The Magic Number
May 11, 2006 by Vixen
The magic number is pretty much the number of people that you’ve slept with from the day you lost your virginity until this present moment. Now according to American Pie, the magic number differs drastically between men and women. They said that guys tend to exaggerate their number (so divide whatever they tell you by 3), while women tend to downplay their number (so multiply by 3). However, in my experience, I’ve actually found this formula to be utterly flawed and totally irrelevant.
For starters, you could have been with only a few people and yet had tons more sex with those few than someone who has slept with more people. You could have had a coterie of activity in your boudoir and yet manage to pull off the wide-eyed naiveté to a tee. He could have slept with over two dozen women, but still manages to suck badly in bed! Do one night stands even count?
Although some of you might be curious to know what the magic number for your significant other is, sometimes it’s better not to know. Why does it even matter? Is it just a way for you to classify their ’sluttiness’ or categorise them in your mind as an experienced lover? Is it going to change how you feel about him, his level of expertise? Is knowing the magic number going to amplify your antics in the bedroom in any way?
My response to that question would have to be, “Bad girls don’t kiss and tell,” with a mysterious smile and leave him wondering.
Vixen is the Deputy Editor of Baggage Reclaim. Check out her blog the Bad Girls Guide.
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Very good article! My motto is “I don’t want to be a girl’s first. I want to be her last.”
-Stuck
It doesnt matter the number but purely the experience.
You have to learn and know what things your partner has done. You have to be mature and not feel inadequate when he/she shares these intimate details. He/She tells you something good that you have never done it opens the doors for new experiences. Or something was bad that you might want to tred water around.
The best example I can give is I asked my GF abou anal sex. At the time I had never done it but read a lot of stuff about using lots of lube and taking slow. [It should be noted that foreplay is key to great anal sex] I told her that’s cool maybe in the future we can talk about it again. I told her I would do my best not to hurt her. Then out of the blue she said I could. This first time was OK. I guess men like it because it’s nice and tight and indeed it is. I never thought a woman would have an orgasm from it. After the second time we did it she panted I can’t believe I had an orgasm that way.
The moral of the story is communication. This is something that has to be maturely communicated.