Why Being Single is Better Than Being Married
March 3, 2006 by Virginia Belle
…….(and why I think I’ll stay this way)
#1 – Freedom. You are allowed to go where you want, with who you want, whenever you want. If you want to drive to another city at the very last minute to see a band play, you don’t have to ask. If you want to party on a tour bus till 5am, you don’t have to explain yourself. If you want to go to dinner with your ex and not come home till 11pm, no one gets to wonder where you’ve been. If your text alert goes off at 3am, no one wants to know who’s thinking about you in the middle of the night. It’s like the ultimate stress free zone.
#2 – Finances. When you’re married, the money you make belongs to each other. You have a joint checking account. He gets mad when you shop too much. You get mad about the new plasma television and surround sound speakers. He wants to know what you’re doing with the money he’s giving you, and you want to know who he thinks keeps the electricity, water, and cable pumping into the house. When you’re single, it’s all yours. You can buy a plane ticket to Idaho, a camp site in Stephenville, and hundred dollar tickets to Fall Out Boy without running it by anyone. If you walk by Neiman’s and see the prettiest pair of Manolo’s you’ve ever laid eyes on, you can charge them without having to explain to your spouse that you chose shoes over heat and food. It may not make you smarter or more financially responsible, but it’s a hell of a lot more fun!
#3 – Variety. Now this may seem to be a given, but it’s kind of my favourite part of singledom. I can date whoever I want. I can date a tattooed artist one week and a lawyer the next. I can spend two months with an intellectual engineer and 3 days with a sexy musician. I can stop dating anyone and spend time with my girls. Better yet, I can spend all the time I want with myself. Nothing is planned out. Nothing is required of me. Every day is different that the next if I want it to be. When the weather or my mood changes, who I surround myself with can change as well. It’s a beautiful thing.
#4 – No fear of infidelity. I don’t have to worry about someone cheating on me. I don’t have to worry about cheating on anyone else. I can watch married men waltz around ball rooms and bar rooms, hitting on every pretty young thing they can find, and I can feel a bit sad for the woman at home. No one can watch me waltz around ball rooms and bar rooms and feel anything but envy at the fact that I am in no way limited. I don’t have to wonder where my partner is, who he’s talking to, whose bed he’s in. I don’t have to worry that saying the wrong thing or giving the wrong look will cause someone to run and tell my significant other of my “indiscretions.” Again, it’s a beautiful thing.
#5 – A breakup will always be cheaper than a divorce. When my relationships go bad, I can simply walk away. When I realise that although I may love who I’m with, I’m no longer IN love with him, I just have to break it to him. If my lover leaves me for a younger, firmer thing, he can just go. If we are so bored with our lives that the only thing to do is buy a recliner and a fat cat, we can escape before it’s too late. I don’t have to call my lawyer, divide my friends and belongings, or find a new place to live. I don’t have to worry about changing the names on my checks, my mail, and my driver’s license. I don’t have to worry about his credit affecting my ability to buy something later in life. I am free and clear to walk on and live my own life.
I am realising more and more how lucky I am to not only be single, but to be fabulously single. I think I’ll stay this way for a good long while, at least until there’s a great sale on recliners and cats.
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