Comments on: Why don’t men call after a great date?

By: Marisa

Marisa — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 00:58:51 +0000

Dear Andrea,

You are right about that too!
I have been through a lot of that!
When they see me at first they go crazy! 99% of the guys who I meet for the first time go crazy, they get all happy and excited, than they pull back after 2 or 3 dates, or they never call me after the first date.
They find me very attractive and I am kind, polite, well dressed, always smell good and I don’t order the most expensive dish on the menu. I also don’t drink a lot; if I go out for drink I have just one drink.
I have to agree with you.

By: Vic

Vic — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 21:45:11 +0000

I experienced the ‘Let’s be friends!’ email after a first meeting recently; it was a shame because I really enjoyed the day and his company (he was just my type), and I thought he had too. However, I tried hard to think about what it would have been like for me if he hadn’t have been my type, and if he had been the keen one – and concluded that I would probably have done the same thing.

It’s definitely just best to let these things go, however disappointing the prospect.

By: ssg72

ssg72 — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 07:16:16 +0000

I had the weirdest experience. It seemed to go really well, and HE kept talking about the next time. I was supposed to lend him a book, but he was on his bike and couldn’t carry it, so he said, it’s his excuse to see me again. I NEVER heard from him again. Actually, that’s not entirely true. He did call me back and I was very encouraged. But it turned out that he had inadvertently left his eyeglass case in my purse (he asked me to hold it for him, and we both forgot about it). When he realized I must still have it, he called me, and met me just to pick it up. That was the last time I saw or heard from him. I’m not losing any sleep over it– I just chalk it up to him being kind of weird, but it was one of the more baffling experiences I’ve had in a while. I can’t make any sense of it whatsoever.

By: Jen

Jen — Wed, 21 Nov 2007 17:06:58 +0000

cheekie1969 I also have got the same problem recentlyI went out on a first date on halloween to the cinema, I thought we had a good time however nerves turned into little miss chatterbox lol he initiated second date which was at my place with a film and wine! I had a lovely time however there was no hug or kiss or anything! It’s a confusing one cos he works odd shifts! It would be nice if there was a 3rd date! If I don’t hear mention of it in another week I’ll take it as a no lol

By: Trixie

Trixie — Sat, 10 Nov 2007 09:44:48 +0000

It’s the “polite” thingy that bothers me most. Why can’t you just be honest and mean what you say, as in “Thanks for the nice date, but I’m not that interested”?
Went on that date with a guy a week ago: it wasn’t sparks, but it was good. We actually watched two movies, plus drinks and food. The usual talk, “I had a great time, let’s do it again sometime” – never heard from him again. I will neither call nor txt him, since I already initiated the first date, but will probably send him a polite email saying that “although I really had a great time, I’d like to leave it at that.”

By: julie

julie — Sun, 28 Oct 2007 08:05:26 +0000

I had a pretty bad date yesterday. I really like this guy but somehow it didn’t take off. We were struggling to communicate and I think I came across as boring and not having a sense of humour. I also think I overstayed my welcome as I forgot the time while we were having a drink and he had to gently remind me he was late for his next appointment (which I knew about before). Before we parted he said it would be nice to meet up again but I wonder if he was just being polite?

If a girl doesn’t make a graceful exit and keep the guy wanting more, what are the chances he would actually want to see her again? Should I drop him a thank you email or would that seem desperate?

By: cheekie1969

cheekie1969 — Sun, 14 Oct 2007 23:00:24 +0000

Hmmm, interesting post! True too.
Seems that date one isn’t an issue, but date two seems to be the confusing one.
Lets say that you BOTH have a great time first time out, he DOES call and you do go out again. Seems that date two is the one most guys never call again after.
At least for me. Seems to be the clincher. Once the nerves have worn off after the first date, the second one lets you show who you really are a bit more.
So what does that say when they don’t call after that?
That it just isn’t there, and yes, be grateful that you haven’t let yourself get all caught up in something that wasn’t right. Could be a blessing in disguise cause guys are just of guilty of dating because they are lonely as we are.
Easy to mistake need for someone/anyone for connection sometimes…especially in these shark filled dating waters in big cities…

I am lucky, most of the guys I had one or two dates with are now my friends.
Just because you don’t connect in a couple way doesn’t mean you can’t end up with a good friend! Even if you have slept together (see the reasons regarding loneliness)…So hey, nothing ventured nothing gained.

But it is disappointing, that’s for damn sure….

By: Seven

Seven — Sat, 13 Oct 2007 23:12:28 +0000

Nevertheless, the still look like jerks when they don’t call

By: Audrey

Audrey — Wed, 10 Oct 2007 12:33:53 +0000

Hello… I think sometimes the dates are great and the dude freaks out. Now this could mean he is afraid you may find out he is not as cool as he came acros, a committment phobe, unavailable one or it could mean he is in something and is testing waters. Watch for those. They are usually unhappy in their thing and you don’t want to be rebound girl or girl on side! Also, I have had 2 dudes come to me after a month and tell me how great our date was but they thought I wasn’t interested cause I didn’t call them…At this point I HAD lost interest. So it is all a, pardon my french, a crap shoot when it comes to connecting. And men say women are complicated

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