wow… 3 mos and then he calls you?? Unbelievable. I do not even understand these guys. What could they possibly be thinking? I’m glad you were strong enough to not answer, and I’m not surprised he didn’t leave a msg. Typical! Mine used to do that too, so immature. I think you nailed it on the head with your thoughts on the reasons why he could be calling now. These guys really suck. I also agree with you, what could have changed in 3 mos that he now calls you up? And how do they explain their absense? “Oh gee, I forgot your #/ had amnesia / got abducted by aliens”? That’s why he didn’t leave a msg, because he had no good excuse to tell you! I think he was hoping you’d pick up so he could catch you with your defenses down and weasel and sweet talk his way back in.

Hooray for you for being strong! You are an inspiration to us all… Thank you for sharing your update.

37 days NC for me and counting. Looking forward to feeling better… any day now.

-he was divorced before – his wife left him (l wonder why….)
-he changed his words like wind
-he repeated the same old dump pattern like last time before
-he often liked to boast how he can get everything for free. Some examples how he -got away with it- in restaurant or in shop.
-constantly telling about HIS achievements or problems.
-keep reminding me, how popular smart and cool he is and how everyone else is just plain wrong

There was 2 person in the relationship, who both loved him, and his (sexual) needs, that was me and him.

But bottom line was – l remembered how l felt myself around his presence – l felt empty, unhappy, and unattractive. He made me cry, because l felt uncomfortablle of what he asked me to do many times to prove my love…Jesus… And now, thinking of all the red flags, l think its about HIM, not me. thats the way HE IS. he will continue making women unhappy, l just made bad move. Funnily enough, l predicted that l will suffer another decade of shoulda woulda coulda-s, but l could tell – seeing everything without the pink glasses l got healed within few weeks. Thanks to this blog.
I dont even need to be remainded of NC, cos no more l want to spend time in Indy-planet.)))how cool is that ))))
p.s. well, his mother thinks he is a saint…

i am safe (somewhat) and healthy according to the complete std panel i had taken. i am alone in this small town in which he has lots of friends and family. i am still shocked that i had THAT piece of trash up in my house and, pardon my bluntness, up in me as well. i sick up in my mouth now when i think of it. a pretty face and body. a sharp mind. and real manly skills all wasted on this man. his ego and delusions of grandeur know no bounds.
he said he wanted to “keep me.” stupid me thought that meant to love and make a home with, as he had also said. he wanted to keep me bamboozled until i was so much into him that i could not let go.

as i have said, the only recompense is that his use of me was brief–only five months. we didn’t hang out every day, as he said he wanted to take it slow. hey, i am all for slow. he told me he was with family in his spare time, helping his father and brothers build things and prep properties for living.
he was really out “partying” and gambling and whoring. eeek! i was so stupid and trusting. i don’t think i will be able to take someone’s word for it any more.

yes, it ended ugly. there is nothing more sobering than to watch a man hate rejection so much, and to have his REAL self brought into the light, that he would have me hurt, emotionally and physically. his words of love, his tender moments with me, were a game. i bet his time twisting MY mind was the most fun and satisfaction he had had in a long time. i know my worth. i am a cut above the rest, like we ladies here at this site are. for just a moment i forgot my worth. but it is as the boss lady of this site says (in paraphrase) “a man will treat you any ole’ way you let him.”

this was not how my first go at love was supposed to be after grieving for over four years after losing my husband. i have the shame of dishonoring my husband’s memory to contend with.

Outstanding. Truly outstanding. I love it! And never ever doubt yourself–you are on the right path.

PlanB–

That is a nice summary of how they act when you catch them working their evil–yes, evil–ways.

I truly think that they act like this because they were fooled once by a bad woman. So now that they have been bitten, they do the biting.

Also, these guys have ego and self-esteem issues. They don’t act like real men…AT ALL. Sad, really.

So how did it end? Probably ugly.

and what started it all was the fact he couldn’t stand to have a woman on this earth that didn’t want him nor find him THAT attractive. i was a challenge. not a person but a conquest.