Vixen’s Thoughts on: Back Door Entry
February 22, 2006 by Vixen
It’s happened to most of us, you get in a good sexual groove with a guy, and then out of the blue, he presents you with the all time most annoying sexual request. You cringe, knowing what was to come, and yet knowing that he would ask you anyway. “Can we try anal sex?”
Why in the world do guys like anal sex so much and what’s a girl gonna do when presented with this option?
Definition: Back Door Entry is pretty much the nickname for anal sex. Also known as tossing the salad, driving the dirt track, corndigging and I’m sure 20 other names that have to do with eeerrr, it.
Rumour has it that guys like anal sex because it is tighter, in a more circular, tunnelly way than the vagina; which is still tight but not as tight, but in a more florally petal, fisty way. Apparently the vagina expands around their penises too quickly and the bum is always tight. They like it because it’s different from the norm, not on the menu that much, used to be a taboo, some kind of dominant/submissive thing and they get the classic view of your butt.
We hate it because it friggin hurts, don’t believe that stuff should go in through the exit door and we feel like we are going to crap all over your penis. Added to that, it isn’t that fun, nor as comfortable, and the only person orgasming is you. Why would I want to feel like I’m about to go to the bathroom during sex? That’s not a feeling that I would like to associate with anything sexual. Uuugh. Why don’t you let me stick a dildo in your ass just for the fun of it? Yeah, betcha wouldn’t like that, and if you did, then maybe you should start batting for the other team.
You might argue that with lube, it doesn’t hurt as much, and we are “resisting having fun with your body”, especially the fact that the nerve endings around the anus are interconnected with the pelvic muscles and it is possible to orgasm if you “let yourself go” but that still doesn’t offset the fact that your thick 4-9 incher is not going to fit into my little bum hole without pain no matter how much you try to cajole me it will. It defies the laws of physics. Even Newton knew that!
Perchance, with much pain and suffering on my part, you manage to get it in, there are bodily side effects AFTER the sexual encounter that we have to deal with, embarrassing farts, messed up digestive cycles, hemmorhoids, bleeding, cuts, and expanded butt hole and sundry other effects that you won’t even have to experience. Please tell me where the joy is there?
Our bodies were created a certain way for a reason. The sign clearly says EXIT ONLY, no entry. So no thank you. I’m an accommodating and a big ass freak in the bedroom, yet I make it a firm policy not to allow anything in my bum. It is just not going to friggin happen. End of story.
PS: If you are a woman that enjoys anal sex (apparently 39% of us do), feel free to expansiate in the comments section.
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Well, I too until recently was 100% against anal sex. My guy is quite a bit older than I am, which means is into a little more freakish sex games than I am. I just realized, I love this man, and telling him no is no longer an option. The first time we tried anal, he was very gentile. Only putting the tip in just as a tease. Every few minutes putting it in a little bit more. Eventually I let him finish. And yes I have children, I thought the fact that I already had hemmorhoids was going to make it soooo painful. But I promise you, it was a little uncomfortable, but not at all painful. Once I got the thought that he was in my as* out of my head, it was ok. You just have to have an agreement with your guy that when you say your finished, he stops. Also saying he has to be sooo gentile. Now that I am used to it, there are sooo many positions you can do anal. And not saying that it gives you pleasure as a woman persay, but it makes him feel good knowing that you would be that open to do it for him. While he is in there you can always use sex toys to pleasure yourself, or he can even do it for you. (but he will love to watch you do it yourself) Once you open up to your guy, the sex and love making will go to a whole new level.
I absolutely will NOT try anal sex. My feelings on anal sex are as follows, if he wants to use my behind, then I have to look at him twice, I feel that this is strictly an EXIT area. Though my man knows that I won’t do this, he’s not into it, but my reply to men who have asked is this let me put a broom handle up your butt, then we MIGHT talk.
AMEN Vixen AMEN!!!! Sorry I didn’t read your comment, I agree 100%!!!
I never thought I would like anal sex but my man asked one night to try it and I agreed, yes it hurt and I was so wanting to please him that i just grtted my teeth when he relized it hurt me the next day he brought me flowers and it went awhile before we did again then I read up alot on it and offered to try again he went to an adult store and bought a product called “anal ease” it is wonderful and when he gets me really excited he knows I am all game for rear entry and while he is there I please myself for him and he gets off even more watching me but when I say its enough he respects that and stops but most of the time I start talking dirty and he knows to shoot his wad now or never. If you have the proper trust it is a wonderful experiance.
My experience is that some women enjoy and request anal sex.Anything by mutual consent is ok BUT men should accept that no means no.anyway there is so much to enjoy .
I adore the back door. It is not painful if the guy knows what he is doing and you do too. It is very exciting, feels great and brings me to the top of the mountain faster than anything. It is for me very beautiful because of the feeling of being so connected and trusting of my man. Also, if the guy wants to receive it, it does NOT make him gay. That is a social myth/constuction. Gay men are ATTRACTED to men…they do not go with men just to have anal sex. Straight men who like give or receive anal are attracted to women. Sometimes we confuse technique with sexual orientation.
When all is said and done, it is a matter of preference and choice. Its cool if you prefer it or don’t.
My thoughts on anal sex, If I am gonna take it up the butt…………THEN SO IS HE. Think about that one guys!!!! Still like anal sex? Hey come on this is the 21st century. Sex is not always about what you guys want. Although most men appear to be homophobic, I think men love to be touched anally. And that is why I think men like anal sex. But because men dont want to be considered gay in any way shape or form, the next best thing is to have anal sex with a woman.
I love anal sex. I ask my b/f to give me anal, the thrill of playing with my clit whilst I am having anal sex is delicious, the contrast of pain and pleasure is wicked, I have had my biggest orgasms during anal sex. I respect women who don’t like it but get off your feminine high horses and accept some of us do! It’s no different to women who like or don’t like oral, so live and let live.
Blow me Mel.
Men like to fuck female ass not cos we r gay but cuz we like the control. women r so needy and theres nuttin better makin a woman take it up the ass even tho she hates it and have her role play a screaming orgasm. And b4 u get outraged check out porno flciks where women with shaved pussy beg 4 anal. we live in a male dominated world so get over it, if u wanna sound off, sound off at the porn starlets who fuel men’s fantasies
Most people don’t like something because they either:
1) Fear it…..
or
2) Have had a bad experience with it.
Luckily the first man that I had anal sex with was so gentle and understanding. He took his time and it really was a pleasurable experience once I was able to relax. I will continue to do it because it does feel great, but if you don’t want to do it, it’s your choice and I’m not going to say otherwise. I just thought that I would share that it really isn’t as bad as it seems and can be a great alternative when a woman has her time of the month also. (I don’t mind doing it then either but sometimes it’s just too MESSY).
The key to good anal,is to relax, take your time and use lube. I love it if it’s done properly. Any guy who rams it in so it feels like a red hot poker needs telling straight, that way’s a no no.
wether to have anal sex is totally a joint descision, my first experience with anal sex was VERY unpleasant i didnt have the chance to say no with my ex before he said oops and carried on wether i liked it or not !! my new man now asked me the other day and i agreed. he was very gentle and understanding. he treat me perfect making sure i was ok with what he was doing. i must say its an experience that i would want to do again. many women wont let their man touch them in that area…. id say ….. dont knock it till youve tried it…… you never know … you might like it.
ps. i also think that a good man will understand if you say no and will respect that answer.
Just let him eat your ass for 5 minutes before he puts it in. That way you get all relaxed and lubed up.
By the way, I never ask and just slowly start moving over to the area. If you do it like that it’s much more natural and the succes rate much, much higher :).
And to the author; all men want anal sex from their woman. It’s not a real relationship without it. It’s like buying flowers or candy. You don’t need it every day; just now and then.