Comments on: What Men Want Most…A kick up the arse…. ;-) http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/what-men-want-mosta-kick-up-the-arse/ Self Esteem|Dating|Relationships|Emotional Unavailability|Commitment| Sat, 11 Feb 2012 16:33:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Veronica http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/what-men-want-mosta-kick-up-the-arse/comment-page-1/#comment-212400 Veronica Tue, 06 Jan 2009 00:20:36 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/what-men-want-mosta-kick-up-the-arse/#comment-212400 The bigger issue is why is the man so insecure that he feels like less of a man or king if the wife asks/states something more than once? I can see his point tho that it is better to be greeted with a compliment when first coming in the door than a complaint. The bigger issue is why is the man so insecure that he feels like less of a man or king if the wife asks/states something more than once? I can see his point tho that it is better to be greeted with a compliment when first coming in the door than a complaint.

]]> By: jennetic http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/what-men-want-mosta-kick-up-the-arse/comment-page-1/#comment-1624 jennetic Mon, 10 Jul 2006 18:20:51 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/what-men-want-mosta-kick-up-the-arse/#comment-1624 You could easily turn this around: women want to feel desired and loved; they want to feel like they are adequate contributors; they want to be queen of the castle. I don't think it's a big deal, and I don't think that helping to create these feels of love, adequacy, and control necessarily means that one has to be demeaned or make the other person the center of the universe. It takes communication and compromise on both sides to make it work, but overall I think working to make each person feel important and valued is a decent blueprint for keeping both people happy in a relationship. You could easily turn this around: women want to feel desired and loved; they want to feel like they are adequate contributors; they want to be queen of the castle. I don’t think it’s a big deal, and I don’t think that helping to create these feels of love, adequacy, and control necessarily means that one has to be demeaned or make the other person the center of the universe. It takes communication and compromise on both sides to make it work, but overall I think working to make each person feel important and valued is a decent blueprint for keeping both people happy in a relationship.

]]> By: Brad K. http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/what-men-want-mosta-kick-up-the-arse/comment-page-1/#comment-1610 Brad K. Wed, 05 Jul 2006 23:07:39 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/what-men-want-mosta-kick-up-the-arse/#comment-1610 Three responses. The Bible tells us the roles of man and woman in the Godly home. This is what our parents learned from our grandparents, and taught to us. Two: You're looking at things backward. A woman trades her chance at personal success for a chance to make a home for a man. In return for helping him reach his goals, she gets shelter for herself and children. To change, all she has to do is stop waiting for a guy to ask her to be his 'wife' in the Biblical definition of obey. Instead she needs to find some promising young man and ask him to share her home and her life. That she will keep and cherish him, and he will obey and care for her, and their children. Three: You are trying to change him again. Your complaints are all forms of 'why can'y he change to be nicer to me'. Solution: Put more work into picking the right guy. Network, let others help evaluate instead of selecting among volunteers. Three responses. The Bible tells us the roles of man and woman in the Godly home. This is what our parents learned from our grandparents, and taught to us.

Two: You’re looking at things backward. A woman trades her chance at personal success for a chance to make a home for a man. In return for helping him reach his goals, she gets shelter for herself and children.

To change, all she has to do is stop waiting for a guy to ask her to be his ‘wife’ in the Biblical definition of obey. Instead she needs to find some promising young man and ask him to share her home and her life. That she will keep and cherish him, and he will obey and care for her, and their children.

Three: You are trying to change him again. Your complaints are all forms of ‘why can’y he change to be nicer to me’. Solution: Put more work into picking the right guy. Network, let others help evaluate instead of selecting among volunteers.

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