If you’ve ever felt close to tearing your hair out wondering how you’ll cope with the fact that you’ve cut contact with someone or how you’ll ever get yourself out of a vicious cycle of get back together, realise things haven’t changed, end things, kneejerk back to them or get drawn in when they pursue you, and lather, rinse, repeat, The No Contact Rule is here to help you find your way to freedom.
Fight the compulsion to keep trying for a relationship, attention, and validation and understand why No Contact is often the only way to extricate yourself out of unhealthy dynamics with the type of people that don’t respect or empathise with your feelings. Grab back your power and move on to a healthier, happier you.
No Contact is ideal when someone just won’t break up, but isn’t prepared to commit to being and doing what is expected of them. No Contact teaches boundaries and imposes limits both on yourself and the other person. This detailed comprehensive survival guide provides all the info you need to understand what no contact is, why it’s necessary and effective, what they’re thinking, breaking your pattern and understanding your compulsion, dealing with NC with co-workers or the parent of your child, how to stay the course, and get onto rebuilding your life so that you can move on.
The No Contact Rule eBook will be available to buy from this weekend (I’ll post when I have set it up), however, if you would like to get your hands on a copy, 10 of you will be able to do so – there will also be something similar arranged for Facebook fans and Ning members, so you have up to 3 chances to get a copy. Other than leaving a comment to register your interest in receiving one, I’d appreciate your feedback once you’ve finished reading it 
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Update – The No Contact Rule is now available to buy
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I would love a copy. I edit blogs and submissions for a living and hoping to bring a proposal to the powers that be to have a blog focusing on relationships.
Can’t wait to read it…
I’d love to receive one! Thanks!
I want a copy!!! I am on 3.5 months of NC and finally feeling like myself again… I have made the shift in my thinking despite the moments where I just really want to hear from him… It is definitely the best way to go:)
would love a copy of the ebook, keep up the great work.
*raises hand for free copy*
I’d be interested in a copy of your e-book about No Contact
I want one!
I just want to say that your website has been helping me SO MUCH since September! I’ve been lurking and not making comments, but I think I’ve read just about every single article (and some more than once) since then! I broke off my 5-year relationship with an emotionally unavailable assclown and have been struggling with the no contact thing ever since.
It seems like I’m always dragged back into an argument or some “deep” conversation just because he says something to get to me… (manipulating!) My new year’s resolution is to rid myself of his poison in my life and get HAPPY on my own! I want to be single, fabulous, and loving life without worrying about what that asshat is doing! 
Thanks, Natalie for writing such great articles and understanding where all of us girls are coming from! I’d love to read your no contact e-book and give it a review… I definitely need it!
Hi ya
Please sign me up!
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Natalie-
Thank you so much for helping me through this tumultuous year. Your website was therapy for me every night after work until unfortunately, I broke NC in October after 7 months of no calling, texting, or emailing. The pain is even worse than it was before and now I must start all over again.
I would love to receive a copy of your new ebook. I think it would really help me to get my feet back on the ground and start the year off right. I look forward to getting strong and learning to love myself again.
I’d love one! I loved your first e-book…can’t wait to get my hands on the next one! : )
Your website has been my lifeline for the last month. I really mean it. Thank you for all you write; when I feel like I can’t go one more minute I log on to the computer, and now my phone’s browser to read a bit so I can carry on. I would love a copy of your book, and am so frickin’ grateful to have found your site. Really.
K
I love your site and I would be very grateful to have a copy of your book. Having just broken up with an EUM I need as much help as I can get right now.
Thanks
C
I’d love one please! This website has been extremely helpful!
I too would love a copy. The knowledge I’ve gained through reading your articles and everyone’s posts has given me much insight and understanding as to the ex-EUM in my life. I find this knowledge is empowering and helps me to continue the NC rule. Thank you!
I would like to have a copy. Your last book about Mr Uanavailable and the Fall Back Girl, was like a life saver for me. At least it saved my sanity!
I really look forward to read your new book! Keep on with the good work Natalie, and I wish you and your family a Happy New Year!
I would love love love to be entered for the book! Thank you for what you’ve posted already- I have found all of your materials to be so helpful. I’d be happy to review it for you as well.
I’ve been in a off again – on again relationship for the last 8yrs.
I never know when we’re together or when we’re not…The drama in “SO” exhausting on my heart and my health! I know I have a part in the drama and want to change that,,,I try, try and try again to get him to see my point of view..even for just a moment…But nothing makes any difference. I think he truly “CANNOT” step outside of his..ME< ME< ME attitude to consider anyone but himself..I am about to pull my hair out!
I need to regain my value and dignity and get out of this…. I'm just not sure how to end it…. for good!
I hope your No Contact will be the start of a great new year and I can find my way back….TO ME!!
I would love a copy of your ebook. Please sign me up!
Thank you!
I would love your new book to keep me on the right path.
I can’t read enough of of this stuff!
x
Would love a copy!
I would love a copy as well. No contact has saved my sanity, and I am surprised at how hard it still can be at times, after so many months. This site has done so much for me!
Hi Nat,
I would love a copy
I stumbled upon your blog earlier this month and I can’t tell you how much it has helped me realize that I am responsible for my own happiness and I have the power to make those choices. I’ve been in an on and off “non-relationship” for almost a year, dumping emotional energy into something that wasn’t being reciprocated (and probably would never be any time soon). Every time I tried to end it, contact would be initiated by him, and I was manipulated back into speaking when nothing had changed. I recently ended it as a promise to myself to not bring baggage into the new year. I would love a copy of your new e-book, but regardless of whether I receive it or not, I just wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart for your honesty and wisdom.
I, too, would LOVE a copy. Your words have resonated in a way that none have ever quite before. You’ve been in the war, have survived intact and are thus able to advise us in a no-nonsense yet empathetic way. Your words have helped me get past the BS with which I tried to fool myself and I’ve made such invaluable progress with this addiction. Still have a way to go, though, but I’m trying to keep my eyes open now instead of closed now. Kinda like that Tom Cruise movie, “Eyes Wide Shut.”
I would be grateful to recieve a copy and happy to provide feedback…I am trying to maintain no contact with my abusive soon to be ex-husband (we have kids so it’s not easy), a married assclown who keeps looking for an ego stroke, and my textbook EUM ex-boyfriend who popped up after disappearing for years. This one is an email/texting only hot and cold blowing future faker. I could use all the help I can get…:-)
please sign me in for a free copy of your i cant even buy it from my country coz we do not have paypal facility. thank you.
I would like to win a copy
Hello, pls sign me up for a copy!!
I would love to receive a copy of your new ebook too!!! I cant wait to read it !
thanks NML!
I’d deeply appreciate the chance to read your e-book. Unfortunately needed…..but I’m doing o.k. at 6 mos. no contact. Although he’s mailed Christmas gifts….I have still resisted.
I’d love a copy. I’ve been NC for 4 months but found out he’ll be in one of my classes this semester. I don’t want to have to start from scratch again! Thanks!
I love your emails and web site! I desperately need a copy of your e-book…..I have been the fallback girl for 3 years; am in no contact for 2 days now and do NOT want to fall back again. Thanks
Thanx 4 your brilliant articles,I’ve never posted before. Bought Mr Unavailable and got 2nd edition and clearly you know exactly wot ur talkin about..I’d like 2 know if we all know the same Mr Unavailable !!!!! It’s absurd 2 think that there are loads of them in the world…I just can’t beleev it !! Anyway, thanx 4 all that you do,ur research and ur writing must take up so much of ur time. I’d love a free copy, but I’ll buy it anyway. thanx
I would love a copy. Day 3 of NC and I’m having a very difficult time. Very sentimental and emotional, but came to this website to get the strength I need to get the life I deserve. Thank you
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Yes Please!! Find your whole site amazing, Its so nice knowing Im not the only one and that its not ALL my fault …. Happy New Year Ladies … Sue xx
I’m in day 78 of NC and would love to have your book to keep me strong and focused. Thanks
Your blog has been an inspiration to me and of great help at a time when I felt so lost and confused. I would love to have a copy of the ebook as I am struggling with the NC including my FORMER best friend who I also work with who is with my EX EUM.
Thanks for all you do. Happy New Year too
I’d love a copy, please. I think I’m going to need one:( Your words may be the extra strength to bolster my offense. Additionally, I share your site with needy friends all the time!
I would be so grateful for a copy of your ebook Natalie. Your website has been a life saver for me, since I was never able to afford counseling for the pain I endured with my EUM. Instead I read online to help me and tried to find groups that might be supportive—but nothing really seemed to fit what I was going through and I got so discouraged & basically blamed myself. it has been a hard road until I found this place and now I fully understand what I was dealing with. I come here as therapy and even though I still have hurt, it’s kept me strong to leave him alone. In the 10yrs I was in my relationship, I could never do that for long until I came here and now I am learning how to love myself again. Be continually Blessed Natalie and thank you for caring.
Heck yea I’d like a copy….
I would absolutely love to read this book. Best wishes for 2010 and beyond.
I’m going through this, as I type. It’s been almost 7 months, but I think about him everyday. He’s the first thing I think about, and the last thing on my mind when I go to sleep. I go back and forth with hoping to hear from him and having him proclaim his “dying love for me,” but on the other hand I’m so glad to be in the push me, pull me game he plays.
He’s been a friend for 14 years and we talked daily. I’m married and so is he. I knew he was “unavilable” as was I, but I truly enjoyed the friendship that we have had all those years. Our affair had only been physical for a year and a half. Man did he change once we slept together. He’s very controlling and would refer to me as “his.” He’s the type of man who has numerous “emotional affairs” or “attachments” to women. They are guised in him “counseling” them as he did my husband and me, but I’ve caught on to his game. I keep feeling bad b/c I told him about the emotional attachment that I see between he and another woman. I discussed it numerous times with him and he assured me … anyway, I found out this lady and her family went camping w/he and his wife. Although I was hurt, I was so happy to have my sucpicions validated. Not just my suspicions about him “leading” this woman on, but that he didn’t care about me. I would tell him that he didn’t, but he had a way of distorting my perception and getting me to believe his lies when I knew better. I’m so embarassed that I’ve betrayed all parties involved. And sadly, all I can say is, “I thought he loved me.” Knowing there’s two sides to a relationship I bought his victimization and projection of his wife. I was always in his corner being his little cheerleader. Now I feel, awful, and really don’t have adequate words to speak of the horrible betrayal that I did to his wife and my husband. This man cannot admit to being angry or any wrong doing. He even hurt his wife by letting her see text messages between he and I that didn’t exactly say what we were doing, but it hinted to it. I suspect, though, that he has told her that I came onto him b/c she has stopped talking to me. The weird thing, though, is that she only talks to me (this was before I established the no contact rule) when he gives her permission. The woman who I left him over and his wife let him control them to the point of them not thinking for themselves. I know he was trying to get me to be the same way, but I prayed and asked God to send me one more life line to get myself away from him and God did. It has been difficult yet easy. He has gotten in touch w/me one time, four months after I asked him not to contact me. He sent me three text messages that all said, “Hey.” That’s all I was worth. He didn’t fight for me at all. I did send him something to my blog that I’d written for thanksgiving, but saw where he opened it for 10s and sent it to his wife who read through it for 18 min. So I don’t know what that was about. I’ve decided though not to contact him, but I’m so afriad of what i’m going to do if he contacts me. I think at this point I’m safe and he’s moved on, but just in case I’d like to be prepared.
Natalie, I am definitely interested in a copy as I continue to struggle with No Contact…would be a nice reference book for my consistently weak moments…
Shame on me! Am I the 39th on the list? How can I miss that? Nat, you’ve been my therapist during these difficult times. I definitely want one! I even want the ones that I missed before! My salute to you!!!! Happy holidays to all.
I would like a copy too!
Me too!
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