Thanks very much for enforcing a much needed boundary, and for setting up a social network forum in order for some of your website fans to have back and forth, personal, off topic conversations with each other, if that’s what they wish, without the rest of us having to feel like outsiders, eavesdropping on a private discussion between two people or a select few.

The social network forum is a highly appropriate and worthwhile move that will benefit some of the fans here, and its creation will help to free up the blog comments box to be used as it was intended to: which is to stay ON TOPIC according to the blog in question, adhering to the commenting guidelines.

Sweetie187 -x-

Butterfly-I see your point,yes geting involved in this is a form to stay invested on him.And I also think that Im not ready to keep constant contact with her right now.I need to be fully over him to be sure that I will be able to handle that without being sucked back on.So from now on I plan to leave it like that.I just thought was important to let her know how much I apreciated what she said and let clear why I havent been around but from now on no more emails.

That is a answer to Butterfly post on the other page but since there is closed for coments now I had to post it here.

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You’re right, this site is huge, and many people have been responded to and supported, even when they are “new” – and when I look over this very post and the comments, I see that anyone who has actually asked a question has had someone try to answer it (Carrie, bbylove, SlowlySurely), and I see no evidence of anyone being left out. Sometimes people just comment, and that’s fine, too, and I think maybe Sweetie’s post was interpreted as her just “wanting to comment”. Perhaps if she had asked a specific question, or, like you suggested, if the tone of her post had been different, she may have received the responses she seems to need.

It didn’t upset me, quite the opposite. What you need to look at is why you were motivated to post as you did, and how you are reacting. We are NOT the “main six” – this is a huge huge huge site, please read the other posts and replies. All the answers you can ever want are right here, but you have tobe prepared to look for them and not expect people here to validate you.

We’re not here to enable you to carry on self destructing. THAT would be cruel.

meant-Thank you for your response I guess I wont email her anymore then and just leave things like that.

I did not accuse or perceive anybody on here of being an “abuser”, Butterfly. Wow. I am gob-smacked.

And i will leave well alone now.

But i am sorry to have upset the clique. I should have kept my mouth shut because now i am looking like a villain. I have even been falsely accused of “wishing harm on others”! But i cannot see the evidence that backs up your accusation so that is very unfair.

I will bow out now and not make any further comment on this site.

From now on i will be a silent reader, least i upset anyone further.

Sorry.

But the evidence is clear to see. If you look back over this blog, you will see that there are six main “in-group” people who totally dominate. I’m sorry if my accurate obeservations has upset you.

@Meant – your situation sounds like mine with kids – “stoic” is a word I identify with.

I can’t believe how hung over I still am !!!!

I’m sorry – I just am not in a place to respond to you today, not in a tactful way which you will find supportive. I tend to say exactly what I think … your posts were very aggressive, both actively and passively, and much as we will all be willing to help you also have to take the time to think about what you say and how it might affect others who are feeling fragile. My actual advice is that first and foremost you should consider seeking some professional guidance for the distress you are in which is not immediately and directly caused by the situation.

By stating your case in a passive-aggressive way – and by accusing (I’m sorry but this IS the right word here) people of forming a clique which excludes you, you are excluding yourself and placing others into a position of being “abusers”. This isn’t the case in reality and you need to take stock of yourself before anything that is said here, by NML or anyone else will do anything but fuel the fires. In other words you need to be ready to “do the work” as opposed to wishing harm on others which is what came out from your earlier posts.

I hope this doesn’t cast me as a bitch: nothing could be further from the truth.

This is not an exclusive club, all are welcome to post and receive support, and I personally try to respond to any new person who does not yet have a response from someone else, as I hate people to feel left out.

So, tell me, which post of NML’s did you first post on?