Threesomes: Relationship Risk or Reward?

Oh the threesome! It’s hot, it’s sensual, and it’s sexy. We all think about it, ok perhaps only 95% of us think about it. My point being it crosses our minds. It’s known that most guys have a fantasy of a threesome, but truth be known women think about it too. After all who doesn’t want two people pleasuring them at the same time? What guy doesn’t want to watch two girls explore one another? I can’t think of a man who doesn’t desire having two women go down on them for a blowjob that gives them double the pleasure. As for women, well let’s just say we just know how to make women scream with our tongues; sorry guys it just comes natural.

Truthfully don’t we all find it enticing to know there are two people that crave us and are in the same room at the same time? Let’s just say there is something exciting and risqué about a threesome. However, the real question is does a threesome pose a risk to a relationship or is it a rewarding experience? That’s a topic that could be up for a heated debate.

First off, ladies I have a surprise for you. Your guy may want a threesome, but he’d prefer that it not include his wife or girlfriend. Don’t believe me? Just ask them - I have. Believe it or not most men actually want their threesome to be with two women that they are not in a relationship with and preferably not know. Reason? Fewer complications.

Does this however stop couples from exploring this exciting, but almost publicly forbidden act? No. Many couples experiment, but often this played-out fantasy can cause problems within a relationship. It can bring up trust issues, feelings of inadequacy, and even result in the unfortunate end of a relationship. Remember it’s not as easy as it looks to turn fantasy into reality.
It’s true there are many couples that can explore this alternative and sexy charade, but the majority must deal with unforeseen consequences. My advice to you; consider the risk. There are emotions that may rear their ugly heads that you thought you had control over. For example are you prepared for the following:

Feelings of Jealousy
Feeling of Inadequacy
Lack of Trust
Bitterness
Resentment
With that being said consider how difficult it is for two people to “click” when it comes to sexual compatibility, now add a third. Can you see my point?

We all know threesomes occur often and truth is the experience can be amazing with the right people and dynamics. Just remember that if you are couples considering branching out for this type of rendezvous talk about it first. Talk about it till you’ve covered every scenario. Be sure both of you are ready for such an experience. Make it clear that if one person becomes uncomfortable in the situation it’s ok to stop. Only you can decide if a threesome is right for you and the only way you will know is by discussing it openly and setting boundaries before it happens.

Contributed by Risque Smile

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