Askmen recently launched The Player’s Bootcamp series of articles which provides men with a series of exercises which force guys “to learn by rote, rather than by mere suggestion, the core set of traits and skills required to follow through on the Player’s advice.” The Player is a columnist who is teaching guys how to play the game by giving seduction and sexual techniques, and between the various articles, the microsites where seemingly hundreds of thousands of men pay $14.95 a month to learn how to get into our knickers, Askmen has it covered. Make no mistake ladies, these guys are not looking to get to know you, as in the person; it’s all just one big game. People keep saying that dating and relationships isn’t a game, but if one person is playing, you will get played unless you play too, or become aware of the type of BS techniques that there are out there and be alert.
The act of picking up women as a game is a way of giving men the opportunity to attempt to pull but distancing themselves from the results. This is great for a guy because he gets to insulate his ego (penis and brain) from negative results but also gets to understand why women react to certain types of his behaviour so that he can establish a pattern.
The first article that I have checked out is the The Player’s Bootcamps: Camp Rejection.
Exercise 1: The Rejection Pot
“Wagers On Quantity: Before you head out with your buddies, each of you agrees to put $20 into a pot. At the end of the night, whoever gets rejected the most times wins the pot. “
Ladies, little did you realise, but saying no is making money for some guys! Guys that try out this game not only make some money from rejection, but with any luck they actually managed to get some interest from some women, so they are quids in. I’m not remotely surprised that not only are men competing as usual, but they’ve managed to put a wager on it. However, the article does caution guys against going for the money and using tactics to boost numbers, because this little game is supposed to be about learning pick up tricks. The game can also be switched around so that it focuses on quality and it’s about the least number of rejections. Personally I think it’s a bit late to be talking about quality over quantity…
Exercise 2: The 3-Second Approach
“You have to train your brain out of relapsing into self-doubt. Let action replace deliberation and force yourself to make a move immediately: Upon choosing a target, set yourself a limit of three seconds to approach her. Once the three seconds have passed, force yourself to abort. Tough luck bud, you missed your chance.”
So beware of men approaching you in out of the ordinary places such as malls and public transport zones where you are more likely to be embarrassed by their approach. The ironic thing is that this so called ‘random approach’ is supposed to be perceived as spontaneous rather than premeditated making the woman more comfortable and trusting of the guy.
Exercise 3: Day Quotas ”Set yourself a goal of a certain number of women to approach in a day. Five is a good number. You might do most of this assignment walking home from work downtown, for example. Take whatever detours are necessary to go where the women are and make contact — malls, shops, cafes, bus stops, waiting at a crosswalk, etc. ”
Again like the 3-second approach, this is totally premeditated and calculated.
Exercise 4: Avoid Self-Pleasure
”The civilized man fears rejection. The primal animal has no concern for the social order and couldn’t give a damn what people think of him. Reduce yourself to an animal by laying off the masturbation; your sense of self-awareness and social hierarchy will dissolve and be replaced by your raging libido. This exercise is all about readjusting your perception of rejection: Stop thinking of it as a social evaluation (i.e. she stuffed me, so I’m a loser) and start thinking of it as a means to an end (if this woman won’t agree to satisfy my man-lust, I must find another who will).”
I am truly amazed at this, because this advice is being given as if every guy is completely normal and is in total control of himself and his faculties. At least he has the good grace to advise that if the guy feels himself becoming aggressive, he should “..abort this exercise. After all, women do have feelings and deserve respect.” No shit, Sherlock.
This is the problem that I have with The Player’s Bootcamp. The very act of being cold, calculated, and premeditated to achieve quotas and goals shows a complete disregard for a woman’s feelings and does disrespect her. The reason why these men can do these ridiculous exercises is because women are unaware that they are part of a game, a numbers quest. It’s all about putting a woman in her comfort zone when she should actually be extremely wary. These exercises and the other guides for wannabe Player’s can only appeal to the type of man that just wants to boost his ego with pick-up’s and sex. Every guy is interested in getting laid, but there are some that can see beyond that to the fulfilling aspects a relationship.
I am afraid for women with all of this game carry-on. Yes there are a certain number of women out there looking for just a shag, but I am loathe to believe that there is this cold, premeditated numbers game taking place with most women, shag or not. This is what we have been reduced to, numbers, with a shag on the end of it. The Player’s Bootcamp appeals to the competitive, methodical, logical side of a man, and enables men to view us as commodities shifting in and out of view. Stock ‘em high, sell ‘em cheap. It’s all about boosting the ego and holding back any real emotion. It’s about picking up and moving on to the next challenge.
Beware ladies and pay attention. If you think you smell a rat, you do smell a rat and no matter how attractive the prospect is of nabbing him or trying to change him, you are just another conquest. Abort the chase.
I’m curious as to how a man switches from being a numbers man, to being someone that wants to be in a committed, monogamous relationship? Are there lessons for this? I bloody doubt it!
NML is the editor of Baggage Reclaim
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There are many ways to go about things like that. My girlfriend wouldnt have given me the time of day if I hadnt swept her off her feet before she realized she was “way out of my league”(lol). Some years back I read a few books and some online material and it did change my outlook on life, What alot of these guys simply needs is what theyre dad didnt teach em, common problem today
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Overcoming your fear is good. If a guy is afraid to talk to women he should force himself to approach alot of women and talk to them imo. To make bets about getting in to women’s pants is concidered distasteful in many “pick-up” communities.
The 3sec rule is an old principle used to avoid “analysis paralysis” or getting killed by your inner dialogue (most men think too much especially around women). Most of the guys i know in the seduction community didnt get into it because the wanted to have sex with alot of girls, They got into it because whatever they did they couldnt get any interest from girls they liked. Social conditioning was a big problem for me, I had a totally wrong idea of what women wanted and also of what I wanted myself it turned out, same problem I see with many guys. My girlfriend knows im into this stuff tho its more about the whole social-dynamic thing by now. She said once that she liked knowing that i was with her because I loved her, not because i dont have options. Many guys should stop whining and pick up a book or something (none of that hype stuff in men’s magazines tho) since whining is not very masculine and doing something about you life definately is. Just a few thoughts from a “player” in his 30s.
I came here looking for women’s attitudes towars this stuff, Interesting forum.
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