The ex, unfortunately, works with me, albeit our company has 700 people and he is in a different department, and we do not overlap at all. He has been acting weird at the cafe for the past 2 weeks when I see him there (funny how he is ok when we are one on one, which i did only 3 itimes). Friday I actually saw him sitting alone and he was in my path as I was leaving. He did not see me approach, I took him by surprise. Weird he was sitting alone as he is usally with his department… He reacts nervously like I caught him doing something… he could not even respond. Then a woman sits down, she did have a nice smile, and all i said was “bon weekend” and left.

I was crushed, but I remember that:
- I did things as healthy as I could
- I shared who I was
- I cut the cord
- he was controlling, overtly, manipulative and frightened me at times

I know that he is only continuing his painful cycle. He never made any promises, said that he did not love me (even though I did). He was very clear from the beginning that he is the type to see how things go. I started ending it with him after 2 months, I admit he said he wanted to continue, yet he never invested. So to protect myself I travelled a lot to sever the cords…

(ok, maybe too much backgorund)..

the bottom line? it did hurt, yet briefly. i feel for this new woman, she will interpret his controlling behavior as kind and supportive. she will never know who he is, he is secretive, does not answer the hard questions, will not share who he is.