselves and our kids to think that skills to attract ‘the best’ guy — relying on commercials and ads to define what is ‘best’ — are necessary skills, and worthy life goals.

Really, though, the point of attracting a mate is *not* a life goal — it is the *start* of the rest of your life. A life where skills to attract guys/girls is a danger to the relationship.

I think you are seeing women looking for ‘dates’ — an interesting interlude, a sexy evening — as practice to improve their ‘attract’ skills and as minor recreation. Just think what would happen if each girl only dated and mated one guy. Look how much less turmoil, expensive frilly clothes, stressed weekends, and competition for guys would be going on.

Because the other side of the fighting among chicks? Some guys will *use* that against you.

Play nicely, girls!