Comments on: Toxic Friendships http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/toxic-friendships/ Self Esteem|Dating|Relationships|Emotional Unavailability|Commitment| Fri, 10 Feb 2012 23:22:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Gee http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/toxic-friendships/comment-page-1/#comment-224499 Gee Mon, 06 Apr 2009 04:26:54 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/toxic-friendships/#comment-224499 Great post... I am so fortunite to have discovered that toxic friendships aren't a matter of my imagination. When I severed ties with my unheathy father (who was abusive) to improve my life --- I started practicing the power of "trusting in my instincts"... I've always had a certain feeling the friendship was off and had a negative tone in subtle forms but wasn't willing to accept it because it wasn't very tangible evidence. I realized after I ended the friendship after good reason and good decision, that she is a negative person and I am not the only person who feels the way I do. It's so important to surround yourself with the right people and let go of those who aren't--as hard as it may be sometimes... Some of the subtle forms would be: we were with a group of friends out to dinner, someone complimented me on my hair and she asked "oh, you must have took an hour to do that!"... almost like the devil herself as she slowely moved her neck and face towards me LOLOL and she said the same exact thing a few weekends later when I got another compliment like "what did your hair take you 3 hours"... at that point I had a feeling before hand I needed to end this friendship and realized that she was taking her deep sense of shame out on me... very complex but glad I'm out of that situation. Great post… I am so fortunite to have discovered that toxic friendships aren’t a matter of my imagination. When I severed ties with my unheathy father (who was abusive) to improve my life — I started practicing the power of “trusting in my instincts”… I’ve always had a certain feeling the friendship was off and had a negative tone in subtle forms but wasn’t willing to accept it because it wasn’t very tangible evidence. I realized after I ended the friendship after good reason and good decision, that she is a negative person and I am not the only person who feels the way I do. It’s so important to surround yourself with the right people and let go of those who aren’t–as hard as it may be sometimes…

Some of the subtle forms would be:
we were with a group of friends out to dinner, someone complimented me on my hair and she asked “oh, you must have took an hour to do that!”… almost like the devil herself as she slowely moved her neck and face towards me LOLOL and she said the same exact thing a few weekends later when I got another compliment like “what did your hair take you 3 hours”… at that point I had a feeling before hand I needed to end this friendship and realized that she was taking her deep sense of shame out on me… very complex but glad I’m out of that situation.

]]> By: Elsie http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/toxic-friendships/comment-page-1/#comment-125499 Elsie Thu, 14 Feb 2008 07:42:54 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/toxic-friendships/#comment-125499 Ooooh! Good post! I have a couple of posts on this topic, too: <a href="http://singletude.blogspot.com/2008/02/who-to-choose-as-friends-part-i.html" rel="nofollow">Who to Choose as Friends, Part I</a> <a href="http://singletude.blogspot.com/2008/02/who-to-choose-as-friends-part-ii.html" rel="nofollow">Who to Choose as Friends, Part II</a> Ooooh! Good post!

I have a couple of posts on this topic, too:

Who to Choose as Friends, Part I
Who to Choose as Friends, Part II

]]> By: Jodie http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/toxic-friendships/comment-page-1/#comment-125489 Jodie Thu, 14 Feb 2008 07:21:49 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/toxic-friendships/#comment-125489 So true! about 6 months ago i rekindled a friendship that had ended rather dramatically. Shortly after this, my partner of 2 years left me. My new found friend was very attentive, and wanted to spend a lot of time with me. However, i found that she would talk about herself a lot and her new job. She just seemed so happy. I thought it was very insensitive seeing as though i was extremely down, but i was happy for her anyway. As soon as my life did a 180, when things were great and i got a great job etc, she refused to talk to me. She went cold and hostile and tried to pull me down. Classic example of someone who is incapable of being happy for someone else, and someone is not a good friend at all So true! about 6 months ago i rekindled a friendship that had ended rather dramatically. Shortly after this, my partner of 2 years left me. My new found friend was very attentive, and wanted to spend a lot of time with me. However, i found that she would talk about herself a lot and her new job. She just seemed so happy. I thought it was very insensitive seeing as though i was extremely down, but i was happy for her anyway. As soon as my life did a 180, when things were great and i got a great job etc, she refused to talk to me. She went cold and hostile and tried to pull me down. Classic example of someone who is incapable of being happy for someone else, and someone is not a good friend at all

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