Vocally oral ? A Guy’s Guide to Going Down

September 27, 2005 by NML

“Jesus Christ Woman! It’s not a chicken bone” is what I thought the first time I received fellatio, given that this occurred while we were both young and inexperienced in carnal matters, but as time has progressed the problem has unfortunately not remedied itself.With each consecutive try, and with each consecutive partner, who always claims to be the next best thing… disappointment soon follows. Hence, I have put together a list of five things that can make the experience better for you, and them, and remember practice makes perfect.

Here is a list of helpful pointers and when visiting the land of manual / oral.

Contrary to popular belief the penis is not made out of wood.Constant tugging, overly forceful pulling and rubbing, (and extreme pulling back of the foreskin in uncircumcised males) can and does in fact cause pain and may cause chafing. The penis is a sensitive mechanism, embedded with nerve endings that are in their own right very sensitive, and the use of excessive force is not necessary. When playing with your man’s little man, be sensual, rub the head between your thumb and fingers, make your hand motions fluid. This will go a very long way.

Teeth are never ok, ever.“But my boyfriend said he likes it.” No, he was being nice. Teeth, like forceful tugging hurt, and can instil very bad images in the head of your partner. They should be avoided at all costs unless your partner explicitly asks for you to use them.

Be versatile There’s more to it then him lying there, in bed. Experiment – try it while he is standing, or while he’s sitting in a chair, or in the kitchen, cooking dinner, and of course vice versa on you as well. This should get him intrigued and excited, bring some extra excitement into your sex lives, and trust me, he will thank you thrice fold in the end.

There’s more to it then him lying there, in bed. Experiment – try it while he is standing, or while he’s sitting in a chair, or in the kitchen, cooking dinner, and of course vice versa on you as well. This should get him intrigued and excited, bring some extra excitement into your sex lives, and trust me, he will thank you thrice fold in the end.

Let him watch what you’re doing down there Men in nature are very visual creatures. We like to watch sex, we like to see what’s going on down there, how it’s being performed, because the visual stimulus is important and will most likely help us reach orgasm quicker, and/or make it more intense.

Men in nature are very visual creatures. We like to watch sex, we like to see what’s going on down there, how it’s being performed, because the visual stimulus is important and will most likely help us reach orgasm quicker, and/or make it more intense.

Sometimes it’s about the bottom halfMasturbating the bottom half of the penis – closer to the stomach, while performing oral will cause more blood to enter the shaft, and make the penis larger; additionally this technique stimulates the release of more semen and increase the amount of ejaculate, improving the orgasm. While all this may not be of the utmost importance to the woman, men with their fragile egos will be greatly satisfied; virility is good for boys’ sense of self!

Get rid of the stigma Both men and women often feel self conscious about performing oral sex; they think it’s dirty or perhaps makes them feel sluttish. However if you are with a caring partner, oral sex can act as a great mechanism to exploration of one another and should always be about both of you, receiving and giving. If you get into it, he will most likely get into it as well and in turn return the favour. If you’re with someone new, it helps to ask a bit what turns them on, not everyone likes the same things, communication to a certain degree is key.

Both men and women often feel self conscious about performing oral sex; they think it’s dirty or perhaps makes them feel sluttish. However if you are with a caring partner, oral sex can act as a great mechanism to exploration of one another and should always be about both of you, receiving and giving. If you get into it, he will most likely get into it as well and in turn return the favour. If you’re with someone new, it helps to ask a bit what turns them on, not everyone likes the same things, communication to a certain degree is key.

And remember, if you are dissatisfied with the way your man, performs cunnilingus on you, tell him to stop watching Internet porn and instead listen to you. You’ll both be happier in the end. Tootles.
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