Young women are often too nice and too unsuspecting, which is what gets them into these situations. Not their clothes. They don’t understand the obsession quite yet and don’t know how to throw an intelligent man off their scent with just a few words and/or body language. Instant understanding. It’s not wrong to be attracted. But it is lame to not know how to act decently and respectfully. Creeper men need to be dealt with more bluntly.

I think Richard has the best solution. Turn them down swiftly, leave as little room for doubt as possible. Tell them when their staring is uncomfortable and to stop it. They know what they’re doing. As for the trying to be your friend first guy… my exact words: “Obvious guy is obvious even when he imagines otherwise. I don’t want to date you. Moving on now.” Keep it light, exact, and don’t offer explanations. The only reason why anyone wants to hear an explanation is to rationalize hope. Otherwise, they don’t want to hear it. They really don’t.

And anyone saying that women only have to sit back and wait is wrong too. If a woman is interested in a particular guy, she’d be a fool to not do something to let him know she’s attracted to him… even if she just asks him out herself.

Tiek you mention about star signs, Gemini with Cancer raising so I would be introverted as rather to the stereotypical Gemini, he is a Scorpio I think but some sites say he is a Sagittarius and I don’t know his raising sign,

Now you know possibky why I am freaked a tad……he’s the typical possessive and jealous scorpio male whose reasoning has seemed to have vanished completely!

My unwanted suitor, (baring in mind he has a partner who he lives with) raced the bus a big like cross country coach on a single carriageway road which has twists in it, then he sends his mates to spy on me and he does it himself. Combine that with the increasing feeling of fear I am getting when he on the way in, I seen him parked across from the bus when it was at a bus stop!

Then he makes sexual advances when I am already wary from seeing him on the road stalk the bus on the way in!

There is a difference Jake between love and posession! I got a freaky posession guy who is known to behave a bit wierd about women but he case with me is different as he iis a LOT worse than what he usually.

Imagine you’ve been stalked and you feel you can’t go anywhere as he is watching your every move, then later on he starts masterbating against you (rubbing erect nipples against you) and saying “i want to make love to you” when you are already scared that you are visibly shaking!

Slight difference between my situation and what you are saying, of course you will get men who are attracted to you, but they don’t try and kill you?

You want attention but only from men you find attractive? Gee I only want work assignments I find fun and interesting but it doesn’t work that way now does it?

Women already have the enviable position of not having to approach men at all, they can just sit back and reject to their hearts content without ever having to deal with the pressure of being rejected, insulted, ignored or ridiculed. Even with this position of advantage you still won’t take the responsibility to be clear and direct with people as well as putting up with the rest of humanity who isn’t necessarily interested in making life perfect for you.

We all deal with things we don’t enjoy, bad drivers on the road, rude bosses and for you, men who don’t meet your standard complementing you by expressing interest. Contrary to some of the comments in here, it is not illegal and it is not “assault” to tell a women she is attractive. GET OVER IT!

Try the CAT principal:

Calm
Accepting
Thankful

You could be so hideous no man would talk to you, you could live in a country where your only worry is food and water. Enjoy your life and try being a bit compassionate towards the men who are forced into this game you hate so much by womankind in general.

Peace!

I FEEL A WEIGHT HAS BEEN LIFTED!!!

I would not push their buttons, but stand up, when you see them staring at you and ask did you need some help with something. Maybe that will take them out of their sick demented trans they are in. Even with the picture taking, make it known that you know.

If they think you are a fragile flower, they may never back off. Stand up for yourself, and maybe it will help it to all come to a stop. Let them know as someone else had said, read everthing to them you have documented. If they see that it is all documented they know they will not have a leg to stand on when it all blows up.

He isn’t thinking of you – he is obsessed, he is indulging in sex fantasies. You do have to draw attention to his antics. If you can set your phone or camera to record dates and times, take pictures each time his behavior catches your attention. This will fix the time of each episode. Your notes will describe the incident.

Because this really sounds creepy. If someone at work should ask about the picture taking, explain you are documenting his pattern of harassment.

Take care, dear heart.

The guy is playing mind games!!